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PrinceDreamer · 10-05-2008, 02:54 AM

I have 2 boys aged 8 & 10 and i can count on 1 hand the number of times i have had to spank either of them, I am lucky in that i have a deep voice which booms if i shout, this is generally enough to freeze them in their tracks and stop any misbehaving. The relationship i have with them is close and loving and they trust me completely. They know if i start t shout they have crossed the line.

I found being firm is the key, if you tell a child NO but tehn grow weak and allow them to continue, you set a pattern. I always made sure my kids did exactly as i told them, even if i had to stand over them and make them do it. And it worked well. On the very few occasions I have physically punished my children, it has been because what they were doing was dangerous.

There is a difference between a mild physical rebuke and beating a child as punishment, you only have to look in nature to see this, for example if a lion cub is misbehaving its mother will often give it a little nip to calm it down which works, or a roar from dad has the same effect. These animals are not cruel to their offspring, in fact they on the whole make good parents.

But cruelty to children does exist, and mental abuse also, and some ppl don't know where to draw the line. The biggest issue is the capability of the parent, the character and disposition of the child, some children are near uncontrollable because of character or upbringing, and some parents just don't have a clue.

There has to be a balance, hitting a child (and yes spanking is hitting) for continually doing something that is dangerous to themselves or others, as a way to say this kind of behavior is bad and will cause you pain, is to me ok. to beat a child because they refuse to eat dinner or spill a drink is another.

10-05-2008, 02:54 AM	#99 (permalink)
PrinceDreamer YaHookan Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Stonedville UK Posts: 29 Thanks: 8 Thanked 5 Times in 4 Posts	I have 2 boys aged 8 & 10 and i can count on 1 hand the number of times i have had to spank either of them, I am lucky in that i have a deep voice which booms if i shout, this is generally enough to freeze them in their tracks and stop any misbehaving. The relationship i have with them is close and loving and they trust me completely. They know if i start t shout they have crossed the line. I found being firm is the key, if you tell a child NO but tehn grow weak and allow them to continue, you set a pattern. I always made sure my kids did exactly as i told them, even if i had to stand over them and make them do it. And it worked well. On the very few occasions I have physically punished my children, it has been because what they were doing was dangerous. There is a difference between a mild physical rebuke and beating a child as punishment, you only have to look in nature to see this, for example if a lion cub is misbehaving its mother will often give it a little nip to calm it down which works, or a roar from dad has the same effect. These animals are not cruel to their offspring, in fact they on the whole make good parents. But cruelty to children does exist, and mental abuse also, and some ppl don't know where to draw the line. The biggest issue is the capability of the parent, the character and disposition of the child, some children are near uncontrollable because of character or upbringing, and some parents just don't have a clue. There has to be a balance, hitting a child (and yes spanking is hitting) for continually doing something that is dangerous to themselves or others, as a way to say this kind of behavior is bad and will cause you pain, is to me ok. to beat a child because they refuse to eat dinner or spill a drink is another. __________________ People will forget what you said. People will forget what you did. But people will never forget how you made them feel.