yep, objectivity does exist, but as everything else it exists as an idea, a belief, that one can align with or not. that idea might be objective, but the nature of our perception and the basic function of how we work is in a subjective manner. we all relate to ideas/concepts/beliefs differently. and that is where we create conflict, because we think that we must all relate to these ideas the same way, or we all must see life the same way. while i do believe that we are all connected, and consciousness is one united "thing" in the end, this is certainly how it not appears to us. i refer to this contradiction or paradox as "playing the game." we are right now in the game and while your playing the game you have to totally immerse yourself in it so that you wont know its a game. i think consciousness does this naturally, i think right now we are playing a game and we're not aware that its just a game. and behind every game there exists a framework of guidelines or rules that you must agree to to play the game. our rules are stuff like gravity, matter, mass, time, etc. while we're playing the game we're too immersed to realize these are just our rules we've created arbitrarily for our game.
so we create alot of conflict that way, we take the game too seriously and we create conflict over not realizing...we're just playing a part. theres plenty of stuff for us to agree on, sure, we both see reality in pretty similar ways. but theres also alot of stuff to disagree on. these are what preferences are. you like apples i like oranges. and thats fine, theres no reason to create conflict until one of us takes ourselves so seriously that we start saying "apples are the only good food!" and stuff like that.
in essence what it comes down to is being aware of your preferences, knowing what you want, and just allowing other people what they want. the more you focus on what you want and less on other people, the less conflict you create. but here we get into beliefs concerning selfishness and what is and what isnt appropriate as far as focusing on yourself goes. we ambush ourselves and say that its bad to be selfish and its bad to worry about yourself and focus on yourself...but in actuality thats all you can really do in life. conflict is created when you focus outside of yourself, when you're focused on other peoples beliefs or expectations or behavior. so we'll say its bad to be selfish and then we'll spend our time worrying about other peoples wants and expectations and behavior when the easiest way to cease conflict is to just focus on yourself and what you really want.
imo.
