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Originally Posted by reverie
Recognizing a threat, and resistance to act are common themes here.
Awareness has a lot to do with this as well. The one more is aware of possible dangers, the more one has the potential of fearing. It's kind of like a dance though.. between awareness and not fully comprehending all the various possibilities. When you fear you are only being aware of some possibilities that arise form any so called danger. The resistance of action comes from this limited perspective. Because if you were fully comprehensive of all the possibilities of the moment, there would be much less to fear.
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that's one interpretation. there could also be a recognition of one's inherent inability to arrange his or her exposure to these potentials, to make peace with that fact and simply go with the flow. fear is helpful to us in times of distress where our survival is threatened, but so much of our experience with fear is self-generated in the way you're describing. in my experience this application has only served to detract from my quality of life.
when i was a child my parents divorced. this taught me that even the most unimaginable thing -- losing your mother -- was possible. in the years following, i spent nearly every moment away from my parents (my dad remarried) in a crippling fear that i simply learned to deal with. would they get in a car wreck? would a tornado come whisk them away? could there be a fire? all of these things are possibilities, and to be honest now that i have a family of my own i catch myself falling into that crippling mode of thought every now and again. but possibility is not actuality. and even being aware of all potentials, i lack the capacity to prevent the potentials i fear.
worrying like this is a tragedy of the highest order. it's like taking a life of leisure which you have every right and reason to enjoy and transforming it into a constant mindfuck. i could say it's cheating yourself out of comfort, but maybe we have to learn how to be comfortable. i really believe a lot of the misdirection of our feelings can be traced back to our experiences as an infant and very early childhood. not due to our parenting, but due simply to the mechanic of being comforted and relieved of comfort: an inescapable aspect of our reality we all come to grips with.
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Originally Posted by reverie
Fear is the crippling reaction one experiences when they skip beyond actuality of the present-tense.
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do you mean to say projecting their feelings upon or channeling feelings from something they are not experiencing physically? i'd say i agree. and that's what's interesting. . . this same mechanic can be used for the positive integration of our feelings with our experiences, hopes and fears. we are, afterall, a relentlessly fickle bunch.
