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Originally Posted by verklingen
that's one interpretation. there could also be a recognition of one's inherent inability to arrange his or her exposure to these potentials, to make peace with that fact and simply go with the flow. fear is helpful to us in times of distress where our survival is threatened, but so much of our experience with fear is self-generated in the way you're describing. in my experience this application has only served to detract from my quality of life.
when i was a child my parents divorced. this taught me that even the most unimaginable thing -- losing your mother -- was possible. in the years following, i spent nearly every moment away from my parents (my dad remarried) in a crippling fear that i simply learned to deal with. would they get in a car wreck? would a tornado come whisk them away? could there be a fire? all of these things are possibilities, and to be honest now that i have a family of my own i catch myself falling into that crippling mode of thought every now and again. but possibility is not actuality. and even being aware of all potentials, i lack the capacity to prevent the potentials i fear.
worrying like this is a tragedy of the highest order. it's like taking a life of leisure which you have every right and reason to enjoy and transforming it into a constant mindfuck. i could say it's cheating yourself out of comfort, but maybe we have to learn how to be comfortable. i really believe a lot of the misdirection of our feelings can be traced back to our experiences as an infant and very early childhood. not due to our parenting, but due simply to the mechanic of being comforted and relieved of comfort: an inescapable aspect of our reality we all come to grips with.
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I must emphasize that what I entailed was the most reduced version of the concept as possible. I would agree with you that fear also entails not being able to influence one's reality. I would say that that specific issue could be accounted for what I explained as "awareness". This awareness is something that comes from our conditioning. The realization of inability stems from trial and error or ones exposure to specific situations. All these factors play together, and to the degree of their effect is dependent on the personal composition of the individual.
The feeling of inability is probably one of the most reasonable reaction to the reaction of fear there is. For it includes a healthy dose of reality and relativity of other possibilities. However, it still can be limited by focusing too much on a certain type of possibility. It then becomes parasitic in regards to initiating action.
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do you mean to say projecting their feelings upon or channeling feelings from something they are not experiencing physically? i'd say i agree. and that's what's interesting. . . this same mechanic can be used for the positive integration of our feelings with our experiences, hopes and fears. we are, after all, a relentlessly fickle bunch
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Yeah, pretty much anything that they are not experiencing at that moment, physical or not (because we stoners know how experience can extend beyond the physical. Ie: the mental mindscape.).
It definitely is an occurrence that can also account for our desires and really anything else that can be realized through possibility. It makes you wonder how unique specific experiences are, when they follow very similar basic motivations. Where is the individuality we pide ourselves so much upon? Lol, fickle indeed.
