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Originally Posted by pravakar
So it's not a huge problem but I figured advice wouldn't hurt.
I'm having problems finding girls. Girls here on campus are either not interested in me, I'm not interested in them, or way too closed to talk to. Being in boarding school, it's hard for me to know many girls from my actual home because I was hardly ever there. And when I actually do date someone, they crush my heart in one way or another for all kinds of crazy reasons and I'm sick of getting hurt. Any advice on what I should do?
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stop trying to get into relationships and focus more on dating. a relationship is something that should just happen from dating.... (by dating i just mean meeting women & hanging out with them)
meeting women is easy when you stop caring about what people think of you.. actually, a lot of things in your life will get better when you stop caring what people think...
just say 'hi' to every single good looking girl you see.. hell, say it to the ones that aren't even that good looking just for fun & practice... then go in and start bullshitting with them, make a joke, blahblahblah and then by the end of the convo get their number... just keep doing it over and over again until it feels completely natural and you can do it with your eyes closed... don't 'hit on' them.. don't call them beautiful or anything like that, in fact, depending on the girls self esteem, you should even do the opposite and try to take them down a notch to lower their defenses... once you have the number, remember to let them come to you, never buy them gifts or do any stupid shit like that to try to get them to like you, and always make sure they know that they are just 1 in a million and if they don't like you, it doesn't matter because there's 999 etc more of them out there that will talk to and like you