Thank you! That bees symbolize immortality makes a great deal of sense in context because my mother told me that when the liquid was all drunk up, they would refill it. The drums also seemed more significant to me than the info. that I found told as I associate drums with ceremony and spirit and the Red Path. I never thought of the four generations as the four directions. My grandmother's presence was also very important and a call to my ancestors (this is not the Native side of my family b/t/w so I think the 'matriarchal' part of it is also important).
There was one other thing. My drum sounded more dull than the others. I messed with it to try to get it to ring out but there was a muffled 'thud' sound.
Thanks so much
Wo do!