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Originally Posted by my_scatterheart
Do yourself a favor Spanky and don't subscribe to some bullshit "she's not special or unique, this is just an opportunity to get laid." It's a lame way to think, and it will serve to turn you into a prick down the road. You seem like a sweet kid.
Get laid a couple times "capitalizing" on this chick, or get laid a lot by diggin on who she is and having a relationship? Have fun either way you go with it
If you like her, go for it, you guys'll probably have a great time. You'll kick yourself in the ass if you don't at least try to ask her out if you actually dig the chick.
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from my experience people who think that 'oh man i want to be with her so bad' (and having not even hooked up with her) are frustrated chumps who have trouble meeting women and getting laid, cling to one that will pay them some attention, get feelings for them, occasionally 'get lucky' with one - but only for a short time till she realizes the kind of person he really is and then dumps him and the cycle continues. i think you would have trouble really disagreeing with this.
you shouldn't ever think 'i want to be in a relationship with this girl that i've never even hooked up with once'... you're straight up setting yourself up for failure. *especially* with a girl on the rebound - she will straight up use you to get over her ex and then as soon as she feels ok /meets someone better she'll get rid of you in a hearbeat (guys do the same thing too though; it's just less common)
instead, you should go in thinking its just another lay, and only look for a relationship when it 'happens' and you know her better, and, IMO trust her. no one can control how they feel about / like someone, and the best way to prevent yourself from getting fucked is to be defensive with your feelings
was that good enough for you scatter??
edit: i personally subscribe to the fact that unless shes your're wife, this bitch isnt better for much more then having fun with
haha sorry, i couldn't hold everything back