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Cerpin Taxt · 05-18-2009, 07:56 AM

I am somewhat in the same position with a girl I've known for years. We've always had an underlying connection, but that was first established when she was going out with a good friend of mine. I never showed my feelings when they were going out, and always helped my buddy when I could when things with him and her got rough.

That was almost 3 years ago now though, and since then they've split and she's gone out with a complete douche for the past 2 years (and I went out with a different girl for 1 year).... but they just broke up last weekend.

I've been compelled to see her and let her know how I really feel and whatnot (even though part of me feels she already knows)... but at the same time, I have done nothing of the sort to pressure her or make her feel I am trying to capitalize on her current situation. I simply let her know that if she ever needed someone to talk to, I'd be there.

I'm looking for something serious with this girl, if anything, and I am not the type of guy to squander that by rushing into things. Rushing things with a girl who's only a week out of a 2 year relationship (no matter how shitty it may have been at times) simply makes no sense for my situation. I respect her feelings and understand that a relationship that's gone on for that long isn't forgotten overnight, just as I'm sure she understands the same.

Patience is self-suffering... but no matter what the risk of my course of action, the far-reaching potential of it far outweighs any reasoning for me to act otherwise.

05-18-2009, 07:56 AM	#15 (permalink)
Cerpin Taxt Yahookan Zealot Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 7,220 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 838 Thanked 1,866 Times in 995 Posts	I am somewhat in the same position with a girl I've known for years. We've always had an underlying connection, but that was first established when she was going out with a good friend of mine. I never showed my feelings when they were going out, and always helped my buddy when I could when things with him and her got rough. That was almost 3 years ago now though, and since then they've split and she's gone out with a complete douche for the past 2 years (and I went out with a different girl for 1 year).... but they just broke up last weekend. I've been compelled to see her and let her know how I really feel and whatnot (even though part of me feels she already knows)... but at the same time, I have done nothing of the sort to pressure her or make her feel I am trying to capitalize on her current situation. I simply let her know that if she ever needed someone to talk to, I'd be there. I'm looking for something serious with this girl, if anything, and I am not the type of guy to squander that by rushing into things. Rushing things with a girl who's only a week out of a 2 year relationship (no matter how shitty it may have been at times) simply makes no sense for my situation. I respect her feelings and understand that a relationship that's gone on for that long isn't forgotten overnight, just as I'm sure she understands the same. Patience is self-suffering... but no matter what the risk of my course of action, the far-reaching potential of it far outweighs any reasoning for me to act otherwise. __________________ Step Back. Evaluate. Recognize. "The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive. To put it more accurately, it is not so much that you use your mind wrongly—you usually don't use it at all. It uses you." -Eckhart Tolle -If you try to destroy him to save them, they'll destroy you to save him- Last edited by Cerpin Taxt; 05-18-2009 at 08:06 AM.