Canuck Wisdom

Hey guys. So I would like to ask you for your thoughts on the potential difference between someone being a 'significant other' and a friend.

First, through out notions that may have traditionally been social indicators of the difference, such as sexual partner. What I mean is, you could do anything with this friend that you could do with this partner. Move in together, have sex, eat dinner, raise children whatever.

So you could argue that a significant other or partner is just a really good friend, but that's not really what I am looking for. In MY opinion, there is a difference, and it may just be mental, an assigning of value or willingness to open up with one particular person, but it may be more than just mental too.

So, what makes the difference, in your perspective, between a friend (who you could do anything with) and a special partner (who you could do any same thing with)?

I think for me it is mostly a feeling, an assignment of value. Labeling someone outside of myself with something I have decided I want, or designated as special within myself. I am not sure why I have that. If its biological, some sort of higher spiritual thing, or just a mental construct from environmental influences on my thoughts, but I have a tendency to want to designate someone as a partner in a different way than a friend is, or someone I have slept with is.

I know it comes from within me too, because if I am with that someone, they are just that outside person and I know its inside me that makes them different from other outside people, but, when they are gone, the memory of them (which is all they are outside of direct experience) is tied into this inside notion and in a way can become more meaningful when they are not there... sort of, ya' know?

Thoughts?

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