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Old 05-25-2009, 03:22 AM   #7 (permalink)
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the difference, to me, between a friend and a lover is:

a friendship is usually based on mutual interests and the act of reinforcing opinions and behaviors. IE: we hang out to do what we love with someone who loves it just as much.

a relationship is usually based on the interest of the person as a person...IE: we hang out because I want to get to know HIM/HER more...this can mean doing something we both love, but it also means doing something you don't like but can find enjoyment in because your partner is.

The line is so thin though that I had to really think about this for a long time. My best friend is always the person I'm romantically involved with. Sexuality tends to create a VERY strong bond of trust and acceptance which is the foundation of any sort of interpersonal relationship...so in a lot of ways friendships ARE a form of "relationship."
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