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**SageTree** · 08-03-2009, 12:05 AM

I am sorry to hear about your situation. I have had to make that hard call myself and can really empathize with that. For me leaving a long time girl friend resulted in me finding my wife, my best friend and lover.

However I don't want to be hasty here....

I am interested in your thoughts that you will be back with her again. Do you believe that or is that sorta just a safty net for the mind right now.

With all respect, that is okay, I'm just asking, because if you really do then I'd like to ask this.

What would your relationship look like when you get back together in the future?
What living do you perceive will be done, and you will be happy/satisfied?

If you feel like you want to 'live it up' alittle, I am guessing you'll be asked or end up saying some things to her about what you wish you could do. So what could be lost by just leaving it open as 'these are some things I really feel like I need to do to become a more fully aware person, to be my best for you. Again assuming you truely intend to reunite. Honour that feeling of still loving. Total honesty with pure intention to love is good. It doesn't mean it will be smooth and I don't know the whole angle/spin/explaination/ect you are going to enter this. I'm only saying if you still love this person, then don't be afraid to put your faith in this person understanding you. She might just say okay.

Some one once said to me that real love is choosing. Choosing to stay and put faith in talking it out. Protecting people with what we think is best will only lead to further cracks. If something is ending or changing, try not to be afraid to just lay out the needs or concerns, with out burning bridges. She might also have some things to say, and you setting this bar of talking could bring her to a comfortable spot where you will both be able to talk.

Worry and wait is always harder that just doing it and starting the process of adaption. So I wish you the courage to approach this with honesty love and caring compassion for her and yourself. You are both just two people trying to find happiness and not suffer. This is simple. Keep that in mind and speaking wisely will come naturally.

Just know that what ever happens you have it with in you to move forward to a good place, maybe where you can see it has always been inside you. It's hard to know what it right. Trust your heart.

Again sorry you are standing at a cross road, with heavy things on your mind.

Thanks for letting me talk that out and thanks for the gift of speaking to us about your problem. You really didn't ask for anything from us, so thanks for listening to me do what I felt was good. And I'm sorry if I made any wrong assumptions or placed too strong a feeling with my words, on your emotions.

Much love and inspiration.

In loving kindness,
SageTree

08-03-2009, 12:05 AM	#4 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 22,589 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 11,474 Thanked 5,704 Times in 4,020 Posts	I am sorry to hear about your situation. I have had to make that hard call myself and can really empathize with that. For me leaving a long time girl friend resulted in me finding my wife, my best friend and lover. However I don't want to be hasty here.... I am interested in your thoughts that you will be back with her again. Do you believe that or is that sorta just a safty net for the mind right now. With all respect, that is okay, I'm just asking, because if you really do then I'd like to ask this. What would your relationship look like when you get back together in the future? What living do you perceive will be done, and you will be happy/satisfied? If you feel like you want to 'live it up' alittle, I am guessing you'll be asked or end up saying some things to her about what you wish you could do. So what could be lost by just leaving it open as 'these are some things I really feel like I need to do to become a more fully aware person, to be my best for you. Again assuming you truely intend to reunite. Honour that feeling of still loving. Total honesty with pure intention to love is good. It doesn't mean it will be smooth and I don't know the whole angle/spin/explaination/ect you are going to enter this. I'm only saying if you still love this person, then don't be afraid to put your faith in this person understanding you. She might just say okay. Some one once said to me that real love is choosing. Choosing to stay and put faith in talking it out. Protecting people with what we think is best will only lead to further cracks. If something is ending or changing, try not to be afraid to just lay out the needs or concerns, with out burning bridges. She might also have some things to say, and you setting this bar of talking could bring her to a comfortable spot where you will both be able to talk. Worry and wait is always harder that just doing it and starting the process of adaption. So I wish you the courage to approach this with honesty love and caring compassion for her and yourself. You are both just two people trying to find happiness and not suffer. This is simple. Keep that in mind and speaking wisely will come naturally. Just know that what ever happens you have it with in you to move forward to a good place, maybe where you can see it has always been inside you. It's hard to know what it right. Trust your heart. Again sorry you are standing at a cross road, with heavy things on your mind. Thanks for letting me talk that out and thanks for the gift of speaking to us about your problem. You really didn't ask for anything from us, so thanks for listening to me do what I felt was good. And I'm sorry if I made any wrong assumptions or placed too strong a feeling with my words, on your emotions. Much love and inspiration. In loving kindness, SageTree __________________ YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance. "We're not here to judge what's good from bad, But to do the things that are right."