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howdy yahooka ...

ever since i've known my girlfriend, she has always told me about her mothers drug problems. since i've known her, i've known her mother to be addicted to cocaine, meth, and most recently pharmaceuticals. i would occasionally hear crazy stories from my girlfirend (who is completely normal and only smokes once in a blue moon with me) about what her mother is up too ... not being able to carry her end of the family businees (which has caused financial chaos ... the money is there, she just can't sit down for a couple hours a day and pay the bills) starting fights, throwing stuff, threatening violence. she can't carry a conversation for more than 30 seconds, falling asleep (somas, vics, oc, xanax, seroquel)

it had become more and more intense over time, and the in the past month she has been getting pretty violent. last night was the big boom. they sat her down and told her that she needed to seek treatment (this isn't the first time). like every other time, she brushed it off and said she was okay. the family is tired of her actions and insisted that she seek some kind of treatment. she flipped the fuck out and started getting violent again, to which her family responded by flushing her stash of pills (which may or may not have been the best idea).

at this point she's throwing shit at her husband and biting my girlfiend and her sister, and she cuts her hand on some pop can she was tossing at her husband. must have been a good one because when i got there, there was blood all over the place. my girlfriend got her locked in the bathroom until police arrived, and she was shouting things at her like "i wish you were never born, you were a mistake ... what are you going to do for the rest of your life, you're a loser" and the mac daddy of everything she said that night "i'm going to kill all of you" ... there are lots of guns at the house.

the police were called, and the family decided not to press domestic violence charges. they're all fighting out in the street, until her brother's g/f shows up (who i later find out is her main enabler) and starts yelling at the cops. things calm down a bit and she goes to spend the night at her mothers, but ends up leaving there and no one knows where she is.

now, i'm sitting here without a clue of what to do in this situation. all i've done at this point is tried to console her, and just always be there. when she starts to talk about it with me, i'm almost speechless. i cannot relate to the situation or even being to imagine the pain she's going through, so i generally fall silent. is there any thing else I can do to make her feel just a little bit better? as cheesy as it sounds, she's been asking for a puppy for a few months and i'm searching for the right one, but i know that's only a band aid on a chainsaw wound, and i don't want it to seem like the only way i know how to make her feel better is by buying her things.

she asks me what i think is going to happen to her family after this, and all these other questions that i really can't answer.

help?

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