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Mydriasis · 08-04-2009, 08:32 AM

Sage-tree is right. You can't fight this for her.

However, if you love her and you believe there is possible danger, do whatever you can realisticly to insure she is safe. I don't know her mother, but I do know drug addicts pretty well.

I doubt she is actually going to kill her family, however your g/f should make sure all the guns are kept somewere secure maybe even get new gun locks for them. Some people just have such a reality shock when their all jacked up and hearing that they have a problem with substances. So they want to scare off anything that could help them change.

Her mother may never get completely sober, but I really do hope that she becomes stable.

As for buying her a puppy, I don't think that's quite an adequate response right now. It might be awe and cutesy for a day but that just adds more responsibility for another life she has to take care of down the road.

If there was one thing you could do with her, IMO it would be give her pleasant distractions, and help her around the house or do other chores. Even if it's just visiting her at work and bringing her lunch or something. She needs to know that your not scared off, and that your there to help in whatever way you can. Make sure she can talk to you whenever she needs but don't loom over her with that information, just next time you see her be like "I know things are hard right now but you can talk to me whenever you want about anything.".

Also don't seek counseling from friends whom she knows. I'm sure the last thing she wants is your guys's friends talking about it when shes not around, that hurts.

Much love to you and your g/f's family. Addictions can ruin a lot of things, trust me.

08-04-2009, 08:32 AM	#3 (permalink)
Mydriasis Do Not Resuscitate Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 1,293 Thanks: 840 Thanked 431 Times in 298 Posts	Sage-tree is right. You can't fight this for her. However, if you love her and you believe there is possible danger, do whatever you can realisticly to insure she is safe. I don't know her mother, but I do know drug addicts pretty well. I doubt she is actually going to kill her family, however your g/f should make sure all the guns are kept somewere secure maybe even get new gun locks for them. Some people just have such a reality shock when their all jacked up and hearing that they have a problem with substances. So they want to scare off anything that could help them change. Her mother may never get completely sober, but I really do hope that she becomes stable. As for buying her a puppy, I don't think that's quite an adequate response right now. It might be awe and cutesy for a day but that just adds more responsibility for another life she has to take care of down the road. If there was one thing you could do with her, IMO it would be give her pleasant distractions, and help her around the house or do other chores. Even if it's just visiting her at work and bringing her lunch or something. She needs to know that your not scared off, and that your there to help in whatever way you can. Make sure she can talk to you whenever she needs but don't loom over her with that information, just next time you see her be like "I know things are hard right now but you can talk to me whenever you want about anything.". Also don't seek counseling from friends whom she knows. I'm sure the last thing she wants is your guys's friends talking about it when shes not around, that hurts. Much love to you and your g/f's family. Addictions can ruin a lot of things, trust me. __________________ ۞ Last edited by Mydriasis; 08-04-2009 at 08:35 AM.