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Originally Posted by Parallax
its such bullshit how i'm even in this situation, i really don't mind giving my parents money once in a while to help, but the way i'm being made to do it is unreasonable: having my mail opened by someone other than me and then demanding that i pay up whatever my tax return was (since he did the tax return for me he says he should get it, but never discussed with me before hand that he was going to demand money from me, or told me to do it myself). other than food i pay for all my expenses, never once did they ask for money and now i'm suddenly a freeloader after i tell him that he has no right to open my mail. wtf
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i dont know what your relationship is with your parents, but from my experience and everyone i know its completely normal to butt heads with your parents and have these sort of disagreements and "invasions of privacy" such as the mail opening incident. i dont know what led up to it but perhaps he decided that you arent "pulling your weight" around the house. are you respectful? do you help around the house? wash dishes? mow lawn, etc etc? even these seemingly small things around the house show your parents that you want to help around the house and help to build a respectful healthy relationship. cook dinner for your family once in a while, eat together and talk without argueing. living at home shouldnt feel like living with a dictator unless your parents are awful people (which they probably arent)
your father is probably just worrying or frustrated about your transition into a responsible adult. the way he went about it was wrong, but if he is reasonable he will most likely cool down and agree to a reasonable compromise about the situation, whether you move out or pay whatever amount of money. maybe he under alot of financial stress at the moment also (as many people are at current times) and that fueled his outburst.
anyway, i know its rough, but keep your cool and just be open and honest with your folks. in my opinion you should talk to your father about your desire to save for school and perhaps some of that 200$ a week can go towards your tuition. in the most likely case my belief is that he just wants to see that you have a plan to gain financial responsibility.
g00d luck