CowMan

sounds like you are paying for the majority of the bills there anyways. I'd say you can find yourself into a new apartment for you and yours pretty easily. this seems to be the easiest and most logical solution. tho it MAY not be possible.

So instead get the lock for your room. You have a lot of valuables in there and don't want them fucked with so it wouldn't be a terrible investment to get a lock for your door. Get the cable/utility bills put into your dads name instead of yours. part of your deal was he would be paying for those right? So they should be in his name, not yours and you should make them his responsibility.

Honestly the rest of these issues stem from a few major problems you seem to have...

1) you live with your dad and his son + his new gf and their 2 kids... putting you and your kid in there sounds like it's a pretty crowded living space. Drama is sure to happen when people don't feel comfortable in their living quarters.

2) your dad is not taking responsibility. he's shirking his duties as the BF and as the guy that made a deal with you before you moved in.

3) you don't like your dad's gf or her family all that much. It's not the kids fault, don't take it out on her. Instead you should talk to the gf about how the kid doesn't seem to listen to you and ask her to talk to her kid. Talking about things with one another can help alleviate the tension and correct the situation. And at worst she gets upset about it, but she'll be sure to keep her kid out of your stuff from now on.


All in all, these major issues are easier solved if you don't live there. But if you have to make it work, then i suggest getting both of them together and talking to them about the situation. She could be helping to buy groceries if she's there all the time. your dad can take on the bills he said he would, the gf can keep her kid out of your room, etc etc. Communication is key.

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