Mercury

I'm having a debate with my friend, we disagree on the subject of how to treat a woman.

My friend who has been reading some modern dating books insists that to gain attraction from a woman you must be what the experts call "cocky and funny". The reason being, says he, is that women enjoy the challenge of a relationship. Or, to put it another way, a woman gets turned on by the man she cannot have. The forbidden fruit syndrome. And by being cocky and funny you portray yourself as a man who has the world going for him and the girl is only so lucky to get a piece of your glory. That's his school of thought.

I disagree with that. I have been reading more tradtional dating advice and I am a firm believer in chivalry. Not only do I believe it but in my own experience it has worked out quite well. This perspective holds that treating a women thoughtfully is a much more sincere path to her affection. For example: buying her a drink, greeting her warmly, telling her the truth and complimenting her.

Any non-idealist will say that the answer is a mixture of both methodologys and that you have to be both independant and confident as well as respectful and polite. To those people I say no shit. We're talking about which is more important.

Being nice or playing games?