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I see some weird parallels. My parenting is totally 180 from the way I grew up. My dad was verbally (often physically) abusive...always in a bad mood, always yelling or bitching about something. Never spent time with us....I can count on one hand (ok, half of a hand) the good childhood memories I have of my dad.
As for me, I'm laid back (sometimes too much, I think), I don't even like to raise my voice...but who knows what the future holds? My son is only 3 now, and I've got another one on the way, but even at that, I was always so dead set against "turning into" my dad that I don't think it'll ever happen. On the other hand, if I had to compare my relationship to my parents, I would say that my wife is taking up the rold of my dad. Verbally abusive, controlling, and it just seems like she's not happy unless she's bitching about something. I walk on eggshells all the time. This is also a big factor in me not turning into my dad...I don't have to because my wife fills the role, which is a huge sore point with me, and if nothing changes then eventually something will have to, because "sticking around for the kids' sake" is only going to cut it for so long.
Wow, what a downer!
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