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Originally Posted by Mercury
My friends have been getting on my case lately for chronically changing my mind. I may say I'll go camping with them, or have them over for halloween or go out drinking with them but then, later, I'll tell them to "nevermind". Granted, I do my best to give notice of my change of heart well in advanced, they still seem to take great offense. They take it personally. I wonder why? Feelings change. Why can't they understand that? How am I supposed to know if I'm going to want to go on a field trip a week in advance. I do what I want when I want. I would never get mad at someone else for ditching me (again, as long as he gives decent notice). I don't like being in demand.
I think it's is a habit that is common with stoners.
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It's best to remember that in any exchange it is best to leave every person feeling as though they benefited in some way....So if you don't really want to do something and want to remain flexible phrase your responses as such..."Yeah gimme a call on thursday to see if i want to go saturday", will accomplish everything, leaving both parties feeling validated...
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