wellfleation

I feel marriage is for only people who want kids. Although it is only a piece a paper, it does protect your children as they are your responsibility too (fuck the wife, if that's how you feel) and the purpose is to create stability. The women always get everything, including the kids, which is the toughest part. I separated from my wife for 2 weeks almost two years ago. It was a no contact/restraining order over breaking a fan after an argument - I've never touched a woman in my life and have been with my wife for 12 years). They give out restraining orders to women like candy and I was told I may not see my kids for at least six months b/c of it! On top of it, my job has a zero violence policy whether physical or verbal so I could have lost my job as well. I have no criminal record - doesn't matter, all a woman needs to do is say you were "threatening" in your demeanor and she will get one.

This is what happened that night. So I come home from work after a significant snow storm. No wife, no kids, no note, wife not answering cell phones - I'm concerned for my families well-being. Moments later the cops show up and tell me to grab some stuff and leave ASAP. I was like wtf?! (Luckily I was able to call a work friend who let me stay with him instantly or I would have been fucked.) I didn't know what my wife was thinking on our court hearing date so I hired a lawyer as did she. She ended up canceling the restraining order (never fuck with a restraining order = jail instantly) at court and I moved back in a week later. This all happened a week before Christmas and I was not back in the house until after the New Year. The kids were my main motivation to get back with my wife but I still love her. It was a $3,000 mistake I think my wife regrets immensely. At the same time, I look at it as a $3,000 lesson for me.

Relationships are hard. But at least if you aren't married/no kids you can just bail.

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