No Sexual Attraction - Page 2

The SARS Volta · 08-26-2009, 12:38 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Peace seeker

he sounds like a spoiled, immature, douche.

why do u even bother to hang out with him?

are you the type of person that cant say "no" to people?

Not at all, I am assertive and speak up, but he doesn't get hints.

CowMan · 08-26-2009, 12:57 PM

still SARS, you should of known better. Obviously this whole scenario of him beating up his car over a girl was common knowledge among people before you bumped uglies. As was the fact that he's mooching off his folks. And if it wasn't told to you, a little background searching on the guys you're going to bone or even going to associate with wouldn't go astray.

Sure being drunk can alter judgment, but obviously something attracted you to him in the first place. You put yourself in the position to be drunk with him in a spot that you could fuck. Using 'oh i was drunk' excuses is total bullshit when you're still making obvious, sober choices that lead to said incident.

You should just face up to being responsible for putting yourself in this situation that you're in now and learn from your mistakes. Sure cutting back on booze can't hurt and I'm glad you've taken at least that lesson from this experience but there's clearly more you can learn here.

It was your mistake after all and now you've got yourself stressed out and will probably put this apparently sensitive, nice guy under emotional strain as well. A little discretion in choosing your environment and who you decide to surround yourself with could go a long way in making your life easier and more enjoyable.

I'm really not trying to be an asshole here, I'm simply speaking from experience. Making clear intelligent choices in who you associate with, drink with and ultimately fuck with will make your life better.

CowMan · 08-26-2009, 12:59 PM

In the meantime, don't skate around the issue with him. Be straight up! don't be insensitive but be very clear with him. You seem like you are a mature enough person to handle this while being straight up and he will appreciate that. Maybe not initially, but certainly in the long run.

**~~SpankyMcLankey~~** · 08-26-2009, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by The SARS Volta

I did take time to get to know him, I believe he was selective about what information he decided to make available about himself before anything sexual happened.

It's not just him, all guys do this to a certain degree.

Jesus Cowman, you should start your own TV show with dating advice.

my_scatterheart · 08-26-2009, 02:21 PM

Not a gender specific thing. It's a natural tendency to have insecurities about your flaws and desire to hide them.

~1~ · 08-26-2009, 03:43 PM

You have two choices, either marry him and live happily ever after...

-Or-

Cut and run, chalk it up to experience and never look back. You keep saying you took the time to get to know him, or at least what he wanted to show you so really you know his real style now and you dont like it so why bother to even keep him around as a friend?

He sounds like a toxic person and no good is going to come from it so really, I suggest you just give up on any kind of contact and realize you dodged a bullet.

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Originally Posted by The SARS Volta

Is there any way to tell him I'm not attracted to him without causing a shit storm?

In a word, nope...

I bet he didn't even get your rocks off.

~1~ · 08-26-2009, 03:45 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CowMan

In the meantime, don't skate around the issue with him. Be straight up! don't be insensitive but be very clear with him. You seem like you are a mature enough person to handle this while being straight up and he will appreciate that. Maybe not initially, but certainly in the long run.

Nahhh...
I'd say tell him he has a little weenie and he doesn't ring your bell.

Tell him to come back around when he can pound a railroad spike through a 4X8 with his penis.

The SARS Volta · 08-26-2009, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by №1

Cut and run, chalk it up to experience and never look back. You keep saying you took the time to get to know him, or at least what he wanted to show you so really you know his real style now and you dont like it so why bother to even keep him around as a friend?
He sounds like a toxic person and no good is going to come from it so really, I suggest you just give up on any kind of contact and realize you dodged a bullet.
In a word, nope...
I bet he didn't even get your rocks off.

Most real answer. Wisdom ftw.

crookedhatinator45 · 08-27-2009, 12:55 AM

racism's a big deal breaker for me. it's like the penultimate of judgementalism, so after hearing the rest of that shit it wasn't surprinsing at all. i don't get how a racist could have a good heart though, hahaha. anyway, if dude's a racist piece of shit, why worry about what he thinks if you tell him there's nothing there and you just want to be friends?

if he doesn't get that you're not interested after not getting any play from you for a while and thinks he can get some whenever he wants he's clearly mistaken and you need to set him straight.

Silverleaf · 08-27-2009, 01:06 AM

i agree with the above sentiment.

sounds to me like buddyroo is about due for the friend talk, and while it's unfortunate that you're the one that'll have to prepare and deliver the lecture, maybe you'll be lucky and he won't fly off the handle like he did to his car. and i mean, that's his car.

i don't have the time of day for spoiled punks like the kid i'm getting a picture of in this here thread -- the sooner they become less ignorant to their ignorance, the better. you might think of your redefinition of the boundaries of your relationship with this kid as a contribution to society. that or he'll still be just as big an asshole, depends on how much he values your opinion as a friend, i guess.

sooooo what i'm tryin to say here is that it's a crap shoot. best of luck to ya, whatever you decide to do.

Mikey · 08-27-2009, 06:56 AM

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Originally Posted by herbinator45

racism's a big deal breaker for me. it's like the penultimate of judgementalism, so after hearing the rest of that shit it wasn't surprinsing at all. i don't get how a racist could have a good heart though, hahaha. anyway, if dude's a racist piece of shit, why worry about what he thinks if you tell him there's nothing there and you just want to be friends?

if he doesn't get that you're not interested after not getting any play from you for a while and thinks he can get some whenever he wants he's clearly mistaken and you need to set him straight.

i know i used to know this one girl and we'd be all hanging out and id be all like lets go here or there and shes all like i dont wanna go cause so and so are gonna be there (black-muslim not white ppl) and i was like wtf. i have to rearrange living my life cause of the color of ppl's skin and where they are? fuck u bitch call the cops. im outta here.

fuck.
for real.

The SARS Volta · 08-27-2009, 01:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by herbinator45

racism's a big deal breaker for me. it's like the penultimate of judgementalism, so after hearing the rest of that shit it wasn't surprinsing at all. i don't get how a racist could have a good heart though, hahaha. anyway, if dude's a racist piece of shit, why worry about what he thinks if you tell him there's nothing there and you just want to be friends?

if he doesn't get that you're not interested after not getting any play from you for a while and thinks he can get some whenever he wants he's clearly mistaken and you need to set him straight.

True, but like I said, ignorance and upbringing--his parents are neo-cons and racially-biased themselves, which at my age gives nobody a legitimate excuse to be elitist over something like that. I have a huge problem with the prejudice myself.

Right, mistake--obviously. Gotta make errors to know better however this is a first for me in severity of things WAY wrong with the dude.

kamikazi89 · 08-27-2009, 02:34 PM

he'll talk about it for months..and believe what he wants
so if you don't want him thinking he can still fuck you
tell him why

p.s.
does he smoke the herb?
if not..move-on like kevin kilbride

osirus2020 · 08-27-2009, 07:49 PM

Well, was the sex at least good?

crookedhatinator45 · 08-27-2009, 08:08 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by The SARS Volta

True, but like I said, ignorance and upbringing--his parents are neo-cons and racially-biased themselves, which at my age gives nobody a legitimate excuse to be elitist over something like that. I have a huge problem with the prejudice myself.

Right, mistake--obviously. Gotta make errors to know better however this is a first for me in severity of things WAY wrong with the dude.

worrd. sounds like you already know it's ime to chalk it up as a learning experience and move on. maybe something will happen and he'll grow into a different person, you never know.

The SARS Volta · 08-27-2009, 09:12 PM

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Originally Posted by osirus2020

Well, was the sex at least good?

No. Not to say it was terrible, but those who are lazy in the sack generally amount to lousy performance, and my memory of the event is altered because alcohol in excess was a factor. Either way, I'm sexually repulsed by dude now.

Mikey · 08-28-2009, 10:31 AM

look at it this way
maybe this was your gateway to lesbianhood

flappy · 08-28-2009, 11:18 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mikey

look at it this way
maybe this was your gateway to lesbianhood

I agree with Mikey. Maybe it's time to experiment and send us pictures.

Jonas · 08-28-2009, 02:56 PM

to me it sounds like this dude isnt even worth your time, let alone a thread on yahooka.

he's a bad fish that should be put back in the sea - so to speak.

flappy · 08-28-2009, 06:05 PM

" bad fish"...Free Online Dating at Plentyoffish.com (free dating site.)

08-26-2009, 12:57 PM	#22 (permalink)
CowMan Just a friend Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: On the other side Posts: 2,385 Thanks: 42 Thanked 106 Times in 31 Posts	still SARS, you should of known better. Obviously this whole scenario of him beating up his car over a girl was common knowledge among people before you bumped uglies. As was the fact that he's mooching off his folks. And if it wasn't told to you, a little background searching on the guys you're going to bone or even going to associate with wouldn't go astray. Sure being drunk can alter judgment, but obviously something attracted you to him in the first place. You put yourself in the position to be drunk with him in a spot that you could fuck. Using 'oh i was drunk' excuses is total bullshit when you're still making obvious, sober choices that lead to said incident. You should just face up to being responsible for putting yourself in this situation that you're in now and learn from your mistakes. Sure cutting back on booze can't hurt and I'm glad you've taken at least that lesson from this experience but there's clearly more you can learn here. It was your mistake after all and now you've got yourself stressed out and will probably put this apparently sensitive, nice guy under emotional strain as well. A little discretion in choosing your environment and who you decide to surround yourself with could go a long way in making your life easier and more enjoyable. I'm really not trying to be an asshole here, I'm simply speaking from experience. Making clear intelligent choices in who you associate with, drink with and ultimately fuck with will make your life better. __________________ He who hesitates is lost

08-26-2009, 12:59 PM	#23 (permalink)
CowMan Just a friend Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: On the other side Posts: 2,385 Thanks: 42 Thanked 106 Times in 31 Posts	In the meantime, don't skate around the issue with him. Be straight up! don't be insensitive but be very clear with him. You seem like you are a mature enough person to handle this while being straight up and he will appreciate that. Maybe not initially, but certainly in the long run. __________________ He who hesitates is lost

08-26-2009, 02:21 PM	#25 (permalink)
my_scatterheart Today, I am alive. Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 4,063 Thanks: 1,300 Thanked 2,713 Times in 1,579 Posts	Not a gender specific thing. It's a natural tendency to have insecurities about your flaws and desire to hide them. __________________ Be mindful even if your mind is full. -J. De La Vega

08-27-2009, 01:06 AM	#30 (permalink)
Silverleaf Toker Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: in the wild Posts: 497 Thanks: 202 Thanked 67 Times in 46 Posts	i agree with the above sentiment. sounds to me like buddyroo is about due for the friend talk, and while it's unfortunate that you're the one that'll have to prepare and deliver the lecture, maybe you'll be lucky and he won't fly off the handle like he did to his car. and i mean, that's his car. i don't have the time of day for spoiled punks like the kid i'm getting a picture of in this here thread -- the sooner they become less ignorant to their ignorance, the better. you might think of your redefinition of the boundaries of your relationship with this kid as a contribution to society. that or he'll still be just as big an asshole, depends on how much he values your opinion as a friend, i guess. sooooo what i'm tryin to say here is that it's a crap shoot. best of luck to ya, whatever you decide to do. __________________

08-28-2009, 10:31 AM	#37 (permalink)
Mikey Seasoned YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: gulf islands bc Posts: 7,294 Thanks: 1,080 Thanked 2,013 Times in 1,344 Posts	look at it this way maybe this was your gateway to lesbianhood __________________ RIP Gov

08-28-2009, 06:05 PM	#40 (permalink)
flappy YaHookan Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 807 Thanks: 48 Thanked 102 Times in 85 Posts	" bad fish"...Free Online Dating at Plentyoffish.com (free dating site.)

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