When is Your Partner Ripe for the Picking? - Page 2

aft3rsh0kk · 06-05-2011, 08:53 PM

so i thought this was an appropritate thread.

my girlfriend is 38...im 22. honestly thought she was only like 30 when i asked her out, and ever since the first date i could care a less how old she is, i enjoy being with her more than any of the girls ive been with that were my age.

only thing that scares me is that im 22, and hope i dont get bored and want to move on, it would crush her, she really likes me now, and just wouldnt want her to think its time wasted with me if it doesnt work out for whatever reason.

**Mafoo** · 06-05-2011, 09:08 PM

my friend just got out of a similar situation. hes 23 and shes 28, not quite the same age difference, but their priorities differed quite alot. they loved eachother and were together for 2 years iirc. my friend started to get some itchy feet or w/e the term is, he felt like he wanted to see what else is out there. he ended up breaking up with her and it sucked to watch how badly both of them took it. im not saying this will happen to you, and it sounds like youre already cognizant of the dynamics of 2 people at different stages of their lives. if its working, thats great, but she might be looking for something permanent and im not sure what youre looking for based on your post

i wish you good luck man, my feelings always cloud my judgement so i know how torn a person can be about matters like this.

SmokeaJoint · 06-05-2011, 11:27 PM

Best of luck man. Imo, if your relationship with her is more than about how hot she is, or how good the sex is, then boredom shouldn't be a deciding issue.

**SageTree** · 06-06-2011, 07:38 AM

Exactly, when people understand each other and help make each other 'better', that is to say, when they water each others seeds and then burst into bloom....

That stuff helps too for sure.

adventure · 06-06-2011, 07:43 AM

My gf is 32 and I am 26. I never notice the difference. He joke about it sometimes but that's it. I have come to grips with the fact i will never do boom booms with an 18 year old ever again. Its ok....

**SageTree** · 06-06-2011, 08:31 AM

I guess I should mention that I'm 29 and my Wife is 33 for the sake of the age gap talk.
My Wife's parents are 9 years apart and they've been together for a long ass time... like 20 some years.

Her Step Dad the dad in question here, was 20 when he met my Wife's Mom who also had 3 kids at the time. It was a challenge, but their love, relationship and communication helped them through it.

Age is very relevant up to a point and they aren't all bad differences to have.

Jonas · 06-06-2011, 09:01 AM

I have a good family friend who the husband was a highschool teacher and fell in love with a student. Caused alot of controversy at the school, he had to retire and find work not being a teacher, but they've been together 25+ years. With a solid 12+ year age gap. It really is just a number.

adventure · 06-06-2011, 09:07 AM

I had a friend who after she graduated started dating a teacher, he was in his second year of teaching when we graduated... now they are married

Captain Cannabis · 06-06-2011, 10:22 AM

my gf is approx 4 years older than i am. wouldn't change it if i could

The Don · 06-06-2011, 10:32 AM

I've tried both older and younger.

What suits me best is a little younger than me, with fewer partners than me. Wife is 23, I'm 25, and the last requirement also holds. PRetty good.

fenderbender · 06-06-2011, 02:57 PM

the gf is 18 still.

giggady

aft3rsh0kk · 06-06-2011, 06:10 PM

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Originally Posted by SageTree

My Wife's Grama said, make sure you like the story inside, because the cover of the book fades and eventually the book too falls apart, So enjoy your stories, remember them and that she hoped we'd share them for a long long time.

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Originally Posted by Mafoo

my friend just got out of a similar situation. hes 23 and shes 28, not quite the same age difference, but their priorities differed quite alot. they loved eachother and were together for 2 years iirc. my friend started to get some itchy feet or w/e the term is, he felt like he wanted to see what else is out there. he ended up breaking up with her and it sucked to watch how badly both of them took it. im not saying this will happen to you, and it sounds like youre already cognizant of the dynamics of 2 people at different stages of their lives. if its working, thats great, but she might be looking for something permanent and im not sure what youre looking for based on your post

i wish you good luck man, my feelings always cloud my judgement so i know how torn a person can be about matters like this.

thats the thing, i originally asked her out because i had this lust for her, and after the first time we had sex it faded a bit, but after getting to know her i love being around here.

Quote:

Originally Posted by SmokeaJoint

Best of luck man. Imo, if your relationship with her is more than about how hot she is, or how good the sex is, then boredom shouldn't be a deciding issue.

thanks bud

Quote:

Originally Posted by adventure

My gf is 32 and I am 26. I never notice the difference. He joke about it sometimes but that's it. I have come to grips with the fact i will never do boom booms with an 18 year old ever again. Its ok....

this is what gets me every day. i enjoyed being single, with the hope of nailing some hot young thing on the weekends, not having to put any effort into her to get something, but then in the end, not respecting them half as much. its seeing these hotties each day, wondering "love to try that ride out"

thanks guys only time will tell i guess

Mescalito · 06-07-2011, 03:47 AM

Been with women of all groups.. even the I'm gay one.. and they all have there qualities. My GF now is 5 years older than me and knows her stuff. But I've had women 5 years younger and they knew just as much. Girls grow up faster these days I guess.. so it sorta balances itself out.

M

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06-05-2011, 09:08 PM	#22 (permalink)
Mafoo nice daze Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: the anguish of anticipated transformation Posts: 5,964 Thanks: 3,773 Thanked 2,640 Times in 1,694 Posts	my friend just got out of a similar situation. hes 23 and shes 28, not quite the same age difference, but their priorities differed quite alot. they loved eachother and were together for 2 years iirc. my friend started to get some itchy feet or w/e the term is, he felt like he wanted to see what else is out there. he ended up breaking up with her and it sucked to watch how badly both of them took it. im not saying this will happen to you, and it sounds like youre already cognizant of the dynamics of 2 people at different stages of their lives. if its working, thats great, but she might be looking for something permanent and im not sure what youre looking for based on your post i wish you good luck man, my feelings always cloud my judgement so i know how torn a person can be about matters like this. __________________ PLUR For once you have tasted flight you will walk the earth with your eyes turned skywards, for there you have been and there you will long to return

06-06-2011, 07:38 AM	#24 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,761 Times in 4,664 Posts	Exactly, when people understand each other and help make each other 'better', that is to say, when they water each others seeds and then burst into bloom.... That stuff helps too for sure. __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

06-06-2011, 07:43 AM	#25 (permalink)
adventure Adventure its good Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 4,720 Thanks: 1,843 Thanked 1,454 Times in 1,085 Posts	My gf is 32 and I am 26. I never notice the difference. He joke about it sometimes but that's it. I have come to grips with the fact i will never do boom booms with an 18 year old ever again. Its ok.... __________________ Coming Full Range

06-06-2011, 08:31 AM	#26 (permalink)
SageTree ~Kalyāṇa-mitrā~ Join Date: Sep 2000 Location: In Love Posts: 23,414 Blog Entries: 26 Thanks: 13,070 Thanked 6,761 Times in 4,664 Posts	I guess I should mention that I'm 29 and my Wife is 33 for the sake of the age gap talk. My Wife's parents are 9 years apart and they've been together for a long ass time... like 20 some years. Her Step Dad the dad in question here, was 20 when he met my Wife's Mom who also had 3 kids at the time. It was a challenge, but their love, relationship and communication helped them through it. Age is very relevant up to a point and they aren't all bad differences to have. __________________ "What's oppressive is letting your life be confined by old definitions of what everything is." -Zen Meister my_scatterheart YaHooka is.... Cannabis lovers from around the world pulling up a comfy chair, picking up a vaporizer, a bong, a brownie, a pipe, or a joint, getting high, stoned, buzzed or healthy. Uniting our minds in conversation...While Portraying a Positive Image of marijuana and marijuana users to the world. Treat your fellow YaHookans with kindness,respect and tolerance.

06-06-2011, 09:07 AM	#28 (permalink)
adventure Adventure its good Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Upstate NY Posts: 4,720 Thanks: 1,843 Thanked 1,454 Times in 1,085 Posts	I had a friend who after she graduated started dating a teacher, he was in his second year of teaching when we graduated... now they are married __________________ Coming Full Range

06-06-2011, 10:22 AM	#29 (permalink)
Captain Cannabis safety word: more Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: m.i.a. Posts: 13,916 Thanks: 2,701 Thanked 3,171 Times in 1,810 Posts	my gf is approx 4 years older than i am. wouldn't change it if i could __________________ fuck the monkeys

06-06-2011, 10:32 AM	#30 (permalink)
The Don You follow? Join Date: Sep 2001 Posts: 11,151 Thanks: 544 Thanked 781 Times in 426 Posts	I've tried both older and younger. What suits me best is a little younger than me, with fewer partners than me. Wife is 23, I'm 25, and the last requirement also holds. PRetty good. __________________ I am genuienly sad about my thanks:post ratio

06-07-2011, 03:47 AM	#33 (permalink)
Mescalito Oneironaut Join Date: Aug 2001 Posts: 6,281 Thanks: 855 Thanked 906 Times in 443 Posts	Been with women of all groups.. even the I'm gay one.. and they all have there qualities. My GF now is 5 years older than me and knows her stuff. But I've had women 5 years younger and they knew just as much. Girls grow up faster these days I guess.. so it sorta balances itself out. M

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