My suggestion is for you to go to an experienced shrink and fully describe your "severe social anxiety" disorder and all the good and bad things that happen...and when and how they happen. What brings you into the office and why do you think you need help? It sounds like you have some sorting out to do. A good shrink would want to put you on an antidepressant for depression, and klonopin for anxiety.
My son (29 yrs old) has been suffering from severe social anxiety for about four years, and his shrihk put his on Cymbalta for depression and klonopin for the anxiety disorder. My son is now doing very well and for the first time is now looking forward to his upcoming wedding and the birth of his first son/daughter.. Yea, looks like he put the cart before the horse, but in the end, things like that just don't matter.
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As for me peronally, I stick pretty much exclusely to the green medicine
..... and that takes care of me very nicely. I have Diabetes and Hep C so my medical "plate" is heavily laden too. However, I'm just really happy to be alive.......two bouts of severe jaundice in the past 12 months have been especially difficult.......each episode lasts about 3 mos....it makes you itch so bad that you tear the skin right off your body.
So it sounds like you would benefit from seeing a shrink - he'd take care of your meds and then refer you to a pyschologist so you'd have someone very discreet to discuss your issues.
Peace