[DalandeMD]

I totally feel for ya, Sars, and I hope I'm not the only one. I made the mistake of settling with my previous husband, and it felt like my whole life was on hold for those 3 years. I get down on myself, and figure the guy I'm with is a blessing, and I should be thankful that ANY man wants me. I've been working on my self-esteem though, and I have come to realize that I deserve a happy relationship with somebody who is compatible with me. Looks aren't a big factor to me usually, but if there's zero sexual chemistry I can't stay with the person.

The dating game is tricky as hell, and it's hard to find somebody you can click with, and even harder to decide if that person is somebody you really want to stay with in the long run. I don't go hunting for dates anymore. I pay attention to friendly interactions with friends-of-friends and such, and take it from there. If, while I'm pursuing my career, I find Mr. or Ms. Right, I will be open to it, but I don't let it consume my thoughts, like I'm worthless without a partner or something. It sounds like you've already grasped this concept.

There may not be somebody out there for everybody, and if there isn't somebody for me out there, it won't be the end of my life. I don't need another person to complete me.

What I'm saying is, try not to occupy yourself with worry so much. You're a beautiful, intelligent woman with the right attitude, and if Mr. Right comes along for you, he'd be a fool to turn his head the other way. Mr. Right doesn't need to be perfect, no. He just needs to be right for you.