i told my parents that i was gay when i was 15. looking back on my decision i still think it was one of the best i have ever made. actually admitting it to someone else than yourself is very liberating. i'm able to think and say whatever comes to my mind without thinking about filtering my emotions. i also dont have to deal with them asking me where my girlfriend is all the time.
my parents had a very hard time dealing with my "illness". they were born and raised in mexico with very traditional values. according to them, absolutely nobody else in our family is gay. my father thought i was completely confused and my mom thought i need jesus in my life. both of them attempted to talk to me about my "lifestyle choices", only telling me that what i was doing was wrong because the bible said so.i continued to live my life as i wanted to and eventually they learned to let me be. now my dad doesnt bring it up. i think things are better this way. my mom has surprisingly learned to accept me for me. i dont think she endorses what i do, but she understands that is who i am.
early on i knew that if i never said anything it would just get harder and harder to admit to later. i also didnt want them to blame my future partner for "turning" me gay. while i do agree that you should only tell the people you trust. i believe your parents/guardians/loved ones should be some of the first to know. it's better they hear it from you than through the grapevine.
