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Originally Posted by JcP
If you feel like you're having to pretend around your parents, then for your own sanity you should tell them the truth.
It was never something I really cared to talk about with my folks...none of their business if I was fucking john or jane, ya know?
being gay is a hard road to travel sometimes. Not sure about bisexuality.
Coming out should be about YOU not about THEM. If YOU need to tell them, then do it. If you are telling them because you want/need their approval or something, you're focusing on the wrong things. Your sexuality is part of who you are. Other people's judgements...even your parents...shouldn't be relevant to you.
I guess I'm just suggesting you make sure your reasons are good. And if you're approaching coming out as a "I hope this is okay", then it seems like you're needing of their approval.
"I'm bi" is not a declaration of illness or sinfulness or anything negative. It's a declaration of the self.
Good luck man.
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Thanks for the great advice.
I had a gay friend who was a total prick because his highschool years were very painful. He was filled with hate and spite, and told everyone that he was gay and all these details that most people didn't want to hear. He knew I was somewhat gay and would always say things to embarass me and my other friend. I didn't know I was bi at the time, and it buried that part of me in my psyche. I think this is why I've done so many hallucinogens, to explore every part of my being.
Anyhoooo, I definately wanted to do it for myself, because telling my friends felt so liberating. It felt fucking GREAT! If the occasion comes up where it seems relevant, I'm going to tell them.
P.S. I know I'm not gay, I've heard that whole bi-gay theory before...I love girls as much as I love boys
