[Porcelain]

I believe in marriage but on my own terms. For me, it's not about the bank accounts or legal matters. I want to (for one) have a wedding one day. I don't want it to "put a stake" on my partner but moreso to celebrate our love for one another and share that with family and friends. In terms of marriage as a lifelong journey, on some level there is a certain comfort in knowing that someone was not afraid to commit to me every part of who they are (as a soul and as yet another pawn for our government).

Having said that, I take marriage very seriously. I've been with the same person going on 5 years now. We have a 2 year old daughter together. He's not so much as proposed to me but I don't think I break his balls about it. I think more importantly than "if" and "when" is "why". I'm not ready to marry yet, myself. I don't feel like I've reached a state of loving him unconditionally yet and if I never do, then I'll never marry. I love my daughter unconditionally...no matter what she would ever do, I will always love her with every fibre of my being. While I love my BF, I still hold him to certain rules. I think if ever one reaches a state of having no rules, only love in a relationship...only then are they truly ready for making "marriage" what it's supposed to be rather than bastardizing what it stands for.