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Originally Posted by WildWill
Staying in a bad relationship just for the sex is an awful way to live day-to-day. If he's not fulfilling your basic needs for companionship and is only a tool for sex, you can get that guilt free elsewhere.
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I'm definitely not just staying with him for the sex. To be honest, our sex life has seen better days. It really is companionship keeping me with him. Sometimes I feel really miserable, but then I worry that I'd miss him if he weren't around. Maybe it's a "grass is greener on the other side" type of thing.
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Originally Posted by verklingen
talk with him: explain yourself completely and allow him the same chance. see how your explanations relate and don't be afraid to point out what doesn't add up or have what doesn't add up on your part pointed out.
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We have talked about it quite a bit. Basically what I get out of him is that he is just a pessimistic person and that's how it's going to be. He even tells me that he thinks I would be better off with a more happy person. And I understand that he is who he is, and I know that I can't change him. But the thing is, I didn't realize what a Debbie Downer he truly was until I had already fallen for him. Now I do find myself wondering if I'd be better suited for someone different.
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Originally Posted by Grieves
For all you know he may feel the same way and just doesn't know your stance...If talking doesn't help matters than work on a clean resolution to the relationship in which both of you keep your pride in tact.. Whatever you do, don't stay in the relationship any longer than you feel comfortable...Good luck It'll work itself out..
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He has told me that he got so lucky to land such a pleasant person, and that he'll never even try to find a girl as good as me if I ever leave him. I'm sure that's a load of crap, because obviously he can't see himself dating others while he's still dedicated to me.
I guess my next question would be this: Is there a such thing as a bubbly, happy man, or is that just a chick thing? I know everyone has their moments, but I think my life would be happier if it was spent with someone who lifted me up rather than bringing me down. I just don't know if that person exists and I don't want to sit here wondering if I should "upgrade" when I should just be happy with what I've got. He is very good to me, would never cheat, treats me like a lady, and all that. Am I being greedy to expect a smile and a good mood every once in a while on top of all those things?