[CowMan]

CC: perhaps your contentness is breeding complacency?

AL420: Yes there are happy go-lucky guys out there. I'm one of 'em. Usually pretty cheerful and full of life. If you are like me, then you kind of need someone who's happy as well. I've spent my time with some women who are downers and it's just no fun. I try to surround myself with positive people at all times.

Negative people need to be cut out like a cancer. Sorry if this seems harsh to your bf, but if he's a consistant downer, always shitting on himself and telling you that you should be with someone more plesant...well, I think you have to really consider it.

Also, leave the pressure for marriage and all that alone. Try to look at this situation objectively without these outside influences making your decisions for you.

It's not beyond repair, if you two are both wiling to work on it and maybe inject a little spice into the bedroom I think you can possibly work things out. If you're not willing to put in the effort to keep it going then i think it's time to see new people.