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Originally Posted by generic_hippie
apparently occasionally in our relationship no not only means yes, it means knock me on my arse and ravage me like a man
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LOL, YES!! I know it seems weird, but that's how I feel. If I'm putting up a fight, MAKE me want to change my mind!
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Originally Posted by generic_hippie
What with everyday life, children raising to do, visitors, our commitment to housing people in crisis, we don't get enough time to be each other's lovers.
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See that's the thing, we don't even have any kids. Of course we have other things to keep our lives busy like work and school, but it really worries me that our sex life isn't as fun as it used to be and we don't even have kids. It makes me wonder if we'll even do it at all if we ever do start a family.
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Originally Posted by spicoli
^haha. that's great.
my husband and i get our moments, too.
al, maybe you could put it like this: you're great in the sack babe, but i need a little more spontanious sex...more passion if you will. surprise me.
my man and i have been together for going on 9 years now, and i still get ravaged. it's possible. and it's great!
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Yeah, I think that would be a decent way of saying it. He already doubts his abilities, so I would need to make sure I to use constructive criticism. But I think your suggestion would be perfect, I can't imagine him being offended by that. I am glad to hear that it is actually possible to have awesome sex with someone even after you've been with them for a while. That's good to know.
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Originally Posted by made in china
if you cant weather the bad times and only want the good out of a relationship, youll find yourself alone
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I know, I know. I swear I'm not trying to pick him apart, I really do appreciate him for the good guy he is. And I do realize that there are enough positive aspects to this relationship that it's not worth giving up. But what you just told me is something that I've been told so many times in my life, it makes me wonder if I would be prone to staying in a relationship that wasn't working just because I'm trying to be realistic. What I'm trying to find out is where to draw the line between being happy where I am and knowing when we could find other people who would suit us better. But for now, I'm sticking with my man and doing everything I can to make sure we're happy.