[Canuck Wisdom]

Hey guys,

I've got this relationship, sort of. I've been seeing her since around christmas, and now she is out of the province, and out of the country next year. She talks about getting back together when she gets back, and in the shorter term is trying to find a chance to come visit.

We talk a fair bit on the phone and internet, and she says how she loves me and so on. And thats good, I like her a lot too. She wants to stay away from dating while she is away, and I like the idea of that, but were not going to do a long distance relationship thing. Still it would be nice to be able to talk to her and still keep that little special thing going.

As I said I like her a lot, but I do have some significant problems with the way our relationship seems to work, which leaves me feeling like I am getting the bum end of the deal. Anyways I couldn't sleep much last night after talking to her for a bit and finally as the sun was coming up I sat down here and wrote a page long letter about why I am concerned and how if things don't change its not in my best interest to stay emotionally connected to her.

I don't know whether or not to send it, thats what I am asking. I am going to sit on it for at least a day and see how I feel. I don't want to ruin her good feelings towards me for while she is gone, but need to express myself so I either don't keep feeling disrespected, or I stop talking to her so much and try to move on.

I don't know if its worth it to express my problems or not, but I don't like what I am getting from this, and its made all the more obvious now by the fact that she is far away. Same issues, just magnified.

She really likes me and would probably try to work with me, but it might just strain our relationship more than help if I open up because of the distance, we can't face each other in person. We've had a couple mini episodes lately and I personally feel like there is a bit of a strain already. If she does, she seems to be ignoring it.


Part of what my problem is is how she seems less considerate of my concerns, then I of hers, and I worry that saying these things may just highlight problems that cannot be resolved, because our characters just don't mesh right, and that it would in fact be best to break up so to speak, but since she is already far away, I don't know if its the right thing to do.