S&M and the like.

anaujiram · 11-14-2007, 11:59 PM

Do people usually have to try it to know if they're into it, or is it something that you could just know by being turned on seeing it in porn?

New gf expressed an interest, and I don't know whether i'm disturbed or intrigued.

Štulic · 11-15-2007, 04:10 AM

Feel similar. Never tried because it never intrigued me that much. Never felt like wanting to dominate or be dominated.
I think I'd feel awkward and that's always a turnoff.

Jimmy Coonan · 11-15-2007, 03:40 PM

I've known I liked hitting people and being hit a little too much since I was like four.

Give it a shot. Start out simple, a little light punching and slapping. Does your girl want to be the S or the M? Try choking her a bit and tying her hands behind her back with your belt as you fuck her doggystyle. Or just pull her hair if you're not ready to try choking yet.

If you don't like it, hey, at least you tried.

Krunk · 11-15-2007, 03:45 PM

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Originally Posted by anaujiram

Do people usually have to try it to know if they're into it, or is it something that you could just know by being turned on seeing it in porn?

New gf expressed an interest, and I don't know whether i'm disturbed or intrigued.

does she want to be the slave or the master?

The SARS Volta · 11-15-2007, 04:29 PM

I generally try not to combine fighting and fucking, lol

that's just me. It may be fun, but I'll never find that out

anaujiram · 11-15-2007, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Krunk

does she want to be the slave or the master?

She hinted that she was turned on by a bit of dom on her part.

I don't really have any security issues, it's just a bit unexpected, ya know?

AnimalLover420 · 11-15-2007, 06:47 PM

I say it's worth a shot, you can't really know until you've tried it. Plus you're saying she wants to dominate you, correct? Because I can't see that being all bad, unless she takes it past your comfort level. It could definitely work out for the better, maybe she just wants you to lay there helplessly as she fucks the everloving hell out of you.

None2None · 11-15-2007, 07:45 PM

I personally don't really like the whole idea of it really. One can be a dom, but when it gets physical beyond plain sexual pleasure, I cut the line. Just my opinion.

But yea, you can try it, but just go slowly. If she really wants to be dom and you don't care about that, act like a lesser to her whenever just you and her are fucking around... Or imo see if you can't pull off the dom and see how she reacts...

But I wouldn't move too quickly with it. If she turns out to not be as into it as you think, or you decide you hate it, just don't get too deep and you won't have trouble getting out of it the next time.

anaujiram · 11-15-2007, 10:15 PM

Yeah, there really isn't any harm in trying it. I'll see where it goes.

You're correct AL, and that last sentence was definitely an encouragement.

PhishDude · 07-11-2008, 12:28 PM

I personally love certain types of it but it's not something that has to be done all the time and bondage/SM isn't about "fighting" either even it it looks that way to the outsider.

Some people know that they're into it and some people get into it from being curious or tying something they saw in porn or read about.

Just be careful though, read some books/FAQs about it and make sure they have safety tips and make sure it's all Safe, Sane, and consensual-SSC with a safeword.

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Štulic Jaxykaнaц Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Terra Australis Incognita Posts: 6,144 Thanks: 36 Thanked 31 Times in 19 Posts	Feel similar. Never tried because it never intrigued me that much. Never felt like wanting to dominate or be dominated. I think I'd feel awkward and that's always a turnoff.

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