Bi-sexuality

El Cubano Poco · 01-25-2008, 10:37 PM

I recently admitted to my friends that I'm bi. Everyone I told was very cool with it, and it made me feel very good to get it off my chest. The main issue I have now is telling my parents. I want to tell them (they are divorced) but I get really anxious every time I think of saying it. It might come down to telling them when I'm a bit tipsy, or I might just eventually man up to it. Once they know, I'm going to feel a whole lot better about myself. Has anyone else told their parents they were bi/gay?

SpankyMcLankey · 01-25-2008, 10:47 PM

Congrats.

It's good to get things off your chest. That's cool that you are open about it. I mean what ever floats your boat, ya know?

clive · 01-26-2008, 05:07 AM

You don't have to tell everyone, not sure why you would want to either.

Jimmy Coonan · 01-26-2008, 10:14 AM

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Originally Posted by Delay

You don't have to tell everyone, not sure why you would want to either.

Agreed. If you get into a serious relationship with a man maybe tell them, but if it's just that you like to have sex with men sometimes, I don't see why you'd want to share that with everyone. It's not everyone's business.

Mafoo · 01-26-2008, 10:20 AM

youll tell them when youre ready and decided what you actually are

good luck friend

El Cubano Poco · 01-28-2008, 08:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Delay

You don't have to tell everyone, not sure why you would want to either.

I've only told close friends and people that have brought about the conversation. People in my life are very honest and open with eachother, I definitely wouldn't be telling people if things were otherwise.

My parents and I are very close, and honesty is big in my family. I felt better telling my friends, so I think I would feel better telling my family. I may, I may not, I don't know.

BearsysRevenge · 02-03-2008, 10:55 PM

I wish you all the best. I haven't found the courage to tell my parents both of my "big secrets", that I'm bi and an atheist.
They're fundamentalist Xians, and I'm pretty sure they'd disown me/kick me out of the house if I told them.
I want to move out as soon as possible... but not on terms like that, nawmsaying?
I'm a disabled college student who is physically unable to work. I'm not nearly able to support myself financially. So I'll have to live a little bit longer like I do, going to church every week and pretending to believe in god.
I have a shitty social life, so its not too hard to hide my orientation in that sense.

Jimmy Coonan · 02-04-2008, 08:40 AM

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Originally Posted by BearsysRevenge

I wish you all the best. I haven't found the courage to tell my parents both of my "big secrets", that I'm bi and an atheist.
They're fundamentalist Xians, and I'm pretty sure they'd disown me/kick me out of the house if I told them.
I want to move out as soon as possible... but not on terms like that, nawmsaying?
I'm a disabled college student who is physically unable to work. I'm not nearly able to support myself financially. So I'll have to live a little bit longer like I do, going to church every week and pretending to believe in god.
I have a shitty social life, so its not too hard to hide my orientation in that sense.

Isn't there some kind of easy desk work you could do? What are you planning on doing after you graduate anyway?

Porcelain · 02-04-2008, 10:01 AM

You wouldn't be violating the honesty code if you didn't tell your parents you were bi. Honesty means not lying and as long as they're not asking you, "Are you bi?" and you're saying no. Not telling them you're bi is up there in the "too much information" section along with the last time you choked the chicken and when you took your last green shit.

Like someone mentioned, unless you're bringing home a dude that you plan to spend the rest of your life with, there's no reason anyone needs to know. Besides, I doubt your parents really wanna know too much about your sexual affairs anyhow.

02-04-2008, 10:03 AM

i think I'm bi^

lol

Blue_Dolphin · 02-04-2008, 10:09 AM

Being bi to me was just something "fun" to do.

I guess I could still be a little bi. I think everyone is somewhere deep down inside.

El Cubano Poco, tell who ever you want.... If you don't want to tell them, it's none of their business.

02-04-2008, 10:09 AM

Ok I Was J/k

*paranoid.

my_scatterheart · 02-04-2008, 10:11 AM

I think tell them if it's bothering you. If it's something you need to do for you then I would go for it. Otherwise, I would advise against just blurting it out. It may cause some weirdness for no reason. Hoping that makes sense.

El Cubano Poco · 02-04-2008, 10:36 AM

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Originally Posted by BearsysRevenge

I wish you all the best. I haven't found the courage to tell my parents both of my "big secrets", that I'm bi and an atheist.
They're fundamentalist Xians, and I'm pretty sure they'd disown me/kick me out of the house if I told them.
I want to move out as soon as possible... but not on terms like that, nawmsaying?
I'm a disabled college student who is physically unable to work. I'm not nearly able to support myself financially. So I'll have to live a little bit longer like I do, going to church every week and pretending to believe in god.
I have a shitty social life, so its not too hard to hide my orientation in that sense.

Good luck man. It's a good thing that our culture allows us to leave home and make our own lives, eh?

I might not tell them for a long time, I think I might just keep it on a "need to know basis" like somebody mentioned.
Thanks for support people

BearsysRevenge · 02-04-2008, 11:42 AM

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Originally Posted by El Cubano Poco

Good luck man. It's a good thing that our culture allows us to leave home and make our own lives, eh?

You too man.

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Originally Posted by lillarry518

Isn't there some kind of easy desk work you could do? What are you planning on doing after you graduate anyway?

I'm planning on writing for television or movies, or actually getting behind the camera and directing.

But I can't work cause I'm trying to get disability, and working at all defeats the purpose of being disabled.

But it sucks cause it takes a long time for it to go through, like a year or so, and I only started the process last month.

Le Boulanger · 02-04-2008, 01:58 PM

i told my parents that i was gay when i was 15. looking back on my decision i still think it was one of the best i have ever made. actually admitting it to someone else than yourself is very liberating. i'm able to think and say whatever comes to my mind without thinking about filtering my emotions. i also dont have to deal with them asking me where my girlfriend is all the time.

my parents had a very hard time dealing with my "illness". they were born and raised in mexico with very traditional values. according to them, absolutely nobody else in our family is gay. my father thought i was completely confused and my mom thought i need jesus in my life. both of them attempted to talk to me about my "lifestyle choices", only telling me that what i was doing was wrong because the bible said so.i continued to live my life as i wanted to and eventually they learned to let me be. now my dad doesnt bring it up. i think things are better this way. my mom has surprisingly learned to accept me for me. i dont think she endorses what i do, but she understands that is who i am.

early on i knew that if i never said anything it would just get harder and harder to admit to later. i also didnt want them to blame my future partner for "turning" me gay. while i do agree that you should only tell the people you trust. i believe your parents/guardians/loved ones should be some of the first to know. it's better they hear it from you than through the grapevine.

kissestoday · 02-04-2008, 04:09 PM

I am Bi....but Im also happily married with 4 kids...

Some things parents just dont NEED to know...

That's my business...

...and my HUBBY LOVES that I like to play with girls....

Linkey · 02-04-2008, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by kissestoday

I am Bi....but Im also happily married with 4 kids...

Some things parents just dont NEED to know...

That's my business...

...and my HUBBY LOVES that I like to play with girls....

who are you???

01-26-2008, 10:20 AM	#5 (permalink)
Mafoo under funded Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: a crazy place called my mind Posts: 1,371 Thanks: 63 Thanked 66 Times in 56 Posts	youll tell them when youre ready and decided what you actually are good luck friend __________________ PLUR "Knowledge speaks, wisdom listens" Hendrix "A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger"- words to live by

02-03-2008, 10:55 PM	#7 (permalink)
BearsysRevenge Adminfiltrator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: I've got BuffaLOVE Posts: 4,760 Thanks: 675 Thanked 192 Times in 140 Posts	I wish you all the best. I haven't found the courage to tell my parents both of my "big secrets", that I'm bi and an atheist. They're fundamentalist Xians, and I'm pretty sure they'd disown me/kick me out of the house if I told them. I want to move out as soon as possible... but not on terms like that, nawmsaying? I'm a disabled college student who is physically unable to work. I'm not nearly able to support myself financially. So I'll have to live a little bit longer like I do, going to church every week and pretending to believe in god. I have a shitty social life, so its not too hard to hide my orientation in that sense. __________________ There’s a time when the operation of the machine becomes so odious, makes you so sick at heart, that you can't take part, you can’t even passively take part, and you’ve got to put your bodies upon the gears and upon the wheels, upon the levers, upon all the apparatus, and you’ve got to make it stop! And you’ve got to indicate to the people who run it, to the people who own it, that unless you’re free, the machine will be prevented from working at all! Click for lulz

02-04-2008, 10:11 AM	#13 (permalink)
my_scatterheart Today, I am alive. Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: NJ Posts: 225 Thanks: 21 Thanked 19 Times in 17 Posts	I think tell them if it's bothering you. If it's something you need to do for you then I would go for it. Otherwise, I would advise against just blurting it out. It may cause some weirdness for no reason. Hoping that makes sense. __________________ You are beautiful.

02-04-2008, 01:58 PM	#16 (permalink)
Le Boulanger Freshly Baked Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: infinity Posts: 61 Thanks: 0 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	i told my parents that i was gay when i was 15. looking back on my decision i still think it was one of the best i have ever made. actually admitting it to someone else than yourself is very liberating. i'm able to think and say whatever comes to my mind without thinking about filtering my emotions. i also dont have to deal with them asking me where my girlfriend is all the time. my parents had a very hard time dealing with my "illness". they were born and raised in mexico with very traditional values. according to them, absolutely nobody else in our family is gay. my father thought i was completely confused and my mom thought i need jesus in my life. both of them attempted to talk to me about my "lifestyle choices", only telling me that what i was doing was wrong because the bible said so.i continued to live my life as i wanted to and eventually they learned to let me be. now my dad doesnt bring it up. i think things are better this way. my mom has surprisingly learned to accept me for me. i dont think she endorses what i do, but she understands that is who i am. early on i knew that if i never said anything it would just get harder and harder to admit to later. i also didnt want them to blame my future partner for "turning" me gay. while i do agree that you should only tell the people you trust. i believe your parents/guardians/loved ones should be some of the first to know. it's better they hear it from you than through the grapevine. __________________ Hasta La Victoria Siempre! - Che Guevara

01-25-2008, 10:47 PM	#2 (permalink)
SpankyMcLankey YaHookan Join Date: Sep 2007 Posts: 759 Thanks: 123 Thanked 78 Times in 70 Posts	Congrats. It's good to get things off your chest. That's cool that you are open about it. I mean what ever floats your boat, ya know?

02-04-2008, 10:03 AM	#10 (permalink)
turmaline Guest Posts: n/a	i think I'm bi^ lol

02-04-2008, 10:09 AM	#11 (permalink)
Blue_Dolphin Princess Join Date: May 2006 Location: Texas Posts: 1,720 Thanks: 56 Thanked 72 Times in 47 Posts	Being bi to me was just something "fun" to do. I guess I could still be a little bi. I think everyone is somewhere deep down inside. El Cubano Poco, tell who ever you want.... If you don't want to tell them, it's none of their business.

02-04-2008, 10:09 AM	#12 (permalink)
turmaline Guest Posts: n/a	Ok I Was J/k *paranoid.

02-04-2008, 04:09 PM	#17 (permalink)
kissestoday YaHookan Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Melbourne, AUSTRALIA Posts: 82 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	I am Bi....but Im also happily married with 4 kids... Some things parents just dont NEED to know... That's my business... ...and my HUBBY LOVES that I like to play with girls....