my sexual dysfunctions

vanilla · 08-13-2008, 10:08 PM

so im a pretty horny guy, more than most id say.
i was going out with this one girl for about a month who i thought was the bees knees, then we took it a bit further and had sex. imediately after i was completely repulsed by her, avoided her completely and now she hates me, which i somewhat expected. a week later, i hooked up with another girl who i've known for a few years and the same thing happens.

now my problem is , im not really this type of guy. im usually the kind who waits a bit until it is serious to really see if its worth fooling around, but lately ive just been bouncing from girl to girl being completely unattracted to the "previous conquest" if you will.
it this fucked up or... not ?
some advice would be dope, thanks
edit: im not really sure what i want to hear, im kinda drunk so bear with me

Smaerd · 08-13-2008, 10:59 PM

I'd say, your looking for a girl who won't let you fuck. Kinda weird.. or not to scare yeah or anything, ever think about guys? There's dozen's more options, is it because you imagine the sex to be more then what it ever turns out to be. I'm not sure I'm just trying to spew things at yeah get the ideas flowin

Or is it maybe cause your "conquest" / goal with women is to have sex. Then once it's done your like Mah, screw that, next!

If you can give a general cause for it, then the solution will spell itself out. Generally, you already know the answer as to why you screw girls then run away.

The SARS Volta · 08-13-2008, 11:15 PM

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Originally Posted by vanilla

so im a pretty horny guy, more than most id say.
i was going out with this one girl for about a month who i thought was the bees knees, then we took it a bit further and had sex. imediately after i was completely repulsed by her, avoided her completely and now she hates me, which i somewhat expected. a week later, i hooked up with another girl who i've known for a few years and the same thing happens.

now my problem is , im not really this type of guy. im usually the kind who waits a bit until it is serious to really see if its worth fooling around, but lately ive just been bouncing from girl to girl being completely unattracted to the "previous conquest" if you will.
it this fucked up or... not ?
some advice would be dope, thanks
edit: im not really sure what i want to hear, im kinda drunk so bear with me

If you and some girl were friends and got along well before hooking up, I can understand why they might be ticked at you not wanting to talk to them. Squandering a companionship is a bad feeling if it was genuine and not based on fuckneeds.
On the other hand, if I hook up with someone I was fairweather with or just an occasional acquaintance I don't care to chill again. It's not disgust, but a lack of interest to keep in contact since the connection was probably based on physical attraction and impulse.

Bongy_Digital · 08-13-2008, 11:18 PM

yeah i agree with smaerd that the answer is probably in your head. you just need to find it. perhaps its the fact that like you said you normally like to wait and since she gave it up easily you look down upon her and think you deserve better than that, a more classy gal if ya will. obviously though even though you like to wait, when the attraction is there ya wanna do that shit, i can relate. but will power is a good thing maybe ya just need to be a bit stronger in holding out a little longer until there is more of a connection. or perhaps im just a little drunk too and way off.

kamikazi89 · 08-13-2008, 11:21 PM

you're gay

Bongy_Digital · 08-13-2008, 11:25 PM

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Originally Posted by kamikazi89

you're gay

and some people just like to watch themselves type.....

Smaerd · 08-13-2008, 11:28 PM

So true bongy, what kamikaze said was unnecesary, and just cuz a guy bangs a girl and runs doesn't mean he is gay. It means he wants ass and has to play the girls games to get it. In fact I think that's more of a testosterone thrived thing to do then stay in long relationships and care about the person.

I only offered that suggestion cuz it's good to keep an open mind to posibilities.

AnimalLover420 · 08-13-2008, 11:36 PM

I think it's perfectly normal to lose interest in someone once you know that you have sealed the deal. It signifies the end of the hunt (with that particular person), because you've already gone in for the kill. That only keeps you satisfied for a short amount of time, after which you're ready to hunt again. I know you feel bad, but you'll eventually find a girl who will change the entire cycle for you. You just haven't met her yet, which is why you continue on with your quest each time you find yourself to be incompatible with someone sexually. Don't worry, it's not shallow. Sex is an important part of a relationship and I don't blame you for bouncing if it disappoints. You could try to soften the blow a bit for the poor girls if nothing else, break things off with them in a delicate way. But don't worry yourself too much, that's just the way it goes sometimes.

Smaerd · 08-13-2008, 11:40 PM

The hunt is what some people are looking for soley. It is addictive knowing who you can have and who you cannot. And going on with AL here, a girl will either change you, or you'll get old and be like... I NEEDS TA GET MARRIED!? For lack of better terms.

kamikazi89 · 08-13-2008, 11:42 PM

see thing is, tonight just whet her appetite, she'll think about it all day and by friday she's going to want it badmr.~)

...!& don't be so quick to dismiss the gay possibilty: twas completely necessary . chances are better then 50/50

AnimalLover420 · 08-13-2008, 11:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Smaerd

The hunt is what some people are looking for soley. It is addictive knowing who you can have and who you cannot. And going on with AL here, a girl will either change you, or you'll get old and be like... I NEEDS TA GET MARRIED!? For lack of better terms.

Yep, I used to be a "hunter". Big time. Let's not get the wrong impression though, most of the poor bastards never even got close to getting into my pants. But once I knew that they were emotionally attached- either that or so sprung on this pussy that they weren't going anyfuckingwhere until they got it- I knew that the game was over and decided I wanted to play again with the next poor bastard. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, all his friends were like "Yeah, good luck keeping 'hold of her."

Bongy_Digital · 08-13-2008, 11:48 PM

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Originally Posted by AnimalLover420

Yep, I used to be a "hunter". Big time. Let's not get the wrong impression though, most of the poor bastards never even got close to getting into my pants. But once I knew that they were emotionally attached- either that or so sprung on this pussy that they weren't going anyfuckingwhere until they got it- I knew that the game was over and decided I wanted to play again with the next poor bastard. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, all his friends were like "Yeah, good luck keeping 'hold of her."

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh so youre one of THEM girls huh??

and i always thought ya were one of the realest females on yahooka. just kidding obviously ya still are hense your just spilling the truth. at least youre past playing the head games.

kamikazi89 · 08-13-2008, 11:59 PM

it's only been two times(lately) a third would be a definite pattern, after that is anybodies guess

Smaerd · 08-14-2008, 12:09 AM

I have yet to be in a relationship that sex has helped...

kamikazi89 · 08-14-2008, 12:21 AM

i'm really into intimacy,(andstudy)p lus i'm a people person.."hunter sounds morethen legit&gay not mutually exclusive

AnimalLover420 · 08-14-2008, 07:55 AM

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Originally Posted by Bongy_Digital

ahhhhhhhhhhhhh so youre one of THEM girls huh??

and i always thought ya were one of the realest females on yahooka. just kidding obviously ya still are hense your just spilling the truth. at least youre past playing the head games.

Haha. I like to think of it less as head games and more like I was just a little bit picky.

I was pretty much always honest with the guys. I'd be like "look dude, you've known me for a week. You don't love me. And saying you do just scared me away, so slow it down a little with the next chick."

kamikazi89 · 08-14-2008, 10:23 AM

the being repulsed by, afterwards is worthy of discussion: i'm very curious about dat

08-13-2008, 10:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
vanilla the cunning linguist Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: 514 Posts: 5,141 Thanks: 0 Thanked 11 Times in 8 Posts	my sexual dysfunctions so im a pretty horny guy, more than most id say. i was going out with this one girl for about a month who i thought was the bees knees, then we took it a bit further and had sex. imediately after i was completely repulsed by her, avoided her completely and now she hates me, which i somewhat expected. a week later, i hooked up with another girl who i've known for a few years and the same thing happens. now my problem is , im not really this type of guy. im usually the kind who waits a bit until it is serious to really see if its worth fooling around, but lately ive just been bouncing from girl to girl being completely unattracted to the "previous conquest" if you will. it this fucked up or... not ? some advice would be dope, thanks edit: im not really sure what i want to hear, im kinda drunk so bear with me __________________

08-13-2008, 10:59 PM	#2 (permalink)
Smaerd observations kill me Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Vagrant Status Posts: 2,067 Thanks: 262 Thanked 350 Times in 258 Posts	I'd say, your looking for a girl who won't let you fuck. Kinda weird.. or not to scare yeah or anything, ever think about guys? There's dozen's more options, is it because you imagine the sex to be more then what it ever turns out to be. I'm not sure I'm just trying to spew things at yeah get the ideas flowin Or is it maybe cause your "conquest" / goal with women is to have sex. Then once it's done your like Mah, screw that, next! If you can give a general cause for it, then the solution will spell itself out. Generally, you already know the answer as to why you screw girls then run away. __________________ Peace, Love, Unity, Respect. Last edited by Smaerd; 08-13-2008 at 11:06 PM.

08-13-2008, 11:18 PM	#4 (permalink)
Bongy_Digital Old School Join Date: Mar 2001 Location: Joke Ass Bible Belt Posts: 646 Thanks: 33 Thanked 47 Times in 41 Posts	yeah i agree with smaerd that the answer is probably in your head. you just need to find it. perhaps its the fact that like you said you normally like to wait and since she gave it up easily you look down upon her and think you deserve better than that, a more classy gal if ya will. obviously though even though you like to wait, when the attraction is there ya wanna do that shit, i can relate. but will power is a good thing maybe ya just need to be a bit stronger in holding out a little longer until there is more of a connection. or perhaps im just a little drunk too and way off. __________________ Im just goofin....New Boot Goofin Do What You Feel, Feel What You Do.

08-13-2008, 11:28 PM	#7 (permalink)
Smaerd observations kill me Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Vagrant Status Posts: 2,067 Thanks: 262 Thanked 350 Times in 258 Posts	So true bongy, what kamikaze said was unnecesary, and just cuz a guy bangs a girl and runs doesn't mean he is gay. It means he wants ass and has to play the girls games to get it. In fact I think that's more of a testosterone thrived thing to do then stay in long relationships and care about the person. I only offered that suggestion cuz it's good to keep an open mind to posibilities. __________________ Peace, Love, Unity, Respect.

08-13-2008, 11:36 PM	#8 (permalink)
AnimalLover420 Love Junkie Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: US Posts: 3,293 Thanks: 15 Thanked 51 Times in 33 Posts	I think it's perfectly normal to lose interest in someone once you know that you have sealed the deal. It signifies the end of the hunt (with that particular person), because you've already gone in for the kill. That only keeps you satisfied for a short amount of time, after which you're ready to hunt again. I know you feel bad, but you'll eventually find a girl who will change the entire cycle for you. You just haven't met her yet, which is why you continue on with your quest each time you find yourself to be incompatible with someone sexually. Don't worry, it's not shallow. Sex is an important part of a relationship and I don't blame you for bouncing if it disappoints. You could try to soften the blow a bit for the poor girls if nothing else, break things off with them in a delicate way. But don't worry yourself too much, that's just the way it goes sometimes. __________________ ************************************** R.I.P. Ken Gorman**

08-13-2008, 11:40 PM	#9 (permalink)
Smaerd observations kill me Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Vagrant Status Posts: 2,067 Thanks: 262 Thanked 350 Times in 258 Posts	The hunt is what some people are looking for soley. It is addictive knowing who you can have and who you cannot. And going on with AL here, a girl will either change you, or you'll get old and be like... I NEEDS TA GET MARRIED!? For lack of better terms. __________________ Peace, Love, Unity, Respect.

08-14-2008, 12:09 AM	#14 (permalink)
Smaerd observations kill me Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Vagrant Status Posts: 2,067 Thanks: 262 Thanked 350 Times in 258 Posts	I have yet to be in a relationship that sex has helped... __________________ Peace, Love, Unity, Respect.