http://www.yahooka.com/forum/ Questions and issues of a serious nature including health, medicinal cannabis use, personal issues, relationship issues, communication problems, parenting, cross-generational issues, problems with parents, giving up and overcoming obstacles. en Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:31:31 GMT vBulletin 60 http://www.yahooka.com/forum/images/ca_evo2_green/misc/rss.jpg http://www.yahooka.com/forum/ http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/153131-anxiety-meds-vs-anti-depressants.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 19:26:45 GMT Is there a difference?

I have a friend who takes a pill only when she is having serious anxiety.

I was on anti depressants which didn't get rid of my anxiety, they just kind of turned me into an unemotional person except when i drank on them, then I was just a crazy crazed person.

When I had to quit taking them I was like a drooling zombie physically and mentally blahhh.

I didn't abuse them I took them as prescribed.

I'm just wondering if I should ask my doc. for some anxiety meds. only because everyday I wakeup I feel crazy/mind racing a mile a minute...I have a huge knot in my stomach and I just want to feel normal for once?

Do they help?


or should I just deal with it....anxiety is a part of life? ]]> Guidance And Support turmaline http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/153131-anxiety-meds-vs-anti-depressants.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/153116-long-read-need-feedback.html Wed, 18 Nov 2009 03:59:13 GMT Ok so I have this guy in my life right now. He's not exactly the best guy in the world. He's been in and out of jail for the last couple years. I've known him almost 6 years. He's a really sweet guy, he's just had a lot of trouble dealing with things in the past. His mom killed herself when he was a teenager and his dad used to beat the shit out of him and his little brother. He turned to drugs (surprise, surprise) and he was a pretty shifty individual for awhile. He was a thief and a con and pretty fucked up on dope before he ended up getting locked up on some drug charges.

He's been out since June and he's been doing great. He's got a job, he's clean and sober and he's trying to find his place in society again. He's not sure really how to go about doing things right because this is all new to him. I have been seeing him off and on since June and he's great to me..... The sex is fucking incredible too haha.

Anyway, on to my problem.... My mother is my landlord. She has 3 rental units and I have a two bedroom place that I'm living at that's hers. All of her rentals are on the same property as her house. Needless to say she is always in my business. Hell, she has a key to my place and lets herself in whenever. She has told me she doesn't want this guy hanging out. I respect that so he doesn't hang out here anymore and he sure doesn't stay over anymore. He stops by every now and then for this that or the other and doesn't stay more than a few minutes.

Anyway, he came by a couple nights ago just to drop me off some cigarettes because he knew I was out. It was like almost midnight when he came by and somehow my mom found out. She called me today to tell me if I don't tell him he is not welcome on her property under ANY circumstances that she will kick me out of my place. I was like wtf!! If I was anybody but her kid she couldn't pull this shit.

What should I do? I don't wanna fight with my mom and I love my place but at the same time I'm almost 27 years old and feel I should be able to hang out with whoever I want. I know she has a problem with his past but my god she used to be a meth freak and a crack head and has no right to judge. He's truly trying to turn his life around and really doesn't have anyone that's here for him (other than the people he used to get high with and they are all still fuck ups so those are the last people he wants to be around). Any advise? ]]> Guidance And Support Stoney http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/153116-long-read-need-feedback.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/153032-help-me.html Mon, 16 Nov 2009 01:21:42 GMT Okay, So my dealer, he is also my neighbor, hes been dealing to me for about 4 years now, and this is how it goes. I give him the money, he goes to get the shit, i get it, it weighs what its spose to, and I go to my house and roll a blunt. This time, I gave him $100 for an ounce, waited alllllll night, didnt get nothing. Next morning, I ask him what happened, he made up a shit ton of bullshit. Saying that his friend took it, blah blah blah. Then he leaves and doesn't come back that not. I ask him today where my shits at, and he said this logan kid had it, i asked logan where my ounce is at and he said he doesnt have it. then my neighbor said he would go get it, he'd be back in 30 mins. so i waited for 30 mins, he showed up, acted like nothing was happening. then i asked him again where my shit was and he said he has it but isn't giving it to me until someone gives him the keys to his car (this car is broken down, and i dont have it hes just fuckin trippin). I know that he ripped me and my question is, How the fuck could I get him to give me my $100 back or my ounce?? I cant beat him up because he always rolls with like 6-8 people. ]]> Guidance And Support Michael69 http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/153032-help-me.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152978-my-thoughts-college.html Sat, 14 Nov 2009 00:27:23 GMT This is my second year going to a local community college and I don't feel like I'm learning a thing. I've taken a couple good courses; psychology and equipment operation/small engines were fun and I'm enjoying my philosophy class.

I'm there for a degree in Liberal Arts. I was in engineering but there was some bs with that so I switched majors. I feel as though, when registration opens for the following semester, I'm just picking the easiest courses I can find because nothing they offer interests me. I am taking an Art class this semester, but I have used up all my open electives at this point.

Besides the few courses I take that I really look forwards to going to, it's all the same rhetoric recited by different professors. In my literature class, for example, we've read probably 15 or so pieces that we have discussed in class and I have even written a paper on the Odyssey, but I can't tell you much besides the main premise of each story.

The same thing with math and other subjects, too. I can't remember much of pre-calc 2, psychology, how to write a paper according to MLA format, citations, anything chemistry. I took a course on the new windows office suite, but after 5 months I don't know how to do much in excel besides open a spreadsheet and input values into cells.

The only history I know is what I watch on the History channel, Military channel, or look up on my own. Like the stories I have read in Lit class, the stuff we learn in "History" is in and out of my head like a cheap hooker in a motel.

Some people have offered the idea that perhaps we're just going to school to learn how to deal with people and it's where we get used to working white collar, cubicle shit jobs typing on computers all day. I don't like this thought and refuse to have a “career” working in some office doing remedial work surrounded mindless fools. I've worked at the shipping end of a company that has a large “office group”. They are all mind washed idiots who can't wait for their flu shots, opening Christmas presents or whatever holiday which best idealizes consumerism the most.

I still don't know what I want to do with this "knowledge" I have attained.

Throughout my entire school career, I have learned more about doing my best at not doing anything, but making it look as though I am. I think this has to do with the fact that the only one consistent thing throughout elementary, High school and college, is that I have home-work to do that I don't want to do and I don't care about. This is literally the only consistent learning I can attest to (besides being a kiss-ass).

Now I don't mean to sound like I don't give a shit about my education, I get good grades and my professors seem to like me. I pay attention in class and take notes, do most of my homework on time and do well on my tests. I show up prepared for class most days, I don't ever need to ask someone for a pen or paper (that's my own responsibility), and I don't use my phone in class.

Right now I'm supposed to be working on an essay that's due on Thursday, it's a detailed analysis of a character from one of the works we read for class or some other humble crap. What essays really are, are bullshit. It's just a way for them to measure how well can we comprehend instructions, extrapolate information, interpret that informations, and we work it into some superficial “thesis” statement that I absolutely don't care about. I have found the easiest way to get an A on my papers is to do the very minimal work while still proving the thesis statement, and make it eloquent enough to be easy to read.
The only things I have learned in school that I can consider practical knowledge, knowledge I'm going to use in real life, is what I learned in high school. I went to a technical school for carpentry and I use the skills and knowledge of that almost every day and I feel very fortunate to have that.

I'm continually ushered to make big decisions about the rest of my life in the courses I take at school, but it doesn't seem, to me, to make much sense if I can't find an interest in anything there. I have absolutely no idea as to what I want to do for the rest of my life and I don't think that college is going to help me find that.

The only thing I'm really, honestly, looking forward to is a service trip I am going on. In January myself and a group of 15 or so students and advisors are going to New Orleans to help rebuild houses that were destroyed in hurricane Katrina. This will be my first time going to a culturally different area; Florida really doesn't count and the family drove down to FL when I was younger.

I sometimes feel like I'm the only person who sees things from this perspective, which makes it hard for most people to understand and why I usually don't bother telling them. When they ask about college I tell them I'm going to a community college for Liberal Arts and I'm going to transfer to a public university when I graduate. This actually helps me tell who actually cares about my life, and who is just asking out of repetition, because someone who actually cared wouldn't be satisfied with such a vague answer. ]]> Guidance And Support osirus2020 http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152978-my-thoughts-college.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152963-its-boy-again.html Fri, 13 Nov 2009 04:34:02 GMT The wife and I went to get an ultrasound done today and it turns out we're expecting another boy. We all thought it was going to be a girl, so we didn't give the whole boy thing too much thought, now we're getting into the war of baby names.

Any suggestions? We're looking for something strong, unique, and of course cool sounding. We have a couple we're tossing around but the more input, the better. (if it helps, our first son's name is Dante) ]]> Guidance And Support Debaser http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152963-its-boy-again.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152951-need-some-advice.html Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:28:42 GMT Before you read this, its more of a rant than anything else so just letting you guys know.

Alright, so from an outsiders perspective, everything is good in my life. I'm in a great university, getting straight a's this term, i got a steady job, i'm working out 3-4 times a week, and obviously I smoke a lil too much weed haha. But even through all of that, I still feel so alone.
I have awesome roommates who were my friends since freshman year. I have a lot of friends that range from nerdy freshman engineering students to gorgeous sorority girls to weekend warrior frat boys. But I guess the problem really lies with my girl issues. I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 years a few months ago and nothing seems to be going well since then. Yeah I get with girls every few weeks but nothing seems to happen after that either because they aren't interested or because I'm not interested. It feels like a big void in my life. My roommates are frat boys and they have girls they hang out with all the time and I just feel really left out. There's one girl that I hang out with a good amount, we hook up every now and then, but she always says we're nothing more than friends. It just sucks. I really liked having a girlfriend and having a person that I can talk to about everything and anything and having a more than friends relationship. Right now though, I feel really alone even though I have so many awesome people in my life and I just don't know what to do to get that feeling to go away.

So basically I'm asking if you guys have any advice or anything that can help me out or if its just normal to have a life doomed to never getting what I want (I sure hope not!) ]]> Guidance And Support HappyToker http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152951-need-some-advice.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152912-university-parents-bs.html Wed, 11 Nov 2009 01:22:03 GMT ok so my high school marks were shit, and i couldn't go to uni right after graduation. instead i went to a community college and i graduated three years later (diploma in mechanical engineering). now i'm looking into going to university so i can get my bachelor's degree. most schools in my area don't do college transfers. there's a few other schools across the province that do, but i'd have to live on rez (more expensive). one school that i'm looking into has a college transfer program that was planned out exclusively for people like me, i can get the bachelors in two years instead of the regular four years. seems like the best option for me, except for one downside: its like 20 hours away from where i live, i really dont care, but my parents do.

my parents insist that i try to get into one of the universities that's closer (but not close enough to commute), even though i'd have to take the full four years and have to go like $60k into debt just to go there. it makes no sense to me at all. i took a year off after graduating college so i can save up to pay for at least part of my tuition, they're twisting this around into how i "wasted a year already, what do i care if it take 2 or 4 years to get the bachelors"

i had an incident this summer where i got drunk and crashed my bike, and had to be picked up by them from the hospital... and now they're all "what if something like that happens and were 20hrs away, who's gonna help you, bla bla bla", whatever, it was the one time that something like that happened, i've learned my lesson, im not going to repeat the same mistake. they wouldn't even listen to me. they also think im an alcoholic and drug addict because i like to drink a couple tallboys and smoke some bowls on the weekends.

i'm not even sure if ill get into any other schools, so its pretty much either this or nothing. everytime i bring up the topic that i might have to go to that school they freak and start spouting the same aforementioned bullshit at me and trying to dismiss it as not even an option to be considered.

if it comes down to it im going to school regardless of what they say, its not like they can stop me, but i dont want to ruin my relationship with them. what should i do? ]]> Guidance And Support Parallax http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152912-university-parents-bs.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152784-i-get-my-son-back-today.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 18:06:17 GMT Some of you know that I have been having to deal with Child Protective Services since Feb. I had my son taken from me after my ex beat me and I tested positive for marijuana. Since then I have had only supervised visits once a week. I went to court yesterday and I get my bitty boy back today!! I am so excited. I was so nervous about court yesterday I straight broke out in hives haha. Thank you all for your support in my time of need. Image:... Some of you know that I have been having to deal with Child Protective Services since Feb. I had my son taken from me after my ex beat me and I tested positive for marijuana. Since then I have had only supervised visits once a week. I went to court yesterday and I get my bitty boy back today!! I am so excited. I was so nervous about court yesterday I straight broke out in hives haha. Thank you all for your support in my time of need.

]]> Guidance And Support Stoney http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152784-i-get-my-son-back-today.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152776-you-guys-wont-believe-shit.html Thu, 05 Nov 2009 04:33:36 GMT So I've been dating this girl off and on (super casually) for about a year, with the entire summer off. Things got back to normal once school started back, and within a month or so we were officially a couple.

She comes from a pretty religious/strict family, and hinted at that all last year that she didnt want to get serious because this was a pretty big reason, which i took as just pressure from her parents and stuff.

Anyways, we were talking a couple days ago and surprise surprise, after 5 weeks of being a couple, she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.

I adore this girl and would do just about anything for her, except for this. What the fuck am i supposed to do/say ? ]]> Guidance And Support vanilla http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152776-you-guys-wont-believe-shit.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152687-dating-older-women-men.html Sat, 31 Oct 2009 05:25:02 GMT What's the cap? Two, five 10 years. Got this hot Kenyan date Tomorrow and I literally didn't know if she was 20 or 30. She 25. Fine with me. ]]> Guidance And Support Rubix http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152687-dating-older-women-men.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152631-apparently-i-am-what-they-call-unreliable.html Wed, 28 Oct 2009 23:12:28 GMT My friends have been getting on my case lately for chronically changing my mind. I may say I'll go camping with them, or have them over for halloween or go out drinking with them but then, later, I'll tell them to "nevermind". Granted, I do my best to give notice of my change of heart well in advanced, they still seem to take great offense. They take it personally. I wonder why? Feelings change. Why can't they understand that? How am I supposed to know if I'm going to want to go on a field trip a week in advance. I do what I want when I want. I would never get mad at someone else for ditching me (again, as long as he gives decent notice). I don't like being in demand. :(

I think it's is a habit that is common with stoners. ]]> Guidance And Support Mercury http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152631-apparently-i-am-what-they-call-unreliable.html http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152601-i-got-busted.html Tue, 27 Oct 2009 16:05:48 GMT ok this took place friday night, need advice, heres the story as clearly as i remember it:

driving along, going slightly fast, cop pulls me over, turns on big search light.
license and registration are handed over.
"have you been smoking marijuana tonite?"
"nope"
"are you sure?"
"yes" (i was kinda baked...1st mistake)
"is there any marijuana in the car?"
"nope" (none in the car)
"do you smoke marijuana?"
"nope" (lie..2nd mistake, but irrelevant to the case)
"so if i searched the car would i find any marijuana or what?"
"no"
"ok im going to search the car" (proceeds to call in backup)
"i do not consent to a search"
(makes no difference, backup comes)
-i step out of the car, cooperate well and am searched, turn out clean.
-friend steps out of car, searched, beer is found in pocket, under 21
-car is searched slowly and carefully, but now more thoroughly, two empty beer cans turn up.
-cop pops trunk, search trunk
-finds a backpack with a QP of shrooms, a scale, and a backpack with 15 beers
-both arrested, taken to station, bailed out a few hours later.

ok, so im being charged with:
- possession/intent to distribute class C (mushrooms)
- minor possession of alcohol
- minor open container
- and a fucking speeding ticket on top of it

i feel that i have a pretty good case as far as my 4th amendment rights being violated, from my experience the the search had no probable cause whatsoever and the seizure was illegal. the only possible reasons are that my eyes could have been red. other than that he played with my words and basically was intending to search the car before he even stepped out. complete dick head cop from a small ass town. im ashamed of myself to give him the best bust of his life.

i have a clean record, never been caught with weed, nothing. im facing a maximum sentence of 2.5 years in jail, but most likely probation and some fines, maybe drug classes. ill also lose my license for a year. but i think that with a good lawyer i might get the case tossed out. im praying, haha. anyway give me advice, im new to the legal system, so far its a bunch of bullshit, went to court yesterday and i have to be back november 30th. shit sucks. ]]> Guidance And Support greengreengreen http://www.yahooka.com/forum/guidance-support/152601-i-got-busted.html