So a girl cheated on her boyfriend with me.

anaujiram · 05-12-2008, 12:32 AM

And I thought I was better than that. We didn't fuck or anything, but had a very romantic day and evening that ended with several of the most passionate kisses I've ever had. When I say romantic, I mean it in an almost stereotypical sense. Had no plans for the day, but ended up sitting on top of a hill for hours with a bottle of wine until way past the sunset. First kiss was incredible too. There was that pause where you look at each other, and then touch her cheek and move her head toward yours.

This girl's awesome. Smokes as much weed as I do, is smart, good looking, easy for me to talk to (which isn't all that common with a girl that I really like), and everything else that I like about her.

Sigh.

She still likes her boyfriend, but they're in kind of a weird place and she's trying to figure out how to break up with him. I feel shitty because he's a nice guy, but when I think about it, I wouldn't want to be with a girl who likes me less than I think she does. Still. I'm not gonna feel good when I'm on the other end of the same kind of situation.

Ah, well, all I can do is wait and see what happens. I think if she doesn't end her thing within a week, I should just tell her not to. If it's that hard for her, she probably shouldn't do it.

Thoughts?

Prophet Saddam · 05-12-2008, 12:42 AM

Follow your heart, but don't set yourself up to take a fall.

If she's willing to do this with her current b/f, why would you be different? I see you've already thought of that, so best of luck!

generic_hippie · 05-12-2008, 03:44 AM

yep, start your RELATIONSHIP with somebody who cheats

and people wonder at the 50% divorce rate

kingmotherfuckinmidas · 05-12-2008, 05:42 AM

yea that sucks, i was kinda in the same situation, except i was the one already in a relationship and she knew it but for about a week it was great just hanging out but she started feeling guilty and i haven't heard from her since.

spicoli · 05-12-2008, 07:13 AM

i wouldn't worry so much. cheating is never good, but you're not married or engaged, and neither is she, right? you kissed, it was innocent enough...if you feel that bad, next time you talk to her, tell her you won't be seeing or talking to her until she figures out what she wants.

Patrick Rue · 05-12-2008, 08:07 AM

Take her but remember she's a ho.

And youre experiencing some youth type shit, everyone goes through. I used to have morals too, theres evidence in my old posts.

Nowadays I'm more of the school of thought that they're all ho's, so it doesn't matter.

But like everyone else said, she'll do the same to you cause she's clearly either a manipulative bitch or a pussy too afraid to confront someone. Eitherway you don't want to really involve your feeling with this girl.

Flamingnun · 05-12-2008, 08:32 AM

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Originally Posted by anaujiram

We didn't fuck or anything

Well then stop worrying.

**Canuck Wisdom** · 05-12-2008, 08:45 AM

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Originally Posted by anaujiram

Ah, well, all I can do is wait and see what happens. I think if she doesn't end her thing within a week, I should just tell her not to. If it's that hard for her, she probably shouldn't do it.

Thoughts?

That sounds best. And be serious, don't say one thing and then cave later.

turmaline · 05-12-2008, 08:50 AM

Don't get your hopes up, she's probably already on her way to rebounding.

Goodluck though.

Lloydy · 05-12-2008, 09:26 AM

bend n send

tedkennedy · 05-12-2008, 10:18 AM

the most sensible course of action would be to murder her boyfriend and then marry her and go to mexico until shit cools down

Mafoo · 05-12-2008, 11:48 AM

GH is right, are you going to be able to trust this chick when its just you two?

id play the waiting game, just keep from getting too attached until you get a good idea of what the chick is all about

anitablaze · 05-12-2008, 11:52 AM

ahahaha good call ^^ but if that option is a little too harsh for you:
screw girls they are all cunts ill admit it. we either dont give a damn about you, and just want to fuck, or they care wayyy too much, and stay away from those psychos. fuck and chuck is the way to go.

bingbong · 05-12-2008, 02:05 PM

the worst thing that could happen to me is that my girlfriend would cheat on me for a long time and then finally tell me and break up with me. if she found someone else when we were already ify and ended it then i wouldnt be pissed, id just be sad. you already know that shes the type that will just tel you....as long as she does it within a week, more than that then yes shes a ho and you should probably just bang her once and then be done with it.

spicoli · 05-12-2008, 02:54 PM

damn, you guys are harsh...what's wrong with a young girl being confused about her feelings? she's young...she'll figure it out, and if it's too late, her bad...but damn guys. a ho? cuz she kissed another boy and is confused? lighten up!

Patrick Rue · 05-12-2008, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by spicoli

a ho? cuz she kissed another boy and is confused?

yeah, it's really that simple

generic_hippie · 05-12-2008, 03:28 PM

monogamy is a decision

choose somebody who is not shopping while still attached

gweetar · 05-12-2008, 06:51 PM

Spicoli - I'm with you, and I'm a guy. Nobody's perfect. When I was younger, I was dating one girl and then started "feeling around" with another, trying to figure things out. I liked my current girlfriend, but she made it too difficult to be in a relationship. She was always testing me and pushing me, and I just got tired of it, so I "reached out" just like just about EVERYONE has done, and I "tested the waters" with another girl. No, I don't mean sex, just talked and hung out, and yes, a little kissing, etc.

And, I've dated women who's "best friend" was a guy and she was clearly cheating on me with him. (Hell, in one instance, I think it was a "her".)

Guys are no better than girls. Girls are no better than guys. Each one will screw you and do what they have/want to do, when it comes down to it. Everyones' looking out for themselves, unfortunately.

The one thing I will say, is that I agree with those who tell you to back off. Don't just hang around, waiting for her to make up her mind.

WildWill · 05-12-2008, 06:56 PM

Meh - unless there's a RING on her finger, if it's meant to be, why let outside interferences get in the way? I say if she's into you then she'll leave the other guy by the wayside and be with you. If not, it's not meant to be and move on.

But, Boyfriend/Girlfriend doesn't mean a whole lot to me, even if you're cohabitating. RINGS mean something. I never cheated on my girlfriend (now my wife), and she never cheated on me - though there was a brief moment of time where we both were not as into the relationship as we had been and thought about breaking up.

BUT in the past, I was in a relationship with one girl and didn't break up with her until AFTER I started dating another. But it was OK because the relationship was doomed to begin with.

anaujiram · 05-12-2008, 08:08 PM

I should clarify.

There was no "shopping around." This is incredibly out of character for the both of us.

I've known this girl for a few years as an acquaintance, but had never really talked until a few weeks ago. Still, given that nothing is private in high school, and the fact that I knew many people that DID know her better than me, I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is not characteristic behavior for her.

About 3 months ago, we talked for a bit, exchanged numbers, and said we should hang

05-12-2008, 12:42 AM	#2 (permalink)
Prophet Saddam Crazy Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: CA Posts: 15,249 Blog Entries: 11 Thanks: 1,374 Thanked 279 Times in 198 Posts	Follow your heart, but don't set yourself up to take a fall. If she's willing to do this with her current b/f, why would you be different? I see you've already thought of that, so best of luck! __________________ don't blame me, I am voting for Ron Paul

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generic_hippie question authority Join Date: May 2003 Location: 20 km's from Nimbin, Australia Posts: 4,600 Thanks: 58 Thanked 170 Times in 121 Posts	yep, start your RELATIONSHIP with somebody who cheats and people wonder at the 50% divorce rate __________________ All we are saying is give POT to everybody all the time...

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spicoli YaHookan Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cali Posts: 549 Thanks: 79 Thanked 52 Times in 42 Posts	i wouldn't worry so much. cheating is never good, but you're not married or engaged, and neither is she, right? you kissed, it was innocent enough...if you feel that bad, next time you talk to her, tell her you won't be seeing or talking to her until she figures out what she wants. __________________ "Bad is never good until worse happens." -Danish Proverb

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Patrick Rue Boss of Bluntville Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 16,368 Thanks: 349 Thanked 234 Times in 113 Posts	Take her but remember she's a ho. And youre experiencing some youth type shit, everyone goes through. I used to have morals too, theres evidence in my old posts. Nowadays I'm more of the school of thought that they're all ho's, so it doesn't matter. But like everyone else said, she'll do the same to you cause she's clearly either a manipulative bitch or a pussy too afraid to confront someone. Eitherway you don't want to really involve your feeling with this girl. __________________ 6 Month Plan

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tedkennedy now 14% blacker Join Date: Apr 2005 Posts: 3,335 Thanks: 4 Thanked 112 Times in 73 Posts	the most sensible course of action would be to murder her boyfriend and then marry her and go to mexico until shit cools down __________________ BRACe YO' SELF FOOL!

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turmaline YaHookan Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 245 Thanks: 1 Thanked 22 Times in 17 Posts	Don't get your hopes up, she's probably already on her way to rebounding. Goodluck though.

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Mafoo semitone from stoned Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: a crazy place called my mind Posts: 1,217 Thanks: 43 Thanked 31 Times in 27 Posts	GH is right, are you going to be able to trust this chick when its just you two? id play the waiting game, just keep from getting too attached until you get a good idea of what the chick is all about __________________ "Knowledge speaks, wisdom listens" Hendrix "A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger"- words to live by

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anitablaze we r the naked ones Join Date: May 2008 Location: buttfuck nowhere Posts: 126 Blog Entries: 8 Thanks: 10 Thanked 10 Times in 10 Posts	ahahaha good call ^^ but if that option is a little too harsh for you: screw girls they are all cunts ill admit it. we either dont give a damn about you, and just want to fuck, or they care wayyy too much, and stay away from those psychos. fuck and chuck is the way to go. __________________ BOMBING for PEACE is like FUCKING for VIRGINITY "I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent"- Mohandas K. Gandhi Look at what it's doing to you; but that's okay, look at how it feels.

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bingbong YaHookan Join Date: Mar 2008 Posts: 39 Thanks: 1 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	the worst thing that could happen to me is that my girlfriend would cheat on me for a long time and then finally tell me and break up with me. if she found someone else when we were already ify and ended it then i wouldnt be pissed, id just be sad. you already know that shes the type that will just tel you....as long as she does it within a week, more than that then yes shes a ho and you should probably just bang her once and then be done with it.

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spicoli YaHookan Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cali Posts: 549 Thanks: 79 Thanked 52 Times in 42 Posts	damn, you guys are harsh...what's wrong with a young girl being confused about her feelings? she's young...she'll figure it out, and if it's too late, her bad...but damn guys. a ho? cuz she kissed another boy and is confused? lighten up! __________________ "Bad is never good until worse happens." -Danish Proverb

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generic_hippie question authority Join Date: May 2003 Location: 20 km's from Nimbin, Australia Posts: 4,600 Thanks: 58 Thanked 170 Times in 121 Posts	monogamy is a decision choose somebody who is not shopping while still attached __________________ All we are saying is give POT to everybody all the time...

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gweetar YaHookan Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 269 Thanks: 48 Thanked 41 Times in 33 Posts	Spicoli - I'm with you, and I'm a guy. Nobody's perfect. When I was younger, I was dating one girl and then started "feeling around" with another, trying to figure things out. I liked my current girlfriend, but she made it too difficult to be in a relationship. She was always testing me and pushing me, and I just got tired of it, so I "reached out" just like just about EVERYONE has done, and I "tested the waters" with another girl. No, I don't mean sex, just talked and hung out, and yes, a little kissing, etc. And, I've dated women who's "best friend" was a guy and she was clearly cheating on me with him. (Hell, in one instance, I think it was a "her".) Guys are no better than girls. Girls are no better than guys. Each one will screw you and do what they have/want to do, when it comes down to it. Everyones' looking out for themselves, unfortunately. The one thing I will say, is that I agree with those who tell you to back off. Don't just hang around, waiting for her to make up her mind.

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WildWill Go Medical! Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Beverly Hills Adjacent Posts: 212 Thanks: 34 Thanked 29 Times in 24 Posts	Meh - unless there's a RING on her finger, if it's meant to be, why let outside interferences get in the way? I say if she's into you then she'll leave the other guy by the wayside and be with you. If not, it's not meant to be and move on. But, Boyfriend/Girlfriend doesn't mean a whole lot to me, even if you're cohabitating. RINGS mean something. I never cheated on my girlfriend (now my wife), and she never cheated on me - though there was a brief moment of time where we both were not as into the relationship as we had been and thought about breaking up. BUT in the past, I was in a relationship with one girl and didn't break up with her until AFTER I started dating another. But it was OK because the relationship was doomed to begin with. __________________ Custom Volcano Bags http://www.geocities.com/wmnoe/volcanobags.html