new spark for an old flame...

[CowMan]

Well, this might take a whole to write/read but I would appreciate some feedback on this situation i'm getting myself into.

Ok, the easiest way to start is to work our way backwards from here...

Right now I'm seeing this amazing woman whom I adore with every waking breath. She's beautiful and charming, full of wit and intelligence, and makes everything better in my life just by being there. She's super cute, has sholder length brown hair, deep brown eyes, an amazing smile and the body of a goddess.

I've been sleeping with her for about a month now and none of my feelings have waivered, not even a flicker of a doubt that I care about her and I lust for her and that I am completely engrosed in her.

The thing is; We've done this before. A long time before. 5 years to be exact. We ended our relationship 5 years ago and i hadn't spoken more then 4 words to her until a month ago when randomly i ran into her and she said we should hang out sometime, I asked her to come get a fruit smoothy with me and she accepted.

Now when we ended the relationship 5 years ago a lot of shit had been going on in the relationship. She was a douche bag sometimes and so was I. After we broke up she started going out with this guy i knew my whole life and always thought he was a douche bag. I'm not sure, but i think she started going out with him to piss me off. They went out for a while, eventually she broke up with him. After which she started going out with this other high school friend of mine. I was, and still am, completely cool with this guy who lives around the corner from me and we see each other on a regular basis.

They broke up about 6 months ago and since then, according to her, she's been 'playing the feild'. Which I just assumed meant sleeping around a fair deal. I haven't confirmed anything with anyone but this is my impression.

Anyone who knows me from this board know's i tend to go out and 'play the feild' myself and I can't hold any of that against her. And I don't. I don't hold any of the shit that happened 5+ years ago against her. I don't hold her relationships with 2 school buddies of mine against her, I don't hold her possibly slutty behavior of the past 6 months against her either. I've pretty much just let it all go.


And thats the most refreshing, rewarding feeling I've ever exerienced. I can forgive and forget about all the other shit that happened and look to the future with this girl, instead of dwelling in the past.

Pretty much every night for the last month she's been sleeping in my bed, being my naked little spoon, usually after a good deep dicking and a nice bowl of green to cap off the night. I'm usually waking up to sex or a blowjob or a backrub. When she was on the rag, she brought me breakfast in bed. What a woman.

It's pretty much the most perfect situation I've been in since... well... since we broke up.

I've been single for the most part of that 5 years. Any relationship has lasted a maximum of 4 months and usually been mostly sexual in nature. Infact there's not much to say about 'em except for the crazy amounts of sex and weird shit that they did.

Anyways, I am just looking for some insight here. I don't know anyone that can relate to this situation and all of my friends/ppl i've told are juat all 'Ohhhhh that's like the cutest story everrrr'. So i was kinda looking for more into it and maybe just to get the story written down somewhere...



People that knew us when we were going out thought that we were really good together back then. In high school we were voted most likely to get married. A week later we were broken up. We haden't spoken to each other until 5 years later almost to the day. The day that we ran into each other and went for a booster juice...

We've been fuckin' and smokin' and enjoying each others company since then.

[turmaline]

Go with it, people change alot in 5 years.

Just try to be mature about your relationship...have fun don't sweat the small stuff.

Go with the flow?

Sounds like things are going good.

[verklingen]

you guys are equals. neither owes the other anything for any past transgressions. those are in the past, they only affect the present if you decide they should. if both of you can decide otherwise, it's smooth sailing.

[CowMan]

Thanks, things are going very well thus far.

Also something worth noting is she says she doesn't want the labels of bf/gf. And this is fine with me, i'm completely ok with a lack of labels. But it makes me wonder if there's an alterior motive to that request, which she brought up on her own.

She also said she doesn't want me to sleep with anyone else... So she doesn't want me as a bf, but she dosen't want me to sleep around either.... I'm ok with both of this, but again, it just seems... suspicious. Maybe i'm just paranoid.

[Patrick Rue]

You got game cowman.

[Porcelain]

People can change a great deal in 5 years especially seeing as how you were both in high school back then. It seems like you guys are fuck buddies to be honest. To me, fuck buddies are not people who drunk dial each other once a month when they've exhausted their phone book in the middle of the night. True fuck buddies are people who have some sort of established friendship and they really don't fuck other people but they're also not bf/gf and don't bring any of those "relationship politics" into their shiat. There's really not much to be suspicious about in terms of that. It is what it is and if you're both down for that, more power to ya.

[CowMan]

hmm... I guess I'm not sure how I feel about that...

I'll probably just try to enjoy the ride and not think about it too much... I mean, I'm having sex twice a day and I now have someone to go out on dates with and bring places where it used to be weird when i showed up stag...

I have kind of been looking for a gf for the last little while, tbh. But I don't think i really weighed my alternatives out... this is something i guess i'll have to sit on for a while... and as long as things are going good, why not?

[Porcelain]

Well, just because she's your fuck buddy now, doesn't mean things won't change in the long run. Perhaps she's feeling you out just the same. You never really know what she's been through since you guys split and what her agenda in terms of relationships really is.
It's cute that you're looking for a gf but you can't make things happen through sheer will. Like you said, just enjoy being in her presence and see how it plays out.

[CowMan]

Yeah, I think she is feeling me out... as i am with her.. people do change.

I told her I have no problem with taking things slow(even if she is sleeping with me every night) because I want this to work. And i certainly don't need the labels of bf/gf for us to work... i just want her to be happy.

so far, so good.