Don't relate to my friends as much as I used to.

smb43432 · 05-14-2008, 01:00 PM

My friends are typical stoners. They smoke weed everyday and most of the time they're talking about weed. 2 of my 3 good friends that are stoners quit football and do nothing but smoke. I still smoke but not even close to the amount that they do. I take breaks. When I hang out with them I hardly have anything too say.I don't care about half the stuff they're talking about. I don't have to many other close friends so I want to keep them as friends. I still have fun with them when they do other stuff like basketball. When I do smoke I still have fun with them but when I don't I have nothing else that relates me to them. I don't want to turn into a stoner again when summer starts and I don't have to worry about grades but I want hang out with my friends. I'm not sure what this thread is asking but wanted to make a thread anyways. Has anyone else felt like there friends smoke to much weed?

Prophet Saddam · 05-15-2008, 03:13 AM

It's totally natural at your age to begin distancing yourself from people you had previously considered friends. It's part of growing up.

Don't be afraid of forging new friendships and expanding your social network. You're still young and don't have much to lose by putting yourself out there.

Spinnaker · 05-15-2008, 11:38 AM

^^ That might work... but also...

Take up drinking.

Seeds&Stems · 05-15-2008, 12:50 PM

I agree man. When I stopped smoking heavily for the most part I found I had little in common with the majority of my friends. Its part of growing up I guess. When I think back ten years I maybe have 2 people that I still would call friends, but the bond with them is stronger than ever.

I know it sounds generic, but just do some things that interest you and meet some new friends. Hang out with a shit load of new people, you might only make one or two real friends, but that better than 20 "acquaintances".

spicoli · 05-15-2008, 12:55 PM

don't give up on what you want for yourself, rather, don't lower the standards you set for yourself based on what your friends are doing. do hang out...but you don't have to be smoking all the time. you can be straight or whatever and still hang out. it sounds like the prophet said, you are growing up.
at some point or another, as sad as it is many people will 'outgrow' their high school friends. not necessarily just becoming more mature, but expanding your views and attitudes. this will make u want to hang out with like people, who share your curiosities, ideas, interests, etc. go out and meet some new friends, and keeps your old ones too.

Rubix · 05-15-2008, 12:57 PM

one of my few actual friends just got picked up on a warrant, its almost like im getting over the fact that he's going to be screw up. being on probation, not talking to your po, living with someone who has a no contact order against him, smoking and drinking all the time; is it really worth spending up to a year in jail?

smb43432 · 05-15-2008, 04:01 PM

Ya they kind of pissed me off today. They said at the beginning of the year that they were going to play football but I knew that it was a lie, they smoke way to much to be dedicated. But they started saying how bad are team is gonna suck even though we've made the playoffs the past two years. I didn't sit by them for the first time all year and now it's really tense when I'm around them. I mean I love playing football and I think they forget what it's all about. I think I'm gonna start hanging out with some of my football friends. Most of them are a year younger but I get along with them well since we both have the same goals. If they don't start giving a damn about there life's I'd not sure if I want to hang with them anymore?

Rubix · 05-15-2008, 05:41 PM

yea i almost feel when i smoke with others, my high actually just gets killed being exposed to such insecurity and lack of respect. one bowl at the end of the day for me

turmaline · 05-16-2008, 09:31 AM

Sounds like you are moving ahead and they are stalemate. Continue to do what you want to do. Continue in sports and other interests. You have to keep yourself in these things because once you stop and do what your friends are doing, it's way hard to get yourself motivated again.

You'll make new friends, don't worry.
I myself was into all kinds of things, then I kinda conformed to...sitting on the couch playing video games and watching movies or just getting drunk with my boyfriend/husband now, ten years later I'm finding it really hard to find new friends who arent into those things...or I mean being motivated to find friends i guess.

kamikazi89 · 05-16-2008, 09:34 AM

network: keep it fresh, and motivated

THCaliLivin · 05-21-2008, 12:53 AM

been there... when you hang out with lazy people, they make you lazy... I try and smoke with my friends that get high and do shit... This may sound strange but do you have ADD/ADHD? Because I do and have a few other friends who do and we smoke more than anyone while maintaining jobs and going to college... we hardly ever just sit on the couch all day smoking, but we do smoke the bombest cali weed all day. It's just we go out and play sports, party, hike, whatever... I DO have lazy stoner freinds also, but I can only chill with them for so long, ya know...

jag8 · 05-21-2008, 10:08 AM

weed doesn't make a great time. it only enhances the moment, making a good time better.

im sure you can find atleast 1 or 2 stoners on the football team.... best of both worlds.

smb43432 · 05-21-2008, 06:22 PM

I'm pretty sure I don't have ADD. I have maintained A's and B's through my junior year. I think I'm going to just stop smokin all together at least for a little bit even though summer is about to start. Actually I think I will buy one sack during the summer and then I will stop and focus on football.

xMSx · 05-26-2008, 10:24 PM

Like the others have been saying this is a growing process. If you believe that weed was the only unifying factor of your friendship, then maybe it is time to move on. But if you enjoy hanging with them, maybe its something worth salvaging.

kamikazi89 · 05-27-2008, 08:27 AM

yea, don't write people off..life is long, you never know

smb43432 · 05-27-2008, 12:43 PM

They're cool they just make to many bad decisions imo. My friend that I get along with the best got taken out of school today for violating a restraining order and even though he didn't get in trouble there always doing dumb stuff like this because they just don't care if they get caught or w/e. I'm the complete opposite in that aspect but I still want to be friends with them I know that for sure. I don't even know I'll see if they they follow through with this football thing.

wmarcus1203 · 06-17-2008, 10:45 PM

I have a few friends that i dont have much in common with either besides weed, so I just slowly stopped hanging around them. Every once in a while we will get really high and go see a movie. I go to Hempfest with them every year but thats it now.

In your situation I would go to more party's and get ppls numbers and just talk with ppl, your bound to meet some cool ppl. Maybe even a hot girl??? Good luck either way.

The_First_Roach · 06-17-2008, 10:48 PM

I have a bunch of friends like this. I use to move from clique to clique because i would start getting annoyed by some. Most recent was because all my friends would just want to smoke pot and play video games and talk about pot while playing the games. Screw all that . I've decided to just hang out with everyone. Different cliques different days.

TokinPrincess · 06-18-2008, 11:08 AM

None of my close friends from school smoke. My situation is exactly the opposite. I'm still the same person, but I can't joke about smoking or anything because they all probably are against it. The stoner friends I have are the people I met through my sister. I told one of my friends but thats it.

05-14-2008, 01:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
smb43432 insert clever saying here Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: yahooka Posts: 1,115 Thanks: 3 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	Don't relate to my friends as much as I used to. My friends are typical stoners. They smoke weed everyday and most of the time they're talking about weed. 2 of my 3 good friends that are stoners quit football and do nothing but smoke. I still smoke but not even close to the amount that they do. I take breaks. When I hang out with them I hardly have anything too say.I don't care about half the stuff they're talking about. I don't have to many other close friends so I want to keep them as friends. I still have fun with them when they do other stuff like basketball. When I do smoke I still have fun with them but when I don't I have nothing else that relates me to them. I don't want to turn into a stoner again when summer starts and I don't have to worry about grades but I want hang out with my friends. I'm not sure what this thread is asking but wanted to make a thread anyways. Has anyone else felt like there friends smoke to much weed? __________________ And I know she loves me to because she makes me eat

05-15-2008, 03:13 AM	#2 (permalink)
Prophet Saddam Crazy Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: CA Posts: 16,019 Blog Entries: 11 Thanks: 2,134 Thanked 382 Times in 283 Posts	It's totally natural at your age to begin distancing yourself from people you had previously considered friends. It's part of growing up. Don't be afraid of forging new friendships and expanding your social network. You're still young and don't have much to lose by putting yourself out there. __________________ Saddam's Friends

05-15-2008, 11:38 AM	#3 (permalink)
Spinnaker Vanilla McAwesome Join Date: May 2008 Location: Calgary, Alberta, CA Posts: 13 Thanks: 1 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	^^ That might work... but also... Take up drinking. __________________ "The postman wants an autograph. The cab driver wants a picture. The waitress wants a handshake. Everyone wants a piece of you." - John Lennon

05-15-2008, 12:55 PM	#5 (permalink)
spicoli YaHookan Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Cali Posts: 555 Thanks: 80 Thanked 56 Times in 45 Posts	don't give up on what you want for yourself, rather, don't lower the standards you set for yourself based on what your friends are doing. do hang out...but you don't have to be smoking all the time. you can be straight or whatever and still hang out. it sounds like the prophet said, you are growing up. at some point or another, as sad as it is many people will 'outgrow' their high school friends. not necessarily just becoming more mature, but expanding your views and attitudes. this will make u want to hang out with like people, who share your curiosities, ideas, interests, etc. go out and meet some new friends, and keeps your old ones too. __________________ "Bad is never good until worse happens." -Danish Proverb

05-15-2008, 12:57 PM	#6 (permalink)
Rubix Stoner Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Midwest Posts: 3,106 Thanks: 60 Thanked 56 Times in 44 Posts	one of my few actual friends just got picked up on a warrant, its almost like im getting over the fact that he's going to be screw up. being on probation, not talking to your po, living with someone who has a no contact order against him, smoking and drinking all the time; is it really worth spending up to a year in jail? __________________ would you like a cone with that?

05-15-2008, 04:01 PM	#7 (permalink)
smb43432 insert clever saying here Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: yahooka Posts: 1,115 Thanks: 3 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	Ya they kind of pissed me off today. They said at the beginning of the year that they were going to play football but I knew that it was a lie, they smoke way to much to be dedicated. But they started saying how bad are team is gonna suck even though we've made the playoffs the past two years. I didn't sit by them for the first time all year and now it's really tense when I'm around them. I mean I love playing football and I think they forget what it's all about. I think I'm gonna start hanging out with some of my football friends. Most of them are a year younger but I get along with them well since we both have the same goals. If they don't start giving a damn about there life's I'd not sure if I want to hang with them anymore? __________________ And I know she loves me to because she makes me eat

05-15-2008, 05:41 PM	#8 (permalink)
Rubix Stoner Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Midwest Posts: 3,106 Thanks: 60 Thanked 56 Times in 44 Posts	yea i almost feel when i smoke with others, my high actually just gets killed being exposed to such insecurity and lack of respect. one bowl at the end of the day for me __________________ would you like a cone with that?

05-16-2008, 09:31 AM	#9 (permalink)
turmaline YaHookan Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Canada Posts: 308 Thanks: 3 Thanked 31 Times in 24 Posts	Sounds like you are moving ahead and they are stalemate. Continue to do what you want to do. Continue in sports and other interests. You have to keep yourself in these things because once you stop and do what your friends are doing, it's way hard to get yourself motivated again. You'll make new friends, don't worry. I myself was into all kinds of things, then I kinda conformed to...sitting on the couch playing video games and watching movies or just getting drunk with my boyfriend/husband now, ten years later I'm finding it really hard to find new friends who arent into those things...or I mean being motivated to find friends i guess.

05-21-2008, 12:53 AM	#11 (permalink)
THCaliLivin YaHookan Join Date: May 2007 Location: All over Nor Cal, Bitches. Posts: 66 Thanks: 5 Thanked 7 Times in 6 Posts	been there... when you hang out with lazy people, they make you lazy... I try and smoke with my friends that get high and do shit... This may sound strange but do you have ADD/ADHD? Because I do and have a few other friends who do and we smoke more than anyone while maintaining jobs and going to college... we hardly ever just sit on the couch all day smoking, but we do smoke the bombest cali weed all day. It's just we go out and play sports, party, hike, whatever... I DO have lazy stoner freinds also, but I can only chill with them for so long, ya know...

05-21-2008, 10:08 AM	#12 (permalink)
jag8 nug get Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Reno, NV Posts: 1,261 Thanks: 19 Thanked 38 Times in 27 Posts	weed doesn't make a great time. it only enhances the moment, making a good time better. im sure you can find atleast 1 or 2 stoners on the football team.... best of both worlds.

05-21-2008, 06:22 PM	#13 (permalink)
smb43432 insert clever saying here Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: yahooka Posts: 1,115 Thanks: 3 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	I'm pretty sure I don't have ADD. I have maintained A's and B's through my junior year. I think I'm going to just stop smokin all together at least for a little bit even though summer is about to start. Actually I think I will buy one sack during the summer and then I will stop and focus on football. __________________ And I know she loves me to because she makes me eat

05-27-2008, 12:43 PM	#16 (permalink)
smb43432 insert clever saying here Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: yahooka Posts: 1,115 Thanks: 3 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	They're cool they just make to many bad decisions imo. My friend that I get along with the best got taken out of school today for violating a restraining order and even though he didn't get in trouble there always doing dumb stuff like this because they just don't care if they get caught or w/e. I'm the complete opposite in that aspect but I still want to be friends with them I know that for sure. I don't even know I'll see if they they follow through with this football thing. __________________ And I know she loves me to because she makes me eat

06-17-2008, 10:45 PM	#17 (permalink)
wmarcus1203 Soul Rebel Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Seattle, WA Posts: 48 Thanks: 2 Thanked 5 Times in 3 Posts	I have a few friends that i dont have much in common with either besides weed, so I just slowly stopped hanging around them. Every once in a while we will get really high and go see a movie. I go to Hempfest with them every year but thats it now. In your situation I would go to more party's and get ppls numbers and just talk with ppl, your bound to meet some cool ppl. Maybe even a hot girl??? Good luck either way. __________________

06-17-2008, 10:48 PM	#18 (permalink)
The_First_Roach Hail to the Thief Join Date: May 2008 Location: ATL Posts: 70 Thanks: 2 Thanked 12 Times in 10 Posts	I have a bunch of friends like this. I use to move from clique to clique because i would start getting annoyed by some. Most recent was because all my friends would just want to smoke pot and play video games and talk about pot while playing the games. Screw all that . I've decided to just hang out with everyone. Different cliques different days.

06-18-2008, 11:08 AM	#19 (permalink)
TokinPrincess get baked Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: South Florida Posts: 58 Thanks: 4 Thanked 4 Times in 4 Posts	None of my close friends from school smoke. My situation is exactly the opposite. I'm still the same person, but I can't joke about smoking or anything because they all probably are against it. The stoner friends I have are the people I met through my sister. I told one of my friends but thats it. __________________ "I'm way too baked to drive to the devil's house." -Dante (Grandma's Boy)

06-18-2008, 04:40 PM	#20 (permalink)
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