Got caught, have mixed feelings.

[reggiedrugs]

So basically I'm in my late teens and live at home, I've been smoking weed for about 6 months or so. Anyways for the past week I've been smoking in the bathroom with the fan on and no one said anything to me, yesterday I was doing the same thing. Well I hear my mom outside the door telling me to come out and she can smell it. So I walk out very guilty.

My little brother who has no experiences with drugs at all runs off crying afraid I'm going become addicted and overdose. My mom and I have a private talk and I decide to be completely honest which was a bit of a relief. I told her that I only smoke once to twice a week. She tells me she's not mad, just disappointed. I tell her I'm severely stressed with work and school and everything in general and get quite depressed often. She basically tells me it's a normal thing but she's really scared that I'm going to get caught and either have it on my record or go to jail. She told me about my uncle who's been to jail for crack on him for a year. Basically also that she's really worried about my stress and depression levels.

Then it was time to talk to my dad. He tells me that he smoked weed until he met my mother pretty much. He says that he's also afraid of me getting caught and he tells me that weed isn't a gateway drug as they say but he pleaded with me not to do anything harder than weed telling me how you can instantly die with unknown amount of weed and how addictive things like meth and crack are. He told me that he regrets smoking in his teens because they did affect his grades and my grades aren't amazing as they are but I haven't failed anything yet and he doesn't want me to start. He tells me once I'm in my 20s he has no problem at all with me smoking as long as I realize it's illegal and be very careful. His main two concerns was getting caught and that I'm still young enough my mind is still developing in the next year or two and he says that he believe drinking and smoking might limit the growth to what it could be.

Basically they both said they're disappointed and they'd prefer me not to but in the end it's my choice and they're not going to stop me. I'm really torn. I feel guilty about it. The only reason I had a problem with smoking weed in the first place is I didn't want to be a disappointment to my parents. I didn't want them to think they did something wrong raising me. I don't want to quit but I'm wondering what I should do. My mom commented on how if I do continue to do it she rather me smoking at home where it's harder to get caught then outside somewhere where it's easier. I want to continue smoking but I don't want my parents catching me again even now when they know I do smoke. I don't know if I should smoke only when I know they aren't going be home, or only at friends houses or quit completely.

Anyone want to add their two cents?

[WhatUsedToBe]

Its funny you posted this cause I am in the same exact dilemma. I dont wanna hijack your thread but I too would also like some advice, and I dont see a point in starting a new thread dealing with the same thing..

My situation:

A week ago my mom decided it'd be nice of her to clean out my car... Of course, she finds my bowl, my weed, lighter, jar and everything else. So being a mother, she flushes my weed and gets rid of my bowl. About 15min ago my dad called me into the garage to have a talk with me. Basically he made me feel like shit cause I smoke. He tells me he has friends who are moody assholes when they dont smoke, and that I sometimes get moody because I am jonesin for some weed (thats what he thinks). I have uncles and aunts who have thrown their lives down the drain from other drugs, but it started from weed. He goes on to tell me that its a stupid idea for me to drive while im high cause god forbid if I hurt myself or others, I would never be able to explain myself. Then he brings up the fact that im running a 100% risk of smoking something laced with bleach,rat poison, whatever. And if I keep up smoking, im gonna end up a brain dead loser and he doesn't want that cause im a smart kid with a bright future ahead of me. Then he ends the conversation with, It was a phase and now its over, its time to grow up and look ahead for your future... Just tell me if you need help quitting, they have places for that.

I wanna keep smoking... I love smokin when im alone, I really enjoy it. But I dont want my parents to think lowly of me. Even at the age of 19, I care alot about their opinion of me.

What do I do..

[Smaerd]

Do what you feel is right. It sounds kind of like you guys are just in a "smoking phase", like it's just something you do because you both feel lost. you guys have a lot to look up too. When I transferred to a decent school system and graduated there I met a lot of people exactly like you guys. You'll get out of college, find a nice women, or acquire your job, and it may stick with you but it only will if you want it too. Chances are you'll find some sort of meaning in yourself and you will feel a lot less reluctant to escape reality with marijuana. Which by the way is one of the worst ways to use a substance that just creates more stress....Trust me I am going through a lot of that sort of thing right now but with harder things.

Chances of tweed being touched with some arsenic or bleach sounds pretty low chance to never, but that is only a side part of that story.

Though only you guys know the answer and can find the answer to these things that aren't problems these are all choices. So remmember your really lucky it's a choice the drug your doing, and not an incessant feeling "need". Chin up fellas, stay good.

[SpankyMcLankey]

That crazy, I guess I could say I'm in the same boat.

Except I've bee getting caught off and on for the last two years... My parents basically say the same thing, they are worried I am going to get addicted and I'll never quit. I don't plan to continue through college, I have plans for ROTC etc...

[Dozer McDozer]

To reggiedrugs, go ahead and smoke a little bit man, you have the potential to get good grades, your dad was just lazy in school. Don't believe me? Well I know this kid a grade below me(i just graduated) and found out that he smoked this year. He's been smoking since the 7th grade(8th grade for me) and hes one brilliant fuckin kid. We were both on the math team(7th and 8th grade) and he told me he used to smoke before the competitions usually. This kid came in 1st or somewhere in top 10 every time nearly(there were 3 different types of tests).

So stay on top your fuckin shit man and you'll be good. heres link to help not get caught Smoking Indoors? Don't get caught! (Tips inside)

I wish i really knew what to tell ya, just take it easy and dont go overboard with it, its good to take breaks from smokin every once in a while. You're brain doesn't stop developing until 25.

Whatusedtobe, well i wouldnt give up smokin so do what you want.

Smaerd that was good advice man.

[SpankyMcLankey]

What he said. ^

I went to school/gew up with the biggest stoner in our school (big school) and he graduated 1st in his class.

[HCL]

@ reggiedrugs:

Be very thankful your parents are at least tolerant of your smoking. My dad + step-mom allow me to smoke my brains out as long as I keep on top of everything. I ended up with a 3.6 GPA this past tri, with my lowest being a 2.8 (I personally believed I got fucked that trimester). I'd suggest sitting down with both of your parents separately and explain to them on a 1-on-1 level about your smoking. Let them know you're not going to make it your life and if you can keep it, promise them that you'll actually try harder on your grades. Remind them it's not controlling your life and you're not using it as an escape from anything like stress or work. Just say it helps you put your life into perspective as to where the next step in life is for you. And don't be afraid to take them up on that offer of smoking the the house - just try to set the time and circumstances to when it's acceptable. You're lucky to have those rare parents that aren't on your shit for smoking a little herb, and you should thank them for that.

@ WhatUsedToBe:

I'm sorry to hear that your parents are tripping out so hard about your occasional pot smoking. Since you're adamant about not quitting, the best choice for you is to find times when you're able to go to a friends house and smoke or going to a nice secluded spot to do so. Don't smoke your brains out if you know you're going to be headed home later; a small hour buzz should do the trick. Then again, you're 19 years old, meaning you're an adult. Maybe now is the time you should really be cutting back on the herb until you've gotten enough money for an apartment. Then you can smoke all you want, you don't have to keep your stash in your car, and you avoid high encounters with your parents. Since it's their house, you should be respectful to them and their rules until you move out.

[-Anonymous-]

Originally Posted by WhatUsedToBe

Its funny you posted this cause I am in the same exact dilemma. I dont wanna hijack your thread but I too would also like some advice, and I dont see a point in starting a new thread dealing with the same thing..

My situation:

A week ago my mom decided it'd be nice of her to clean out my car... Of course, she finds my bowl, my weed, lighter, jar and everything else. So being a mother, she flushes my weed and gets rid of my bowl. About 15min ago my dad called me into the garage to have a talk with me. Basically he made me feel like shit cause I smoke. He tells me he has friends who are moody assholes when they dont smoke, and that I sometimes get moody because I am jonesin for some weed (thats what he thinks). I have uncles and aunts who have thrown their lives down the drain from other drugs, but it started from weed. He goes on to tell me that its a stupid idea for me to drive while im high cause god forbid if I hurt myself or others, I would never be able to explain myself. Then he brings up the fact that im running a 100% risk of smoking something laced with bleach,rat poison, whatever. And if I keep up smoking, im gonna end up a brain dead loser and he doesn't want that cause im a smart kid with a bright future ahead of me. Then he ends the conversation with, It was a phase and now its over, its time to grow up and look ahead for your future... Just tell me if you need help quitting, they have places for that.

I wanna keep smoking... I love smokin when im alone, I really enjoy it. But I dont want my parents to think lowly of me. Even at the age of 19, I care alot about their opinion of me.

What do I do..

You're old enough to make your own decisions....I hope anyways.

[jerseydave]

Your parents seem really cool. I would just dust a bowl once in a while when they are not home. Smoking everyday will fuck with your grades if that sort of thing is important to you. (Wasn't to me.)