Seems like I cant win sometimes

[WhatUsedToBe]

Well as some of you may know my parents found my stash again. After numerous times of telling them i'd stop, it didn't go down as I would of liked it to, but I was expecting that cause I know how my parents are.

I've decided to stop smoking, to make my parents happy. Its honestly the only reason I have decided to quit. I dont think I need to, my life was going great. I just finished off my first semester of college, didnt do to bad, passed all my classes. Im not used to havin my grades based soley on tests, but no excuses here, i'll do better next semester for sure. I have been holding a job for nearly two years, and the best part was I could get baked before going in, and just listen to my iPod and do my work. It was fuckin awesome.


My problem here is based on my parents, I think.

I hate myself for giving in to them, I take that back I dont hate myself but im not happy with the choice of having to quit based soley on their request, I dont feel like im 19, I feel like a kid still, like I cant make my own decisions in my life or something. On the other hand, if I were to keep smoking, I wouldnt be happy with that choice either. I would feel guilty, like im letting my parents down... I dont get it, my thoughts really fuck with me sometimes.

[Dozer McDozer]

well then what you need to realize is that they're wrong for making you feel bad about smoking, feel better?

[badgoalie85]

you should never feel guilty about anything so long as you didn't cause any harm.

do you live with your parents? if you do, do your best to move out (if you're in college i'm sure you can find a really cheap place near school...look for a room on craigslist or something) and then you can just blaze whenever you want.

if moving out isn't possible and you have to stop smoking to ensure your parents don't find out, then just live with it...but your parents aren't the ones making the decision to stop. you're making the decision to stop. you have to stop looking at smoking as if you're committing some sort of sin. once you do that, people who try to make you feel bad about smoking will just seem downright silly.

if you want to start making your own decisions it's just that easy. start making your own decisions and don't let anyone keep you from living how you want to live.

[Jimmy Coonan]

I've been reading a lot of threads about your relationship with your parents, and they seem very controlling and emotionally manipulative. You're never going to be able to be a man if you stay in their house, they'll always treat you like a kid and you'll never develop beyond being a kid.

Get out before they fuck you up even more than they already have.

[ChiefBongWater]

yeah dude, i can def relate. i got the exact same situaution going on right now. like the exact same fuckin situation dude. You said youve held a job for 2 years? try to save up and get a cheap ass apartment or something. Until that time comes .... just keep it on the low or quit

[Epic]

If you still live with your parents, IMO you shouldn't be unhappy with yourself for quitting at their request. Maybe unhappy with having to quit, but it shows you respect them by quitting. If you don't have much longer left, finish college without weed if you can (of course you could indulge every once in a while and easily not have them know, but then you'd be lying to them) and then when you get a good job and move out, you can smoke as much pot as you want.

[The SARS Volta]

I think the thread title is inaccurate. This isn't about you failing; its basis is parental relationship gone a bit wrong. Don't be so hard on yourself--parents and their kids very often have differing opinions and that's okay. You aren't a terrible person for smoking or for getting caught with herb. And just think, better to be caught by your folks than law enforcement.

[all_toked_up]

man I'm kind if in the same boat as you. 19, college student, living at home. i'v been caught a few times by parents and police(never got charged tho). parents are like yours over protective and think marijuana is the devil basically. anyways i ignored them and kept on smoking i mean in my eyes i was doin good. holding a job, going to school full time, all A's even. so what if i like to get high? i did however find out dealing is not a good idea and now have to quit smoking. anyways...


my advice to you is to not necessarily quit smoking but lay low about it. just keep on smoking if you feel it's not having a negative effect on your life. you say they keep finding your stash? simple do what i used to do and keep it all in your vehicle if you have one. lock it and they cant even get in to find it. I would suggest you move out but as a college student i know it's not easy to make it on your own,go to college and hold a job. but what i can suggest is that you smoke and keep living life day to day until you get out of college and are ready to move out,then do so and have all the freedom you have always wanted. look at it as a goal because it will be all the much sweeter when you reach it

[GratefulDead]

Do what you want to do. Want to stop smoking? Do it. Just do what you want...Id suggest moving out from your parents house.

[Center]

A great man marches straight into that which he fears and continues until he's won.

[WhatUsedToBe]

I wish I never told them I would stop, I hate lying to my parents lol..

Its been nearly 4 weeks since i've smoked, this is an outrage