Listen to me whine

[Human-yo]

Originally Posted by SpankyMcLankey

Dude, I read a really good book that was about this kid that wanted to be a basket ball star. He was a good basket ball player, and his brother was autistic, and in a wheel chair. His Dad had some anger problems, and evaded all bad situations with his son. Then they went to the theme park and the brother had a tantrum and they had to leave. I remember it was a really good book, it really made me feel emotions I had never felt before. He sounds like a fun kid, I wish you guys the best of luck.

What's the book?

Originally Posted by generic_hippie

hard work bro, props to you for only needing a vent here and not irl

Once in a while I will have a reaction, something like "Can you just quit it!" but it only lengthens his tantrums. It's best to just wait it out. Publicly it probably makes me look bad, but I try not to worry about what people think of me or my fam.

Originally Posted by WildWill

Very heart wrenching story, I feel for you man. My daughter is 21 months and an angel most of the time, so I can only imagine what you must be going through.

Best wishes and good luck.

My daughter Sydnie is 14 months. We're thinking that everything is ok with her, but regression can come as late as 2 years. Still though, we know what the signs are and any signs that she has exhibited have either gone away or can just be a normal stage of development. She's going to surpass Liam soon as far as number of words spoken.

Originally Posted by Xil

What you must put up with i cant even imagine. Yet or still their for your kid and trying to get him the therapy he needs; that speaks immensely to your character.

I hope the therapy really helps and you can see much more of the beautiful person you know your liam really is.

And i almost forgot, word.

Thanks man. It's nice to hear.

Originally Posted by Captain Cannabis

i read an article in the paper that made me think of you. some woman is trying to get an apology from a restaurant because they were in town getting some therapy for their autistic daughter, and were trying to order food at a the restaurant. when the autistic daughter discovered that what she wanted was not on the menu she started to make a scene, and then manager came out and asked the family to leave. they tried to explain to him that she was autistic and couldn't help it, and they would console her and it would be over soon, but the manager said that they shouldn't be allowed in public with her if she can't behave and refused to serve them.

thats straight up disgusting and makes me sick that it happened in canada. people are so stupid.

I've heard so many horror stories like that. I even imagine myself and my family in those situations and consider the many things i could say.

Originally Posted by Bud Head

I have a couple of friends who have autistic children.. I can say that i admire you and your wifes dealing with this day in and day out...

I can also say there is no comparison to a tantrum for a none autistic child and a autistic child..

I can understand exactly what you are saying.. The ex and I used to take the children for a few hours at times just to let the friends sleep a while with out being disturbed.. it's amazing how smart these kids are and how evil they can behave.

I again i admire you and your wife.. I hope that the theropy can be started very soon..

Thats awesome that you would help them by babysitting. That's the greatest gift in the world, babysitting.

Originally Posted by Zooey

Word, yo.

I do not envy the intensity of your situation, day in and day out. I guess thats where it really hits home, is you can't escape it - its your reality always.

I have to say though, and not to minimize autism or its impact - but 3 year olds of all spectrums are tough. We didn't go to the fireworks either, we left 5 fireworks in - after our son decided they were No Fun and it needed to end Now.

Lump kids are boring. Keep telling yourself that.

Sorry not more insightful of more rockin, I need to go help a meltdown that resulted because I said such kid can not go play in the garden at 9pm. When its about to rain. The horror.

Thanks Zooey. Yeah, and even Sydnie has had meltdowns publicly. I'm sure they will be different by the time she's 2, but the duration of her fits are remarkably different compared to Liam's'. She's just easier to distract.

Me: Hey, Sydnie, look! A flower!

Her: OMG sweet.

Originally Posted by WildWill

A good friend of mine has an autistic son who has just turned 18 - now they have to fight with the state to be named his legal guardian so that they can continue to care for him, because get this - the state is so desperate for funds that they will take legal guardianship of him so they can get his disability benefit.

That's fucked...

Again, my heart goes out to you and yours. Keep fighting the good fight. It may help to also try to get a charity involved, maybe a church if you go...I dunno.

I think autism needs to be Federally funded. Vote Obama eace:

Originally Posted by delta9THC

You're not whining at all. Just sharing your experience for those of us who don't have autistic children. The fact that you would vent in a forum and not take it out on your family just goes to show how together you are. You are dealing with something that most of us will never have to face and you have the good sense to let it out and not keep it bottled up inside. That's awesome in my book. Plus in a couple of years you will look back and realize how much you have grown and what you've learned from this experience and you can laugh at all of us who are stressing the small stuff. Children are a gift and you one day look at your child and thank him for all that he has taught you!

Word, I just thought being a father would change my life. Fatherhood + Autism = woah, man.

Originally Posted by v3d4

i saw a guy at the grocery store today and i though about what you said about the real person underneath. this guy was standing in the middle of the produce department bowing at the waist like you see jewish men with their prayerbooks do. he held his hands at about chest level turninf his wrists rapidly, in his own world, then he would suddenly yell "Arrgrumph!

then somebody, his mom or relative came and got him, grabbed his arm and said c'mon let's go

and i thought about how hard it would be to have someone in your family suffer that kind of thing, whatever it was. word
much love and im prayen for all the moms and dads and relarions and caretakers

By the time he hit three, I think it was noticeable to strangers that something was wrong with him. As the years go by, I'm sure it will be so routine that I won't even think of it anymore.

Originally Posted by Dezzy

human i dont know what to even say here stay strong and if you ever need somebody to talk to or somebody to help you hit me up bro shit aint long distance and all.

I dont know if this is anything to relate to your situation but I deal with when of my best childhood friends better then his parents. He is bi-polar/schizo and i am the only person who is still there for him. I am the only one that still listens to his ramblings/delusions. He needs somebody like me for there and his parents/brother arent there all they due is send him to the instution.


Human hit me up PM.

That's awesome. I'll PM you sometime soon.

Originally Posted by Jakeisuseless

Yeah. My exes normal three year old was hard to handle sometimes. Loved him though. I feel, man. Wish I could help.

Thanks dude. Since the rate of kids having autism now is 1/150, I think all taxpayers need to help fun therapy so there is no waiting list. It's a community problem. I'm not just some self entitled greedy democrat. Vote Obama, that's how you can help

Originally Posted by verklingen

my youngest daughter will be 3 next week. from time to time she enters a mode where she practically shuts down. it's surely nowhere near the severity of what you must experience with your son but during those times she closes herself off and refuses to communicate, sometimes even retreating to a corner or an empty room. try as i might i cannot get an answer for what's bothering her. all she wants to tell me is "leave me alone" (yeah i'm REALLY looking forward to those teenage years. . . heh). any insistence beyond that will be met by a sobbing, sometimes violent tantrum. it's best to wait it out. my wife has joked that she must be bipolar, because on a dime she'll go from that to her usual affectionate and babbling self.

but i catch a sense of what you must go through during those times, especially when we had made plans to go some place which must now be canceled or postponed in order to oblige our daughter. it's even worse when those plans involve other people who are now put out. we usually just take it in stride, but the times when we are genuinely frustrated by it (usually due to the frustration of a friend who is unable or [in the case of my parents] unwilling to understand the helplessness of the situation) create some of the most hopeless feelings i've ever felt. i can only imagine what it's like for such situations to be even more of a constant in my life. . . suffice to say i feel a great deal of admiration for you and your family.

Word man. Thanks.

Waiting it out is the best method to help the tantrum go away ASAP. It was a hard thing to learn. Getting other family members to learn that was even harder.

[Human-yo]

Originally Posted by surf*and*smoke

I want to write out something meaningful, something that says I can definitely see where you are coming from and how you feel about everything, something... longer. But nothing sums it up quite as much as:

Word.


...And good luck in therapy and good luck making it there. I have heard of miraculous things happening in Autism therapy and I wish you only the best!

Yes, miraculous things! Can't wait.

[Captain Cannabis]

Originally Posted by Human-yo

I've heard so many horror stories like that. I even imagine myself and my family in those situations and consider the many things i could say.

personally i would burn the restaurant and the managers house to the ground