Apology for bad things in my past

stretchyside · 04-11-2009, 12:21 AM

Lately I have been thinking about all the stupid shit I done and how I never apologized for it. Some of these things 'I pushed to thye back of my head. For Some reason I feel this real strong need to apologize but it's been so long ago.
How would You go about apologizing for stuff you feel bad about or would it be better to just try and forget about it and just not bring it up since it seems these other people don't think about it at all. freakin confused

Xil · 04-11-2009, 12:23 AM

just apologize. if it'll bring you peace of mind then thats better than obsessing and being miserable.

slapstick · 04-11-2009, 01:36 AM

and if you can't do it in person for one reason or another, do it in this thread. I know I've got my share of things I wish I could apologize for.

**SageTree** · 04-11-2009, 07:52 AM

If more good that bad comes from a situation then it should be carried out? Do you think this will bring more pain for you or them by bringing it up again? Sometimes it's just okay to Thank people for putting up with your stuff, and keep it positive, leaving things open to be talked about more if need be.

Good luck

mothernature · 04-11-2009, 08:57 AM

It depends on who/what you're talking about.

If you stole grandma's wallet years ago, then yeah, apologize and do something helpful for her.

If you are wanting to apologize because you feel bad, then that is selfish.
If you apologize because they feel bad, it is sincere.

Apologies are words. Without actions to back them up, they are meaningless.

Peace seeker · 04-11-2009, 10:33 AM

Originally Posted by stretchyside

Lately I have been thinking about all the stupid shit I done and how I never apologized for it. Some of these things 'I pushed to thye back of my head. For Some reason I feel this real strong need to apologize but it's been so long ago.
How would You go about apologizing for stuff you feel bad about

maybe u can make a list like Earl Hicky on "My name is Earl"

stretchyside · 04-11-2009, 11:36 AM

^ lol. I love that show

thank you for the advice people

Mikey · 04-11-2009, 01:30 PM

Out of curiousity,what kinda stuff did you do?
You don't have to answer if you don't want to.

Ego Tripping · 08-09-2009, 04:21 PM

Originally Posted by mothernature

If you are wanting to apologize because you feel bad, then that is selfish.
If you apologize because they feel bad, it is sincere.

Well, it could be a bit of both...but I agree.

turmaline · 08-09-2009, 04:28 PM

I know how you feel, I've done some terrible things...myself, to people.

thinking about it always depresses me, I try to tell myself the past is the past, something you can't change, and if you are looking for redemption, all you can do is be a better person today.

sorry you feel this way, just remember we've all done some terrible things, and just when you think you're the worst someone does something worser...haha if that's a word.

Mafoo · 08-09-2009, 04:35 PM

nobodys got white sheets.

if youre feeling bad about something, chances are its YOU that needs to sort it out with YOURSELF. if you ditched a girl, or whatever(just an example), apologizing to her and saying how you feel bad is just going piss her off and probably dig up a bunch of shit that was probably better just being left to settle. i think its probably good that you feel bad, it shows that you've changed and realized you werent living in accordance with YOURSELF.

Mikey · 08-09-2009, 05:54 PM

why bump a 4month old thread?

back on topic, did u end up apologizing?

Mydriasis · 08-09-2009, 08:09 PM

I've had this happen to me, but only when I was really depressed. I passed out a bunch of cool wild-flowers I found at these peoples doors. I knew it probably would go unrecognized to them but it helped me.