Be happy about yourself?

**Canuck Wisdom** · 04-11-2009, 07:41 AM

What do you guys do in order to be happy about yourself?

I've noticed that I havn't been happy about other people, and I've been blaming them or myself, but really, it stems from whether or not I am happy about myself. If I'm getting my work done, if I'm active and social and if I treat others well.

What do you guys think of when you ask, 'what do I do that makes me happy'?

**SageTree** · 04-11-2009, 07:56 AM

Taking time to clear my mind. Going for a long walk on the trail leaves me with all the silence I can dive into. Think about a time when you would have said 'yes, I am happy' and ponder what was happening then and try to apply that to today.

macenzy · 04-12-2009, 01:13 AM

if you go on a long walk like sage sugested but bring an ipod or other music player it's more relaxing and thought clearing but long-term does not give the same effect as a walk just to think about and ponder life.

al-Mu'akhkhir · 04-12-2009, 02:49 AM

reflecting upon what I've done in life. in particular i guess a few bad habits that i've kicked makes me really happpy about myself.

msicidron · 04-12-2009, 10:14 AM

Originally Posted by macenzy

if you go on a long walk like sage sugested but bring an ipod or other music player it's more relaxing and thought clearing but long-term does not give the same effect as a walk just to think about and ponder life.

heh yes. i usually let mother nature provide the soundtrack for meditation, but at times when i just need to chill, stop thinking about whatever i might be stressing about, music definitely helps me relax.

**SageTree** · 04-12-2009, 10:42 AM

I think your both saying take some personal time to be only with yourself, no ?

mothernature · 04-12-2009, 03:07 PM

Originally Posted by SageTree

I think your both saying take some personal time to be only with yourself, no ?

I totally agree with this. I generally listen to up-beat music, extremely loud, and dance and sing around until I feel better.

Doing something for someone worse off than you, is also a good way to feel better about yourself.

drunken13astard · 04-12-2009, 06:03 PM

Me personally, I like doing some of my hobbies. Working out, Golf, anything to keep your mind occuppied. When I don't go out and stay shelled up in my house, that makes me feel unhappy ,and then I don't go out because I'm already down on myself.

You have to keep yourself busy and do things you like, that is how I stay happy, have an active lifestyle.

my_scatterheart · 04-12-2009, 07:09 PM

Honestly, as dopey as it sounds...just trying.
Smiling when I don't feel like smiling.
Making light of the heaviest of situations.
Trying to put forth a good attitude, and especially a good vibe towards the people I encounter in a day, yanno? I take my headphones off on the bus usually, because some of the older folk like to chat. On more than a few occasions I've been thanked and told that kids "got attitude problems" now a'days, don't do that sort of thing. So it seems worth it.
Making a conscious effort to be present, I guess. Maybe none of that makes sense.
I had a year or so where I was stuck in a groove, addicted to some heavy shit, and didn't do much of any kind of living. The best lesson I learned from that mess was to get out of bed each and every day, whether I felt like it or not. It's really been a helpful mindset.

**SageTree** · 04-13-2009, 07:18 AM

Hope you're feeling okay today man.

maszac · 04-14-2009, 08:14 AM

being around people that i can make smile and that can make me smile.

and a walk is nice, of course.

thinking to myself what i want and then doing it.

for example, getting my G.E.D.

today i have the first orientation and afterwords i am sure i'll be happy with myself.

turmaline · 04-14-2009, 08:32 AM

Originally Posted by Canuck Wisdom

What do you guys do in order to be happy about yourself?

I've noticed that I havn't been happy about other people, and I've been blaming them or myself, but really, it stems from whether or not I am happy about myself. If I'm getting my work done, if I'm active and social and if I treat others well.

What do you guys think of when you ask, 'what do I do that makes me happy'?

i've been doing the exact same thing. i'm not happy right now and i find i've been very unhappy with my friends and judgemental as well. i think just being negative all around. i'm trying to gert out of this hole for a long time now.

what makes me happy is when i make others happy which is hard when you're negative all the time.

Mikey · 04-14-2009, 08:33 AM

Originally Posted by my_scatterheart

Honestly, as dopey as it sounds...just trying.
Smiling when I don't feel like smiling.
Making light of the heaviest of situations.
Trying to put forth a good attitude, and especially a good vibe towards the people I encounter in a day, yanno? I take my headphones off on the bus usually, because some of the older folk like to chat. On more than a few occasions I've been thanked and told that kids "got attitude problems" now a'days, don't do that sort of thing. So it seems worth it.
Making a conscious effort to be present, I guess. Maybe none of that makes sense.
I had a year or so where I was stuck in a groove, addicted to some heavy shit, and didn't do much of any kind of living. The best lesson I learned from that mess was to get out of bed each and every day, whether I felt like it or not. It's really been a helpful mindset.

Wow, that used to be me, the always smiling always glowing try to give it your best shot no matter what! attitude.
And now for some reason I'm a bitter ass.
I think I'll try to be nicer again.
Thanks for the inspiration.

Charley Phogg · 04-14-2009, 11:22 AM

Helping out my family, paying bills on time, walking in the woods, throwing a happy and nonconfrontational party, and taking a shit all make me happy about myself.
Feeding my cats, as well.
Finishing homework assignments.
Wearing cool sunglasses.

Lloydy · 04-14-2009, 12:01 PM

I watch jeremy kyle

verklingen · 04-14-2009, 12:31 PM

i try to do things that make me feel happy about myself. i'm always looking at the things i do, and i try to consider how they may be affecting my experience of life and my sense of self. i consider myself extremely lucky to have a steady job and a family, as i've found both of these are extremely rewarding toward that end. so i guess it would boil down to keeping occupied, for me.

The SARS Volta · 04-14-2009, 03:02 PM

Originally Posted by my_scatterheart

Honestly, as dopey as it sounds...just trying.
Smiling when I don't feel like smiling.
Making light of the heaviest of situations.
Trying to put forth a good attitude, and especially a good vibe towards the people I encounter in a day, yanno? I take my headphones off on the bus usually, because some of the older folk like to chat. On more than a few occasions I've been thanked and told that kids "got attitude problems" now a'days, don't do that sort of thing. So it seems worth it.
Making a conscious effort to be present, I guess. Maybe none of that makes sense.
I had a year or so where I was stuck in a groove, addicted to some heavy shit, and didn't do much of any kind of living. The best lesson I learned from that mess was to get out of bed each and every day, whether I felt like it or not. It's really been a helpful mindset.

I tried that and it felt like I was masking. Letting it out and venting works better for me...but it's not quite a guarantee.

osirus2020 · 04-14-2009, 03:12 PM

Jerking off sometimes helps.

my_scatterheart · 04-14-2009, 03:15 PM

@ sars, of course it's gotta be from the heart m'love. But there's definitely still the times where you gotta just be wading through it, you're right about that

SpankyMcLankey · 04-14-2009, 03:23 PM

I really value my time alone, but I also like to hang out with people I like to be around.

I love to ride my bike and get lost in the mountains, and once you get up them, you get to go down! It's weird, if you bike up a mountain, the way down almost seams longer because the way up your working so hard your mind is all over and time just flys. Computer games, going on a walk for some arizona ice tea. go to bed early, anything that pleases me.