| Guidance And Support Questions and issues of a serious nature including health, medicinal cannabis use, personal issues, relationship issues, communication problems, parenting, cross-generational issues, problems with parents, giving up and overcoming obstacles. |
04-12-2009, 03:52 PM
|
#1 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: hell on earth aka texas
Posts: 1,013
Thanks: 31
Thanked 93 Times in 72 Posts
|
ugh I just want to rant
so I was talking to my boyfriend (possibly soon to be ex) today and everything was going pretty normal, we were talking about this hookah bar that he went to last night. Then pretty much out of nowhere he texts me and tells me that he asked out this chick on Thursday and she said yes but then he caught her kissing some other dude. Then he sent me another text saying that he didn't really care because she was "out of his age limit". What the fuck? All I could say was "why the hell are you telling me this". Man, I'm still pretty irritated by it. He was just like "well I felt like I needed to be honest with you", which I certainly appreciate, but still. It just really pisses me off, this guy was all like "I really like you and I just want to be with you, will you go steady with me and be my girlfriend" and yet he's going around probably using the exact same line. It's like he doesn't understand that I didn't have to be faithful to him, there were plenty of guys continuing to go after me after I had started dating him. I don't know, I'm just aggravated at the moment. I don't understand why I keep ending up with guys like this, my last boyfriend is starting to look pretty good at the moment.
__________________
one pill makes you larger, one pill makes you small, and the one that mother gives you, doesnt do anything at all  Feed Your Head |
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 04:00 PM
|
#2 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Ontario, Canada
Posts: 8,791
Thanks: 771
Thanked 294 Times in 237 Posts
|
Well, good for you for not doing what he has done for you. Being forgiving is a virtue but if he doesn't care about you enough to not see other girls, and especially if you have options, you can't invest as much emotion in him as you may want to.
__________________
-Knowitall A&P type-
Originally Posted by Lloydy
|
|
everything in moderarion (especially moderation)
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 04:17 PM
|
#3 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Mar 2003
Location: Terra Sancta
Posts: 8,562
Thanks: 420
Thanked 600 Times in 377 Posts
|
Um...he's not your boyfriend if he's asking other chicks out...
__________________
do you have another opinion
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 04:27 PM
|
#4 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: England
Posts: 1,183
Thanks: 96
Thanked 79 Times in 58 Posts
|
^lol yeah. *shakes head*
__________________
()
"Keep your thoughts positive, because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive, because your words become your behaviours. Keep your behaviours positive, because your behaviours become your habits. Keep your habits positive, because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive, because your values become your destiny." (M. K. Gandhi)
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 05:32 PM
|
#5 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: hell on earth aka texas
Posts: 1,013
Thanks: 31
Thanked 93 Times in 72 Posts
|
yeah you're probably right. I don't really know. I thought he was a least slightly serious when he introduced me to his friends as his girlfriend, but whatever.
__________________
one pill makes you larger, one pill makes you small, and the one that mother gives you, doesnt do anything at all Feed Your Head
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 05:33 PM
|
#6 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: NoVA
Posts: 671
Thanks: 62
Thanked 183 Times in 118 Posts
|
|
Originally Posted by shelbert008
|
|
so I was talking to my boyfriend (possibly soon to be ex) today and everything was going pretty normal, we were talking about this hookah bar that he went to last night. Then pretty much out of nowhere he texts me and tells me that he asked out this chick on Thursday and she said yes but then he caught her kissing some other dude. Then he sent me another text saying that he didn't really care because she was "out of his age limit". What the fuck? All I could say was "why the hell are you telling me this". Man, I'm still pretty irritated by it. He was just like "well I felt like I needed to be honest with you", which I certainly appreciate, but still. It just really pisses me off, this guy was all like "I really like you and I just want to be with you, will you go steady with me and be my girlfriend" and yet he's going around probably using the exact same line. It's like he doesn't understand that I didn't have to be faithful to him, there were plenty of guys continuing to go after me after I had started dating him. I don't know, I'm just aggravated at the moment. I don't understand why I keep ending up with guys like this, my last boyfriend is starting to look pretty good at the moment.
|
try being single for a year. a whole year.
try it, you might like it.
__________________
Pursue happiness.
To each his own.
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 05:51 PM
|
#7 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: las cruces, New Mexico
Posts: 416
Thanks: 71
Thanked 83 Times in 77 Posts
|
actually, he's right. being single leaves a lot of possibilities open, and less chance of getting hurt by pouring your all into somebody who's going to hurt you in the end.
that, and your boyfriend sounds like a dick.
__________________
^
nigga went to "dont know what the fuck is going on" college - GHM
"well, they say that life is a joke. so try not to wait til the last moment to laugh at it." -verklingen
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 07:33 PM
|
#8 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: NJ
Posts: 765
Thanks: 272
Thanked 351 Times in 252 Posts
|
Girl, seriously?
I hope you know deep down that this dude isn't worth your fucking time if he's doin this shit.
Being alone is better than being treated like shit.
Make it Ex-boyfriend, please.
__________________
You are beautiful.
"The people I got to know—aboriginal people in Malaysia,...they enjoyed life, they lived life. Life did not live them, as happens to us."
-Robert Wolff
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 07:57 PM
|
#9 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Nov 2005
Location: the anguish of anticipated transformation
Posts: 2,331
Thanks: 477
Thanked 375 Times in 291 Posts
|
soo you have 2 options.
1 go berzerk on him, let your emotions pour out and cuss this clown out
or
you can let him think everythings cool and get him to buy you some stuff, then go berzerk and dump him.
thats how i see it
__________________
PLUR
|
Originally Posted by verklingen
|
|
instead of setting out to connect all the dots, the intent of zen is seeing the dots, letting them connect and then seeing how oneself connects to them.
|
"Knowledge speaks, wisdom listens" Hendrix
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger"- words to live by
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 07:59 PM
|
#10 (permalink)
|
Yahoooooooooooooooooookan
Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Canada
Posts: 736
Thanks: 76
Thanked 55 Times in 42 Posts
|
you know i've never really appreciated why girls seem to hate having text conversations until reading that post. what was that dude thinking?
I'd like to list my only reasons that make sense to tell a girl i was seeing something like that (terribly confusing sentence but bear with me):
- blackout drunk
- want her to break up with me so i didn't feel guilty about breaking up with her/hooking up with someone else
- just a total douchebag
My uneducated guess in this case is a combination of #'s 2 and 3 above. I don't know if you have to completely break it off, but I think you should be looking around at other people, since he is obviously and openly doing just that.
__________________
Wildcard, bitches! - Charlie Kelly
|
Originally Posted by R1bal
|
|
my sister is a bartender and i bet you all the money you have i have been to her bar more times than you have been to every bar in your life
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 08:00 PM
|
#11 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: between a pair of headphones
Posts: 2,849
Thanks: 172
Thanked 286 Times in 197 Posts
|
Dtmfa.
__________________
fuck this city, and fuck this filthy air
let's build a-frames in the woods and just live there.
we'll all eat berries and build fires every night
and forget this mistake we call modern life.
last.fm
blog deal (updated 11/02/09)
|
Originally Posted by SageTree
|
|
I am too constantly amazing
|
Last edited by myxomatosis; 04-12-2009 at 08:02 PM.
Reason: fuckin anti-capslock filter.
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 08:22 PM
|
#12 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: NoVA
Posts: 671
Thanks: 62
Thanked 183 Times in 118 Posts
|
you should try fucking his best friend, actually.
__________________
Pursue happiness.
To each his own.
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 08:35 PM
|
#13 (permalink)
|
Yahoooooooooooooooooookan
Join Date: Jan 2001
Location: Canada
Posts: 736
Thanks: 76
Thanked 55 Times in 42 Posts
|
|
Originally Posted by badgoalie85
|
|
you should try fucking his best friend, actually.
|
and then text him to give him your comparison between the two
__________________
Wildcard, bitches! - Charlie Kelly
|
Originally Posted by R1bal
|
|
my sister is a bartender and i bet you all the money you have i have been to her bar more times than you have been to every bar in your life
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 08:37 PM
|
#14 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: hell on earth aka texas
Posts: 1,013
Thanks: 31
Thanked 93 Times in 72 Posts
|
I actually went single for a while a few years ago. I started dating again my senior year of high school, and I was single for a little longer than a year. I had just quit using coke and was trying to get my life turned around and all the guys I had been with during that time were only harming me, and really just fucking with my mentality. I felt like I needed to ditch them for a while to just try and figure myself out. I didn't really enjoy it very much lol, I can't help it, I just really like being physical and you really need a guy for that. I definitely learned to not get emotionally attached to guys, but I'm not sure whether or not that's actually hindering me.
__________________
one pill makes you larger, one pill makes you small, and the one that mother gives you, doesnt do anything at all Feed Your Head
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 08:40 PM
|
#15 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Nov 2008
Location: BFE
Posts: 190
Thanks: 33
Thanked 25 Times in 23 Posts
|
yeah i agree that he is not your boyfriend if he asked her out. and i cant understand why he even told you that. i think you should talk to him about "defining" your relationship somehow. does he want to continue seeing other people or is he looking for an exclusive thing? if you want to date just him and he doesnt want that, you need to just break it off cuz you will end up hurt
Last edited by awwsuga23; 04-12-2009 at 08:43 PM.
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 08:43 PM
|
#16 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: NJ
Posts: 765
Thanks: 272
Thanked 351 Times in 252 Posts
|
No, sorry. Dude shouldn't get a second chance. Period.
__________________
You are beautiful.
"The people I got to know—aboriginal people in Malaysia,...they enjoyed life, they lived life. Life did not live them, as happens to us."
-Robert Wolff
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 08:50 PM
|
#17 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jun 2004
Location: between a pair of headphones
Posts: 2,849
Thanks: 172
Thanked 286 Times in 197 Posts
|
Yeah if you were legitimately "going steady" as you put it, that behavior is completely unacceptable and he shouldn't get another chance or even a talk.
In an effort to be more clear about DTMFA.
__________________
fuck this city, and fuck this filthy air
let's build a-frames in the woods and just live there.
we'll all eat berries and build fires every night
and forget this mistake we call modern life.
last.fm
blog deal (updated 11/02/09)
|
Originally Posted by SageTree
|
|
I am too constantly amazing
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 09:01 PM
|
#18 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: las cruces, New Mexico
Posts: 416
Thanks: 71
Thanked 83 Times in 77 Posts
|
|
Originally Posted by burnt_hiphophead
|
|
and then text him to give him your comparison between the two
|
I'm saving that option to do to my ex girlfriend. she tells me every time we hook up how bad her boyfriend is.
carry on.
__________________
^
nigga went to "dont know what the fuck is going on" college - GHM
"well, they say that life is a joke. so try not to wait til the last moment to laugh at it." -verklingen
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 09:03 PM
|
#19 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: NJ
Posts: 765
Thanks: 272
Thanked 351 Times in 252 Posts
|
^Great set of morals ya got there, pal 
__________________
You are beautiful.
"The people I got to know—aboriginal people in Malaysia,...they enjoyed life, they lived life. Life did not live them, as happens to us."
-Robert Wolff
|
|
|
|
|
|
04-12-2009, 09:06 PM
|
#20 (permalink)
|
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: las cruces, New Mexico
Posts: 416
Thanks: 71
Thanked 83 Times in 77 Posts
|
thanks. It took a year of her hurting me and fucking me over every chance she got to hone them.
__________________
^
nigga went to "dont know what the fuck is going on" college - GHM
"well, they say that life is a joke. so try not to wait til the last moment to laugh at it." -verklingen
|
|
|
|
|
|
Currently Active Users Viewing This Thread: 1 (0 members and 1 guests)
|
|
|
| Thread Tools |
|
|
| Display Modes |
 Linear Mode
|
Posting Rules
|
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts
HTML code is Off
|
|
|
All times are GMT -7. The time now is 02:32 AM.
|
|
