im so ronerrrry

tedkennedy · 06-28-2009, 09:14 PM

i am

pacman · 06-28-2009, 09:23 PM

im here big guy

g2g

Mikey · 06-28-2009, 09:26 PM

im here too!

Mydriasis · 06-28-2009, 09:34 PM

Isolation is one of the biggest pains of modern society. I've never gotten quiet used to it. Something that tends to really help me is having something to look forward too. As soon as you lose sight of that, the world get's quite dark...

this song may or not may be fitting, but the funny thing about being alone, is your never alone in it.

Mikey · 06-28-2009, 09:35 PM

just remember that pain is weakness leaving the body

tedkennedy · 06-29-2009, 04:54 AM

Originally Posted by Mydriasis

Isolation is one of the biggest pains of modern society. I've never gotten quiet used to it. Something that tends to really help me is having something to look forward too. As soon as you lose sight of that, the world get's quite dark...
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never really noticed your posts before but you are a smart guy, unless you are the alt of someone else?

anyway, you are right. i have been hanging much with my family and specifically my brother and his girlfriend too much and it just makes me feel even more lonely. i am pretty sure as far as humans go i am interesting, intelligent and people like being around me, i however am just an isolated dousche. so basically its just the same ol' cliche "im pathetic and want people to like me shpiel"

**SageTree** · 06-29-2009, 07:01 AM

What makes you feel alone when you are around your family?

I know you'll make a reeery great pran Ted and I'm always glad you are here.

Geeno · 06-29-2009, 08:07 AM

ted posted that video once

my_scatterheart · 06-29-2009, 08:14 AM

Teddy! Go out and play.
You should have all teh girlies following you around all day.

tedkennedy · 06-29-2009, 09:22 AM

Originally Posted by Geeno

ted posted that video once

lol i know just about any frusciante youtube video by memory, i dont even have to click it, it just constantly plays in my brain

turmaline · 06-29-2009, 09:25 AM

I got you tk...I know what it's like...!

fuckin sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!

I don't even own a computer!

Do you live in the middle of nowhere?

tedkennedy · 06-29-2009, 09:43 AM

Originally Posted by turmaline

I got you tk...I know what it's like...!

fuckin sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!

I don't even own a computer!

Do you live in the middle of nowhere?

its got nothing to do with population density, its more about connecting with people and finding people you can relate to and have mutual admiration for.

i went to a school with 20,000 highly diverse peers who should have similiar interests and i couldnt make a real friend. i used hard drugs just to go to class and feel like i fit in. i dunno, i am a nice person i just have a hard time relating to people and am confused by how i am perceived and worry too much about what should come naturally.

turmaline · 06-29-2009, 09:49 AM

Yeah that sucks.

You come off as a great person here, you seem to be comfortable...

I'm sure if you just be yourself you'll be fine.

I know what you mean when you talk about having to alter your state to feel comfortable fitting in with people....I do the same thing.

It's madness!

Mydriasis · 06-29-2009, 10:36 AM

Quote:

i went to a school with 20,000 highly diverse peers who should have similiar interests and i couldnt make a real friend. i used hard drugs just to go to class and feel like i fit in. i dunno, i am a nice person i just have a hard time relating to people and am confused by how i am perceived and worry too much about what should come naturally.

Wow can I relate. Your prolly the type of person that is actually unique and thinks a lot(you prolly think "too much"). Which is why doing hard drugs(esp benzos or opies) very appealing if I got that wrong then I'm sorry for assuming. It's hard to be a nice guy in these modern times, I hear it's more appreciated when you get older(I have no idea how old you are or if that's even relevant).

Young people are busy climbing up and down social ladders, and getting things that they want. I too frequently have been used, but I've turned it around in my head. I have gotten into literally hundreds of one way relationships from high-school to being a burnout to enrolling back into college.

I find that the better of my friends have come in the strangest of ways. And left in even stranger ways. But irregardless, friendships in most cases tend to just be temporary. So maybe your looking out in the big picture to much with the people that you meet. Not to say every shady punk is worth kicking it with and trusting with your house key. But your a human being, probably pretty normal, you said your a nice person, you can make friends you prolly just need to attack some self-image issues, and understand most people just suck.

My problem is I just never know how to approach a new person, and in most cases wait for them to approach me. It's funny how avoidant people are even if you see them every day or sit next to them in class. One thing I tend to do in school to strike-up some conversations is just sit next to someone who is just there for school. If you miss a day or come in late ask them if you could copy the notes or anything. I also find all the professors who smoke cigarettes in-between classes and just say hi to them small talk, which later turns into cool professor conversations. I tend to relate to older people for some reason more than people my age.

Sorry for making a ton of assumptions about who you are. I'm trying to lend some advice whether it's applicable or not, I went off on a limb.

Edit: It isn't pathetic to aspire to be well-liked. We're pack animals that is what we're all about. Don't look down on yourself, cuz if you can't see you for how awesome you are, are you even expecting someone else too? (I've been there for sure)

herbinator45 · 06-29-2009, 10:56 AM

Originally Posted by tedkennedy

never really noticed your posts before but you are a smart guy, unless you are the alt of someone else?

anyway, you are right. i have been hanging much with my family and specifically my brother and his girlfriend too much and it just makes me feel even more lonely. i am pretty sure as far as humans go i am interesting, intelligent and people like being around me, i however am just an isolated dousche. so basically its just the same ol' cliche "im pathetic and want people to like me shpiel"

you just pointed out a few of the many things that make you the opposite of pathetic..

slapstick · 06-29-2009, 12:33 PM

Originally Posted by tedkennedy

its got nothing to do with population density, its more about connecting with people and finding people you can relate to and have mutual admiration for.

i went to a school with 20,000 highly diverse peers who should have similiar interests and i couldnt make a real friend. i used hard drugs just to go to class and feel like i fit in. i dunno, i am a nice person i just have a hard time relating to people and am confused by how i am perceived and worry too much about what should come naturally.

Ted, I go through the same thing hundreds of times a day, minus the hard drugs.
I don't know what to give for advise, because I've hardly fixed that problem, but I can relate, at least.

Center · 07-01-2009, 03:10 AM

In your head too much, Ted.

I feel you man. Shit happens. Sometimes people suck and don't want connection. Fuck, some of the people you see walking the streets day and night literally WANT, NO connection with people. They WANT to see people apathetic and detached. This is important to realise. No one wants what you want. Hear that? NO ONE, wants exactly what you want.........

This should be a scary yet extremely freeing thought. No one out there is capable of being you or bringing to the table the thoughts and soul that you can. Therefore, if you can allow yourself to become your best 'self' you will find yourself in a sea of personal contact.

Everyone around you, at a very deep level, sincerely wants to enjoy the fun and easiness that everyone had when younger. The women, the boss's, the friends, the gas station clerk. Everyone tries there fucking best to act mature and in a state of knowingness but in reality everyone knows that it comes down to being happy and were preprogrammed to enjoy the things we enjoyed in childhood.

Become that which embodies a mature adult with the mindset of a fun loving child and ANY and ALL lonliness you experience will disappear.

Friends are overated. Let your contacts flow and flucuate and enjoy them while they are there. You must be fine alone to truely enjoy the freedom of being yourself while with people.

Kompressor · 07-01-2009, 10:11 AM

I ruv you Ted.

SpankyMcLankey · 07-01-2009, 04:34 PM

Originally Posted by tedkennedy

its got nothing to do with population density, its more about connecting with people and finding people you can relate to and have mutual admiration for.

i went to a school with 20,000 highly diverse peers who should have similiar interests and i couldnt make a real friend. i used hard drugs just to go to class and feel like i fit in. i dunno, i am a nice person i just have a hard time relating to people and am confused by how i am perceived and worry too much about what should come naturally.

yea man that pretty much sums up my life.

I'm hoping to make at least one good friend in community college next year. I don't care how shitty their personality is, I'm making goals to make the best out of the people around me next year. I mean I've got some friends now, but I don't hang out with anyone regularly by any means.

Center · 07-01-2009, 04:59 PM

Your willing to make a "good friend" without screening their personality? Don't you think that could be a poor foundation for a friendship? Curious what you mean.