You guys won't believe this shit...

[AlteredStateGrl]

get the fuuuuuck outta there.

[yo.]

one of my good friends was in your same position about a year ago. this dude was hardcore grind metal, gore growlin an shit.. into some pretty demonic shit. (he always had weed) and hooked up with this straight up jesus freak goody good girl. started fuckin her for a few weeks and got him to start goin to church with her family. he told me he was jus fakin it for the pussy, and he seemed pretty happy. didn't seem to bother him too much so i dunno man maybe you can just stiff it out. later down the road if you two are married, i doubt she'll divorce you for 'comin out the closet' about you beliefs. BUT if it makes the relationship tense or stressful i'd have to say abort.

[Burner of trees]

into some pretty demonic shit. (he always had weed)

satan stays holding.

[Center]

I strongly disagree with men sacrificing their own belief system for a girl.

Personally, I would tell her absolutely not. If she can't handle it, then I'm promptly grabbing the door handle.

[vanilla]

im a non practicing roman catholic, and shes canadian/dutch reformed, which apparently is very similar pentacostle i think

she said that she would want me to do this because that way if we both feel the same way about god and both have him first in our life, our beliefs and morals would be in sync and we would be able to get that much closer to each other, which kinda makes sense i guess

im not at all against going to church with her once in a while, which would never be for her parents because they live an hour away. but her cousin who she lives with also has a boyfriend of over a year who wasn't religious, and now he regularly goes to church with them and is going to some kind of 'new members' class.

bottom line in the situation is fucked up, but the girl is perfect besides that

[verklingen]

ask her what the real difference is between you already if you both think it's coo to live life with the teachings of jesus in mind. she's creating a difference where there really isn't one. if you can get her to realize that and get past it maybe you are both mature enough to have a nice, happy life together.

it doesn't sound so despicable as some are making it out man. good luck

[№1]

Dude, conditions for you to be with her?

High maintinence, low self esteem and an inability to cut the apron strings, no good will come of this.

Not to mention 5 weeks in and she can see a future in you two? Guarantee, its her future she sees, you just happen to be in the picture.

I bet her dad is a pussy and they both walk all over him.

[Bad dog]

Did you tell her that you can't possibly marry until you have experienced a lot of anal sex with her?
well it's the right oppertunity for sure.

Check it out, this chick is serious. Tell her that rushing into things is wrong and that there is no way that she can really know a person until she's lived with him for at least a year.

go steady with her and enjoy it with out getting cornered into commitment.

[SageTree]

Good luck vanilla. Thanks for sharing some details. I think you'll work it out, find a balance or not.

I think it's okay to experiment and let someone you care about introduce things to you, for relationships, to me, seem to be about balancing who you are with the expectations, of the other one, just as that person has that choice as well.

I believe a good relationship validates your existence of the 'good' and 'bad' things in your life. For instance for me I feel I found a mate that has let who I was blossom, while also, giving me a person to care about enough to learn how to not act through anger at all times, and provided a safe environment for me to explore where that emotion comes from.


This all said....you've been together for 5 weeks. Balance in correct proportion for you. Because ultimately you are the person who has to live with you, the most. Set boundaries for compromise...these little give and takes, prove to be telling of larger ones.

So take it slow and take it easy brother.

[turmaline]

So I've been dating this girl off and on (super casually) for about a year, with the entire summer off. Things got back to normal once school started back, and within a month or so we were officially a couple.

She comes from a pretty religious/strict family, and hinted at that all last year that she didnt want to get serious because this was a pretty big reason, which i took as just pressure from her parents and stuff.

Anyways, we were talking a couple days ago and surprise surprise, after 5 weeks of being a couple, she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.

I adore this girl and would do just about anything for her, except for this. What the fuck am i supposed to do/say ?

Say you could see yourself marrying her if she would convert to your beliefs?

[№1]

She already disagrees with your spirituality man, the basic core of your own self, the only thing you can truly call your own. The thing that makes you 'you'.


She doesn't feel its worthy of her experience.

Love can overcome alot of things, it can blind as well but at the end of the day, the only one you have to live with until the end is the guy staring back at you while you shave.

[Sir-Ex]

my two cents: if she's yo bitch, she's yo bitch. if yo a bitch, yo her bitch. God hates a coward, but you'll make whatever decision your self is inclined to. that there is hesitation in this decision speaks of your development. don't get caught young fish.

[osirus2020]

Tell her if she honestly think she loves you, then she wouldn't let some stupid fucking institution control who she can and cannot love. If she can't accept you for who you are, then she's trying to change you to fit her life. You will not be happy in the long run.

Free love.

[Terry]

Say you could see yourself marrying her if she would convert to your beliefs?

Now THIS would be a perfect way to turn the situation around