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11-04-2009, 09:33 PM
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You guys won't believe this shit...
So I've been dating this girl off and on (super casually) for about a year, with the entire summer off. Things got back to normal once school started back, and within a month or so we were officially a couple.
She comes from a pretty religious/strict family, and hinted at that all last year that she didnt want to get serious because this was a pretty big reason, which i took as just pressure from her parents and stuff.
Anyways, we were talking a couple days ago and surprise surprise, after 5 weeks of being a couple, she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.
I adore this girl and would do just about anything for her, except for this. What the fuck am i supposed to do/say ?
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11-04-2009, 09:35 PM
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say exactly what you just said to us basically.
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no doubt. the first place i had these was at Space Camp.
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Originally Posted by Former President Hayes
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stfu with this pretend bullshit cutesy "lol @ bears"
you don't know what its like to like in CONSTANT threat of bear attack.you don't even FUCKING KNOW.
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note to self: veda, you decided not to look at this thread anymore.
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11-04-2009, 09:44 PM
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^ I agree. Be kind, but honest. Marriage is for people in harmony.
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11-04-2009, 09:54 PM
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I think im gonna see how long i can fake this for
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11-04-2009, 10:16 PM
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Pics so we can judge whether she's worth the hassle or not?
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11-04-2009, 10:37 PM
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been through that. not the explicit mentioning of marriage but thats because i got out before that point. you gotta realize that your lifestyles probably arent compatible, that makes for an easy break up IMO
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instead of setting out to connect all the dots, the intent of zen is seeing the dots, letting them connect and then seeing how oneself connects to them.
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11-04-2009, 10:41 PM
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Tell her to quit pretending we live in the dark ages
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11-04-2009, 10:45 PM
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^ aka break-up.
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Originally Posted by Sk3tchyD4ZO
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no doubt. the first place i had these was at Space Camp.
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Originally Posted by Former President Hayes
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stfu with this pretend bullshit cutesy "lol @ bears"
you don't know what its like to like in CONSTANT threat of bear attack.you don't even FUCKING KNOW.
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note to self: veda, you decided not to look at this thread anymore.
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11-04-2009, 11:12 PM
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why not just join their church? whats the big deal?
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11-05-2009, 02:58 AM
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how about you give it another 3 years? like a rational human being.
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11-05-2009, 05:30 AM
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Originally Posted by vanilla
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So I've been dating this girl off and on (super casually) for about a year, with the entire summer off. Things got back to normal once school started back, and within a month or so we were officially a couple.
She comes from a pretty religious/strict family, and hinted at that all last year that she didnt want to get serious because this was a pretty big reason, which i took as just pressure from her parents and stuff.
Anyways, we were talking a couple days ago and surprise surprise, after 5 weeks of being a couple, she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.
I adore this girl and would do just about anything for her, except for this. What the fuck am i supposed to do/say ?
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seems to me like you already know what to do.
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11-05-2009, 07:18 AM
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Originally Posted by vanilla
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she told me she could see herself marrying me, and that i would need to convert religions to continue being with her.
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abort, abort!
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Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don't need. We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our great war is a spiritual war. Our great depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars, but we won't. We're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off.
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11-05-2009, 07:49 AM
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convert religions? what are you now?
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11-05-2009, 08:06 AM
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Originally Posted by v3d4
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why not just join their church? whats the big deal?
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Because she's trying to coerce him into staying with her through spirituality. Sounds wrong to me.
http://www.mcpeepants.com/sounds/024...uperspore4.mp3
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11-05-2009, 10:08 AM
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What's the religion?
I'm gonna guess some sort of christian thing, which is easy enough to fake if they aren't Baptists or Pentacostls (sp).
If you can get away with a half hearted "conversion" and can also avoid church on a weekly basis you're all set.
But if she wants you to go to church well then it may be time for a breakup sorry to say, sounds to me like maybe SHE isn't so hardcore religious so if you like her do it you know?
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11-05-2009, 10:46 AM
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Raw dog and bail 
Just tell her you don't feel comfortable doing things this way. Support her beliefs and suggest a compromise. Maybe go to church with her to let her and her parents know that you do truly care about her and to give yourself a chance to truly get a feel for what it is she's asking you to do and take it from there.
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11-05-2009, 11:46 AM
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Yea what doesn't she want you to convert to? And does it totally defy your beliefs?
But my true thoughts are:
WHY? Why or what does she want from you doing this?
If you know it'd be half hearted then you should say that to her, why she'd want a half hearted commitment to religion, because that half hearted religious 'journey', might ultimately lead to a half hearted feeling about the whole relationship rather than just respecting your opinions on the matter. Which may be somewhere in the middle of yes and no.
A lot of people sit through church each week, and go about their lives otherwise.
On the other hand if she is really that great, maybe you'd enjoy seeing a part of her life that is important to you.
If she wants you to convert for her parents sake, or to make things easier. I don't know man. Once the ball is rolling on a story, you have to keep it going, and that is tough.
Good luck man, maybe just have fun while you can and it wasn't the right time.
Much love,
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11-05-2009, 02:22 PM
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You've been with her 5 weeks, get rid of her, and find some new pussy. Personally, if a girl cant accept me how I am, then I get rid of her, I dont put up with bullshit like that. And the whole marriage thing is a huge redflag of clingyness, I'd get out before its to late.
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11-05-2009, 02:34 PM
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im afraid a smiley face does not make me forget your retarded posting.
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11-05-2009, 02:35 PM
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also why the fuck do these people feel the need to convert people, theyre like the fucking borg or something
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im afraid a smiley face does not make me forget your retarded posting.
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