Judging people

shai_hulud · 03-15-2008, 07:07 PM

No matter how hard you try, it's just impossible not to, in some way or another. or is it just me?

Paranoid Android · 03-15-2008, 07:10 PM

Sometimes it seems hard not to judge someone... but if you just let go of the idea of yourself and let them be, then it really isn't that bad.

Gяiєvєs · 03-15-2008, 11:24 PM

Judgments come from comparing someone else's inadequaticies and/or strengths against your own...There is nothing wrong with that unless you use those judgments to affect their well being...

Prophet Saddam · 03-16-2008, 02:24 AM

Judgments are a part of life. I think the only thing you can work on is the type of judgment you make at a given time.

Judging a book by its cover is unfair because that's not what the book is about. OTOH, judging a man/woman by her looks for, instance, can arguably be a good judgment of the person (how they keep themselves).

For further study:
Judgement - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

iome13 · 03-16-2008, 05:09 PM

i try to think of something good about the person when i find myself thinking something negative. i look at the lines in their face or some characteristic and try to find something interesting or beautiful. but sometimes people just make me feel uncomfortable, and i avoid them as best i can.
judgement in this way is a means of weeding out the people you keep around you, which is necessary. have you ever made friends with someone who turned out to be untrustworthy because you didn't want to judge them?

radar_rider · 03-16-2008, 10:47 PM

sometimes I try not to judge people. its a painful experience.

brotherrider

jag8 · 03-16-2008, 11:09 PM

"you never get a second chance to make a first impression."

Mr.Tree · 03-19-2008, 11:39 AM

true that, grieves. i wouldve stated the similar thing, but yours sounds much more articulate compared to my babble.

verklingen · 03-19-2008, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by Mя. Gяiєvєs

Judgments come from comparing someone else's inadequaticies and/or strengths against your own...There is nothing wrong with that unless you use those judgments to affect their well being...

there's nothing "wrong" with it, but often times those judgments end up affecting YOUR wellbeing. . . and that's something to keep in mind.

03-19-2008, 03:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Mя. Gяiєvєs

Judgments come from comparing someone else's inadequaticies and/or strengths against your own...There is nothing wrong with that unless you use those judgments to affect their well being...

i agree ..unless it's hair or makeup or something, but the harshish judgements i believe go along with this quote...maybe?

billymadisonjd · 04-07-2008, 08:29 PM

it's impossible not to have a reaction on some level where judements may arise but the best we can do is reasess our thoughts in as informed and understanding a context as possible.

Porcelain · 04-07-2008, 09:44 PM

Judgement has become a really dirty word. I think judgement is deciding whether or not you find something favorable about someone/something rather than observing their negative attributes. I've judged people in both positive and negative ways. Judgement is our biological tool for survival. We judge in order to assess how much love to lavish (or not) onto someone.

Most people, when judging another, forget to ask themselves (in the midst of the negative) whether or not they like anything about the person they're observing. We've been raised to believe the world is a bad place so it's natural that the majority is quick to pass negative judgements. I think as long as you remind yourself to assess what you like about someone, you will always find a balance between the "good" and the "bad".

FineazPR · 05-01-2008, 09:24 AM

I do but I don't really mean to. Its not intentional. Like I may see somebody in a pair o jeans I KNOW would look better on me ('cause I've got the body for them 'n she don't!). Or maybe somebody is in a not-so-flattering hairstyle, and its like a shock when you first see it. Its hard to hide ones reaction.Or if someone repeats a stupid joke, I cant help but say so, "you repeated a stupid joke..ass!"

Tough Job... somebody gotta do it!

Lil John · 05-01-2008, 11:03 AM

it's a survival mechanism. judging people or anything in life allows us to see possible danger or aid.

NorcalCarl · 05-02-2008, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Lil John

it's a survival mechanism. judging people or anything in life allows us to see possible danger or aid.

Exactly. If I am walking down the street and I judge someone to fit the "thug" profile or they look too sketchy I go a different way, cross the street, stay in a lit up area ect...

Patrick Rue · 05-02-2008, 01:35 PM

if youre not judging people and stuff then what the hell are you doing? being some kind of ridiculous hippie I guess

- my friend, roughly, i agree

FineazPR · 05-02-2008, 05:01 PM

I greet everybody, and everybody greets me, but I am NO one to get twisted with!! Iam always polite, and I can go "foreign" that quick, if I am not in the mood to speak. By that I mean, I speak in really broken English, and act like I am not wrapped too tight. Beleive me it helps.

BilboBONGins · 05-07-2008, 01:04 AM

Ha ha ha. Of Course We All Judge Each Other, We Are All Human After All. Just As Long As We All Keep In Mind That What We Think Doesn't Matter, And The Only Things That Matter Are What You Say And How You Act. *Thinks To Self: I Hate Those Damned Eskimos*

anitablaze · 05-09-2008, 06:34 AM

I think there are two different kinds of judgement. theres the 'highschool girl' judgement, and the everyday nothing wrong with it judgement. The highschool girl judgement is kinda like 'eww look at her skirt she is wearing?!?! she is such a loser' which IS very wrong, and then there is the judgement for safety purposes, or what have you. like you just have inner 'feelings' about someone. like you meet a new person and you think they are dangerous. those are usually right. intuition i guess. i guess there is another kind to where you walk down a street and see someone who looks different than everyone else, and you do judge them, but iif you met them you wouldnt treat them any differently, and you would still accept them and wouldnt think of yourself as supirior to them.

03-15-2008, 07:07 PM	#1 (permalink)
shai_hulud uh huh Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: ab, ca Posts: 753 Thanks: 14 Thanked 10 Times in 8 Posts	Judging people No matter how hard you try, it's just impossible not to, in some way or another. or is it just me? __________________ no outsiders in my forest

03-15-2008, 07:10 PM	#2 (permalink)
Paranoid Android Down is the new up. Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: BC, Canada Posts: 2,961 Thanks: 24 Thanked 21 Times in 17 Posts	Sometimes it seems hard not to judge someone... but if you just let go of the idea of yourself and let them be, then it really isn't that bad. __________________ Tried to fake it, I just can’t take it I don’t care if it hurts, Just so long as it’s real.

03-15-2008, 11:24 PM	#3 (permalink)
Gяiєvєs High Score Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Terra Sancta Posts: 7,791 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 420 Thanked 201 Times in 91 Posts	Judgments come from comparing someone else's inadequaticies and/or strengths against your own...There is nothing wrong with that unless you use those judgments to affect their well being... __________________ It's so controlled, it's sitting in most, just sit and stare, At a television with a distant glare, And I'm ashamed to admit it, I'm a slave to this shit, As much as anybody but I'm not afraid of it, This is where the change comes, and this is where we make some difference, Embrace what's within us and escape from this prison, All it takes is a little bit of faith, And a little bit of love, to get rid of all the hate,

03-16-2008, 02:24 AM	#4 (permalink)
Prophet Saddam Yahooka admin Join Date: Jul 2002 Location: CA Posts: 14,719 Blog Entries: 10 Thanks: 747 Thanked 192 Times in 141 Posts	Judgments are a part of life. I think the only thing you can work on is the type of judgment you make at a given time. Judging a book by its cover is unfair because that's not what the book is about. OTOH, judging a man/woman by her looks for, instance, can arguably be a good judgment of the person (how they keep themselves). For further study: Judgement - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia __________________ don't blame me, I am voting for Ron Paul.

03-16-2008, 05:09 PM	#5 (permalink)
iome13 bored stupid Join Date: Jan 2004 Location: u.s. Posts: 273 Thanks: 4 Thanked 3 Times in 3 Posts	i try to think of something good about the person when i find myself thinking something negative. i look at the lines in their face or some characteristic and try to find something interesting or beautiful. but sometimes people just make me feel uncomfortable, and i avoid them as best i can. judgement in this way is a means of weeding out the people you keep around you, which is necessary. have you ever made friends with someone who turned out to be untrustworthy because you didn't want to judge them? __________________ "Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent." -- Israel Regardie

03-16-2008, 10:47 PM	#6 (permalink)
radar_rider Zen Mystic Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Sacramento, CA Posts: 168 Thanks: 18 Thanked 9 Times in 8 Posts	sometimes I try not to judge people. its a painful experience. brotherrider __________________ "Let your mind wander in simplicity, blend your spirit with the vastness, follow along with things the way they are, and make no room for personal views." - Chuang-tzu

03-16-2008, 11:09 PM	#7 (permalink)
jag8 nug get Join Date: Jun 2001 Location: Reno, NV Posts: 1,210 Thanks: 16 Thanked 27 Times in 20 Posts	"you never get a second chance to make a first impression."

03-19-2008, 11:39 AM	#8 (permalink)
Mr.Tree yahookboy Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Detroit, Mich Posts: 163 Thanks: 7 Thanked 9 Times in 7 Posts	true that, grieves. i wouldve stated the similar thing, but yours sounds much more articulate compared to my babble.

04-07-2008, 08:29 PM	#11 (permalink)
billymadisonjd YaHookan Join Date: Apr 2008 Posts: 2 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	it's impossible not to have a reaction on some level where judements may arise but the best we can do is reasess our thoughts in as informed and understanding a context as possible.

05-01-2008, 09:24 AM	#13 (permalink)
FineazPR YaHookan Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: A HOTT place Posts: 97 Thanks: 1 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	Judging people?.. I do but I don't really mean to. Its not intentional. Like I may see somebody in a pair o jeans I KNOW would look better on me ('cause I've got the body for them 'n she don't!). Or maybe somebody is in a not-so-flattering hairstyle, and its like a shock when you first see it. Its hard to hide ones reaction.Or if someone repeats a stupid joke, I cant help but say so, "you repeated a stupid joke..ass!" Tough Job... somebody gotta do it!

05-01-2008, 11:03 AM	#14 (permalink)
Lil John This ain't no hayride Join Date: Mar 2004 Location: Tha Hood Posts: 604 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	it's a survival mechanism. judging people or anything in life allows us to see possible danger or aid. __________________ The words that we attach to our experiences, become our experience

05-02-2008, 05:01 PM	#17 (permalink)
FineazPR YaHookan Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: A HOTT place Posts: 97 Thanks: 1 Thanked 1 Time in 1 Post	what does a "thug" look like? I greet everybody, and everybody greets me, but I am NO one to get twisted with!! Iam always polite, and I can go "foreign" that quick, if I am not in the mood to speak. By that I mean, I speak in really broken English, and act like I am not wrapped too tight. Beleive me it helps.

05-07-2008, 01:04 AM	#18 (permalink)
BilboBONGins YaHookan Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 5 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Ha ha ha. Of Course We All Judge Each Other, We Are All Human After All. Just As Long As We All Keep In Mind That What We Think Doesn't Matter, And The Only Things That Matter Are What You Say And How You Act. Thinks To Self: I Hate Those Damned Eskimos

05-09-2008, 06:34 AM	#19 (permalink)
anitablaze Peace and Love Join Date: May 2008 Location: buttfuck nowhere Posts: 76 Thanks: 9 Thanked 5 Times in 5 Posts	I think there are two different kinds of judgement. theres the 'highschool girl' judgement, and the everyday nothing wrong with it judgement. The highschool girl judgement is kinda like 'eww look at her skirt she is wearing?!?! she is such a loser' which IS very wrong, and then there is the judgement for safety purposes, or what have you. like you just have inner 'feelings' about someone. like you meet a new person and you think they are dangerous. those are usually right. intuition i guess. i guess there is another kind to where you walk down a street and see someone who looks different than everyone else, and you do judge them, but iif you met them you wouldnt treat them any differently, and you would still accept them and wouldnt think of yourself as supirior to them. __________________ BOMBING for PEACE is like FUCKING for VIRGINITY "I object to violence because when it appears to do good, the good is only temporary; the evil it does is permanent"- Mohandas K. Gandhi Look at what it's doing to you; but that's okay, look at how it feels.