Family life falling apart?

Chakra · 03-20-2008, 11:33 AM

f you read this long post through, and have the time to answer to this , then i would really appreciate it.. thanks a bunch..

(english is not my native language so sorry for the bad spelling)

Peace and love

burnt_hiphophead · 03-20-2008, 11:39 AM

First of all, I know basically nothing about relationships. But I do think it is important to have a life away from your partner. If you two spend all day, every day together, it could start getting boring real fast. Have you talked to her about this? I bet she would be less than pumped about you wanting to party, but maybe she would like some time away from the family too. I don't mean like a separation, but what if you each had a night a week to hang out with your other friends or do whatever you want without worrying about the family.

btw, good for you for manning up and doing what you have to do to make your wife happy. I hope you guys can work something out.

verklingen · 03-20-2008, 11:45 AM

coming from an early 20's former party animal turned family man, communication is key. i don't think you want to revert to your old ways completely, it's just the part of you that you've been repressing fighting for air. talk with her and let her know your concerns. if she loves you, she will understand. if not, there's more to life than making other people happy. ideally making your spouse happy should make you happy, but in your situation that obviously isn't working out. it seems too one-sided. . . but maybe you haven't opened up to her enough for her to understand you. i'm positive just from what you've presented here that you wouldn't want to go out and party all night every night. . . but maybe that's her fear. she'll never know more than you let her know.

i wish you the best of luck.

Dezzy · 03-20-2008, 04:28 PM

you got married after a year thats your problem, you dont even really know somebody after such alittle amount of time.

I find it ridiculous how people will completely change themselves for a women its kind of sickening.

Terry · 03-21-2008, 01:04 AM

You need to let her know that you drinking with your friends and smoking some pot is no big deal, as long as you're spending time with the family too and raking in that paycheck.

Just tell your wife you want to go out for a night, surely no rational woman would have a problem with this?

KingKoopa · 03-23-2008, 04:45 PM

Surely your not married.

Prophet Saddam · 04-15-2008, 11:56 AM

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Originally Posted by Chakra

f you read this long post through, and have the time to answer to this , then i would really appreciate it.. thanks a bunch..

(english is not my native language so sorry for the bad spelling)

Peace and love

No more story?

03-20-2008, 11:33 AM	#1 (permalink)
Chakra YaHookan Join Date: Feb 2004 Location: Europe Posts: 216 Thanks: 0 Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts	Family life falling apart? f you read this long post through, and have the time to answer to this , then i would really appreciate it.. thanks a bunch.. (english is not my native language so sorry for the bad spelling) Peace and love Last edited by Chakra; 03-21-2008 at 04:41 AM. Reason: f you read this long post through, and have the time to answer to this , then i would really appreciate it.. thanks a bunch..

03-20-2008, 11:39 AM	#2 (permalink)
burnt_hiphophead Yahoooooooooooooooooookan Join Date: Jan 2001 Location: Canada Posts: 616 Thanks: 30 Thanked 26 Times in 20 Posts	First of all, I know basically nothing about relationships. But I do think it is important to have a life away from your partner. If you two spend all day, every day together, it could start getting boring real fast. Have you talked to her about this? I bet she would be less than pumped about you wanting to party, but maybe she would like some time away from the family too. I don't mean like a separation, but what if you each had a night a week to hang out with your other friends or do whatever you want without worrying about the family. btw, good for you for manning up and doing what you have to do to make your wife happy. I hope you guys can work something out. __________________ Wildcard, bitches! - Charlie Kelly

03-20-2008, 11:45 AM	#3 (permalink)
verklingen what is Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: in the sun Posts: 5,768 Thanks: 213 Thanked 522 Times in 306 Posts	coming from an early 20's former party animal turned family man, communication is key. i don't think you want to revert to your old ways completely, it's just the part of you that you've been repressing fighting for air. talk with her and let her know your concerns. if she loves you, she will understand. if not, there's more to life than making other people happy. ideally making your spouse happy should make you happy, but in your situation that obviously isn't working out. it seems too one-sided. . . but maybe you haven't opened up to her enough for her to understand you. i'm positive just from what you've presented here that you wouldn't want to go out and party all night every night. . . but maybe that's her fear. she'll never know more than you let her know. i wish you the best of luck. __________________ you can't explain the rules of tennis to a dog, but he runs after it and plays with it...like the dog playing with the ball, we don't have the necessary tools needed to interpret the afterlife..until we get there, then a whole new universe is given to us. Perhaps 200 billion light years away, there's the next phase of our existance..Remember you cannot destroy energy, which is all we are... -matthew munari rip matt

03-20-2008, 04:28 PM	#4 (permalink)
Dezzy NiGGa BoY RoY Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Wisconsin Posts: 2,929 Thanks: 7 Thanked 27 Times in 22 Posts	you got married after a year thats your problem, you dont even really know somebody after such alittle amount of time. I find it ridiculous how people will completely change themselves for a women its kind of sickening. __________________ "You want to have sex with The Max" LOL

03-21-2008, 01:04 AM	#5 (permalink)
Terry Illuminated One Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Missoula, Montana Posts: 2,762 Thanks: 0 Thanked 93 Times in 73 Posts	You need to let her know that you drinking with your friends and smoking some pot is no big deal, as long as you're spending time with the family too and raking in that paycheck. Just tell your wife you want to go out for a night, surely no rational woman would have a problem with this? __________________ The world has achieved brilliance without wisdom, power without conscience. Ours is a world of nuclear giants and ethical infants. We know more about war than we know about peace, more about killing than we know about living. -Omar Bradley

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