The SARS Volta

In the past few months, I've noticed that I have completely lost my sex drive.

Now, it was never very intense in the first place. I've had flat-out 'relations' with three people in my life, all b/fs. My friends and acquaintances have always been considerably sluttier than I have, and I've never really had a problem with it.

The difference is before if I could choose having quality sex over not having quality sex, I would. Certainly, I would enjoy it to different extents. I can get laid if I want it now-a-days yet lately I don't feel it is anything special or important.

Right now I couldn't give two squirts of duck shit about whether I ever get it again. It isn't tied to self-esteem; that hadn't stopped me before when I at least had curiosity more so than desire toward sex.

I find that I damn well notice when a dude is attractive and admire it but I never care about the pursuit. Anything of the matter is low on my list of priorities, for some reason. This could be because I'm single now and I don't have feelings for anybody, but I feel like this is an unusual response for someone of my age (19 and female btw).


Has anybody else gone through this? Did it ever change?

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The Don

Man, I'm always horny.

Sars you seem to worry alot, by all accounts we are still very young people, and the body, wether you like it or not, can do some funny shit on us.

For example remove our sex drive for a while..

I'm not trying to write it off as teenage problems, I'm not that condescending. You just seem to worry a lot about stuff that, in my head, is well, sorta normal.

I'll send you some PM's to get that sex drive going again. O.o

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Geeno

I don't care that much about sex and I think it makes me a better person over all. More clear mind. Sex is for someone special with me.

It's really not important in life to me.

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eldizle

Yeah, I've got a saying that boners are the root of 90% of poor choices.

I think that media and all these stupid kids that are 'most kids' who go along with what they learn from their tv, and secondhand from other people that learn from the tv.....not everyone in life is after sex, or having sex, or lusting, or involved with problems from said things....

sex is a very small sliver of what's available in life. Sure, it's nice as hell.....but not being preoccupied with such things is kinda' all in how you see it, I would say.

If there's nobody in your life thqat you can have something productive with, the lack of lust might not be such a bad thing. People that are constantly trying to fill their lives with girls\guys all the time seem to be both pretty shallow and preoccupied with....shallow shit. Not to mention the conversations of 'omg i can't believe who i slept with', the std scares, the preggers scares, 'omg they don't like me :agnst:' .....that's all a big dramatic hassle.

You can tell I'm of the persuasion that it should be reserved for someone special. people have different ideas, i'm sure.

regardless, i don't think it sould be anything to be worried about, unless it's just really uh....itching. i guess.


rereding, yeah, i've gone through it. I'm surrounded by stupid girls, who though are smokin hot and give me boners like mad, I wouldn't involve myself with just because of the drama, and the fact that I know i'm not the kind of person who has sex without the presence of a relationship. It has changed in the past when I've found good people, but they don't come along everyday, and thusly now is such a 'dry period'

good luck G

and ya, i didn't read Kosh's postat first because it's long and stuff, but yeah man.....kind of concurred,.

surf*and*smoke

exactly^

i feel like not caring about getting it that much keeps people honest and not faking anything for sex


i feel like in the long run it helps you find the right person anyways because you aren't trying to impress someone to get inside of them.

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Free yer bewbs

bongload

Malnutrition = lowered sex drive... eat yer beans.

The SARS Volta

"beans" translates to e for me.

I suppose that would make me pretty sexually eager.

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Sugar420

yeah, i dont want none either, and it gets pretty old when everyone you know is constantly going on and on about it all the time

Mango

QTF

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The SARS Volta

^quoted truth for, lol

Not that I don't agree. He types the truth on that one. The best people I know aren't so concerned with their libidos.

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Mango

eh, It was my first time using that acronym

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Flipper

Lots of people(guys and girls) go through cycles like yours. The root cause of your problem seems to be a lack of emotional "sex". I assume you don't get turned on by drunk yet hot frat boys telling you how pretty you are and whatever else will hopefully you into bed. Rather it is the charming men who make you feel good about yourself that really turn you on. My question is, these b/fs of yours, were they "the perfect guy" or do you not allow yourself to have sex without justifying it via bf/gf reasoning? I think you should find someone who is willing to satisfy your emotional desires if you want to get out of this no sex rut. The problem is, people our age tend to just want to express themselves physically. I'd suggest looking for someone older and more mature, or looking for a real nice guy(one who can get laid but doesn't as he wants more out of relationships). Good luck and you'll get out of this rut soon. We all get it eventually. There's got to be more to relationships than penetrate, thrust, and repeat.

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jealousy can come faster than a premature ejaculator- GH

tedkennedy

sounds like someone needs to start dating big black men

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matthew munari

Bearsy

Dude!
Even at work?
thats disgusting.

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gosox

sars do you smoke?because i have noticed somewhat of the same thing after i smoke so weed

Captain Cannabis

i pretty much don't enjoy hanging out with some people because they are all about getting laid, talking about who they are going to bang, etc. i haven't had sex in a long time and it doesn't really bother me. i learned a lot about trust when i was young and sex is something very personal that i don't want to do with a stranger. it is not even tempting for me to pick up girls at the bar.

this is how i look at it: if you want to have sex the first time i meet you, why would i even want to date you? i don't know anything about you except the fact that you will have sex with a person you have never met before. and that says a lot about you.

don't sweat it sars

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fuck the monkeys

Geeno

Word

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Breakpoint

:.... walks into room.... Flashes SARS!!!!!! Look... Its LITTLE JIM!!!!...... closes his trenchy and runs out of the room...


Now if that dont get you horny... I dont know what to do..

hehe...

On a serious... note...
Your young.... it will come around again. If your that worried goto a doc.. and see if your body is missing something.

I know after I had my liver transplant.. It took me forever to get my body back to normal. I had no sex drive for 2 yrs.. .and then one day...

BLAMMO!.. cant stop. LOL

-take care...

ME!

Breakpoint

Gasp.... I want to hump a wall after I smoke.. I Dont care what it is... I want it.. LOL ...;

Weed makes me soooo nuts for S. E. X.

WeeeEEeeee

Take care

kamikazi89

anyways, i agree with teh general vibe: sex drive or lack of interest is not abnormal, though it is the reason for spam, and i believe, the force that ultimately propels the interweb forward..

having said all that

one more baby and thats it