Do you listen?

Rubix · 07-13-2010, 10:21 PM

I mean this in a literal way

Do you listen more than speak? Are you one to interrupt and totally switch the subject?

Why are there people who after repeated attempts get their attention to the fact that they are extremely rude, never ever change?

Either they'll try to finish your sentence, speak the millisecond you stop thinking you're totally done talking, or they'll act as if you weren't even speaking and just continue their thought as if if they didn't give ample time to tell me it's my turn to think of a response.

..alll this adult ADD internal noise i think is what it is....

discuss

**~~Dantastic~~** · 07-13-2010, 10:41 PM

Meheh does that constantly in irc.

Yet he doesnt seem to be able to recognize that he does it. Its wierd.

I also know a few other people like that, they are just not there while being talked to.

Rubix · 07-13-2010, 10:53 PM

yea, its pretty frustrating especially when its a good friend

KaptNemo · 07-13-2010, 10:56 PM

My ex's mom was like this anytime Politics were brought up... nothing like not being able to complete a sentence or answer a question without being shouted down after getting two words out...

Rubix · 07-13-2010, 11:02 PM

it's actually quite maddening

Grieves · 07-14-2010, 12:45 AM

It differs based on who I'm talking too...

I have a couple of friends who are always running their mouth not paying attention to the rhythm of the conversation and then when you don't reply they say "awkward" and start babbling about how awkward silence is the worst or something...With these people I end up sitting there thinking about everything else but what they are talking about...

On the other hand I have a couple of friends that most of the time is spent in silence, I do most of the babbling and they chime in whenever necessary...In the group setting I am usually the quiet one..

The balance comes from finding the rhythm and like a good band does allow all voices to be heard at the level in which allows for the conversation to be the most fluid...

professor meheh · 07-14-2010, 03:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Dantastic

Meheh does that constantly in irc.

Yet he doesnt seem to be able to recognize that he does it. Its wierd.

I also know a few other people like that, they are just not there while being talked to.

Are you one to interrupt and totally switch the subject?

Why are there people who after repeated attempts get their attention to the fact that they are extremely rude, never ever change?

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Dan I do agree with parts of this post, not all of it but parts. Anyway you hear about the kid with ADD who LETS RIDE BIKES.

**~~Dantastic~~** · 07-14-2010, 04:15 AM

The joke goes...

"How many add kids does it take to screw in a lightbulb?"

"wanna go ride bikes?"

Mikey · 07-14-2010, 06:13 AM

what?
sorry wasn't listening

The Rev · 07-14-2010, 06:22 AM

There are those who listen, and those who are simply waiting for their turn to talk. I find most people I deal with fall into the latter category. My solution has been to work on my listening skills. I mean, it's not like I would be heard if I talked anyway, right?

The Rev

Mikey · 07-14-2010, 06:29 AM

i dont like to talk or to listen

sometimes i walk around with headphones with nothing on and avoid eye contact so i dont have to talk to people

Sir-Ex · 07-14-2010, 09:56 AM

My ex was like that, she'd be saying something and you'd want to add something, but you had to wait til she finished this whole fucking paragraph of thought that was anything but concisely delivered. Then you'd finally get to say something. But then her response would be the next paragraph she was going to say before, and you find out the only reason you got to say anything was because she had to breathe for a little.

Meh.

fenderbender · 07-14-2010, 02:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Sir-Ex

My ex was like that, she'd be saying something and you'd want to add something, but you had to wait til she finished this whole fucking paragraph of thought that was anything but concisely delivered. Then you'd finally get to say something. But then her response would be the next paragraph she was going to say before, and you find out the only reason you got to say anything was because she had to breathe for a little.

Meh.

then when you try to cut in and say something you get the JEEZ QUIT CUTTIN ME OFF LET ME FINISH...

fucking bitches....

Debaser · 07-14-2010, 02:19 PM

I listen and watch....if I didn't open my mouth from time to time people would probably forget I was there. I'm the guy at a party who is watching everything around him, what people are doing, their body language, listening to little snippets of a dozen different conversations....

Cerpin Taxt · 07-14-2010, 02:47 PM

^ I flip in and out of that state on a regular basis when I'm out. We all really are strange.

07-14-2010, 12:45 AM	#6 (permalink)
Grieves The Worst Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Interstate 8 Posts: 12,082 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 2,563 Thanked 3,114 Times in 1,709 Posts	It differs based on who I'm talking too... I have a couple of friends who are always running their mouth not paying attention to the rhythm of the conversation and then when you don't reply they say "awkward" and start babbling about how awkward silence is the worst or something...With these people I end up sitting there thinking about everything else but what they are talking about... On the other hand I have a couple of friends that most of the time is spent in silence, I do most of the babbling and they chime in whenever necessary...In the group setting I am usually the quiet one.. The balance comes from finding the rhythm and like a good band does allow all voices to be heard at the level in which allows for the conversation to be the most fluid... __________________ "And no matter what they said dollar is not your friend and it's the feelings that are hard to know are the feelings that all come slow No matter what they said dollar is not your friend and these feelings that so hard to know are the feelings that wont let go No don't let go, till you find a home World Unite and I'll love you forever"

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Mikey Seasoned YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: gulf islands bc Posts: 7,443 Thanks: 1,144 Thanked 2,246 Times in 1,475 Posts	what? sorry wasn't listening __________________ RIP Gov

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The Rev Clear Light Join Date: Oct 2002 Location: In my head, somewhere. Posts: 17,864 Thanks: 5,015 Thanked 5,419 Times in 2,864 Posts	There are those who listen, and those who are simply waiting for their turn to talk. I find most people I deal with fall into the latter category. My solution has been to work on my listening skills. I mean, it's not like I would be heard if I talked anyway, right? The Rev __________________ Budforce - My Friend August 29, 1973- May 25, 2012

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Mikey Seasoned YaHookan Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: gulf islands bc Posts: 7,443 Thanks: 1,144 Thanked 2,246 Times in 1,475 Posts	i dont like to talk or to listen sometimes i walk around with headphones with nothing on and avoid eye contact so i dont have to talk to people __________________ RIP Gov

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Sir-Ex Learner Join Date: Jul 2001 Location: Edmonton, Alberta Posts: 11,416 Thanks: 1,726 Thanked 3,816 Times in 2,256 Posts	My ex was like that, she'd be saying something and you'd want to add something, but you had to wait til she finished this whole fucking paragraph of thought that was anything but concisely delivered. Then you'd finally get to say something. But then her response would be the next paragraph she was going to say before, and you find out the only reason you got to say anything was because she had to breathe for a little. Meh. __________________ Smile Ditch the cigs!!!!!!

07-13-2010, 10:41 PM	#2 (permalink)
~~Dantastic~~ Banned Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: A suburb Posts: 1,081 Thanks: 285 Thanked 325 Times in 219 Posts	Meheh does that constantly in irc. Yet he doesnt seem to be able to recognize that he does it. Its wierd. I also know a few other people like that, they are just not there while being talked to.

07-14-2010, 04:15 AM	#8 (permalink)
~~Dantastic~~ Banned Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: A suburb Posts: 1,081 Thanks: 285 Thanked 325 Times in 219 Posts	The joke goes... "How many add kids does it take to screw in a lightbulb?" "wanna go ride bikes?"

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Debaser Baked Fresh Daily Join Date: Nov 1999 Location: Winnipeg Posts: 1,186 Thanks: 32 Thanked 303 Times in 177 Posts	I listen and watch....if I didn't open my mouth from time to time people would probably forget I was there. I'm the guy at a party who is watching everything around him, what people are doing, their body language, listening to little snippets of a dozen different conversations.... __________________ Wouldn't it be great to heal the world with only a song? Message CM47: Let's go pay some hookers to knock our junk around.

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Cerpin Taxt Yahookan Zealot Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Canada Posts: 7,213 Blog Entries: 1 Thanks: 843 Thanked 1,919 Times in 1,011 Posts	^ I flip in and out of that state on a regular basis when I'm out. We all really are strange. __________________ Step Back. Evaluate. Recognize. "All memory is really a form of regurgitation of undigested experience." -Alan Watts

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